Mum guilt with new baby

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I have a 4 day old baby and an almost 2 year old..my 2 year hasn’t actually seemed that jealous so far but I feel so guilty for barely being able to spend time with her and worried about losing that bond with her. I’d forgotten how intense the first few days / weeks of breastfeeding are and it seems my older daughter is spending all her time with dad while I’m with the baby.

I know it’s probably all normal stuff but any tips or stories of it getting easier would be much appreciated!

About to be in the same position so can't offer experience. But, my plan is just to be kind to myself while recovering from birth and adjusting to having 2. Doing your best IS enough, you won't lose the bond with your eldest and, if you do feel it slacken, you sound like a lovely mum so it will recover in time when things are more settled.

Good luck