Anyone else find some people are soooo rude on here

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Wow has anyone else found people can be unbelievably rude on here for absolutely no reason

Fuck off

Well nobody is forcing you to post here op 😂😂

ODFOD.

In all seriousness, yes. People can be spectacularly cruel, nitpicky, obtuse, critical and unnecessary.

But they're also kind, funny, informative, generous, thoughtful, selfless and wise.

I think it depends on peoples mods that day and also it's easy to read things the wrong way.

Depends.

Quite frequently, the OP simply doesn't like what they're hearing, and gets professionally offended and starts declaring everyone rude.
Sort of, I came here to hear how right I was, and now I'm having my arse somewhat handed to me on the proverbial, and refuse to accept many impartial strangers pointing out that in fact, I am most likely wrong.

I like MN for its honesty. I like how it calls people out. It's been helpful on more than one occasion where I've been very blinkered. I'm more annoyed by the posters who start labelling posters who make very good points, just not in support of OP as nasty/rude/bully/bitter.

And then, yes, you do get the very occasional one that's just plain rude.

@ShowOfHands

In all seriousness, yes. People can be spectacularly cruel, nitpicky, obtuse, critical and unnecessary.

But they're also kind, funny, informative, generous, thoughtful, selfless and wise.

I absolutely agree with this. I have been on here for 18 years since dd was born and it has definitely got worse over the years as the site has grown in popularity. There is however many areas where people are lovely and supportive you have to look though!

Yes, it makes me wonder what they're like in real life.

I also think MN has made me think differently as a woman, maybe things I would not have thought too much about and it is absolutely brilliant for this. Many are critical of MN and thats because it gives women a voice. Shame about the bitching at times but if you look beyond that there is so much to learn.

I've been on here on and off for probably a decade now.

I've had people be a dick to me for no reason, and I've also posted shitty things on occasion because I was in a bad mood, nothing really to do with the op themselves.

I think it's pretty representative of life on here. I find it easy to ignore the more knobbish posts though. If I was feeling very fragile I wouldn't be posting in AIBU, but I've definitely had massive support on other topics.

People are mainly honest. A very few can be rude, depending on what idiocy is happening.
Generally, as pp said, it’s usually the ones that don’t like anyone disagreeing with them that starts threads like the this one

NAMALT … not all mumsnetters are like that

They can be. One of the first threads I ever joined in with I got my arse handed to me. I closed the web page. Cried. Told myself it was a nest of vipers. Considered deregging or name changing. Realised they were right. Came back and apologised.
That was about 15 years ago. I've seen, and been on the receiving end of some vile comments since then.
I've also been unnecessarily rude. Usually because I'm already in a bad mood. I nearly always come back and apologise for that.

I've also seen, and received some of the nicest most caring support. I've been reduced to tears by the kindness of strangers on here. I remember once, many years ago, one MNetter going to pick another up in the middle of the night to help her escape DV.

It can be the best and the worst place.

@ABCeasyasdohrayme

Well nobody is forcing you to post here op 😂😂

Lol no I'm fully aware of this I just thought this was a place you could ask people for parenting tips and helpful advice not rude comments. Maybe I'm different and if I didn't have something helpful to say I wouldn't feel the need to comment. Must just be nicer than some hey

Mumsnet is just a snake pit of acid tongue vipers...yet it's weirdly an incredibly supportive place for women 🤷🏽‍♀️ gotta take the rough with the smooth. I've been on here since ds who's now 4 was born. Had my fair share of pile ons but it's also been a huge source of support through some of my darkest times.

@ShowOfHands

Fuck off

yeah. cunts

I was joking with that comment op

Post your threads and just take on board whatever you find useful.

As an old timer used to say on here all the time- we are all JUST WORDS ON A SCREEN 😂

I've had some good advice off here! When my ex h tried to bankrupt me the advice on here at the time saved me.

Yes because us women should just ‘be kind’

must just be nicer than some hey

but not less passive aggressive!

Yes definitely.
Without sounding prejudice it used to be mainly mums talking about parent issues. Now there are a lot younger people without children. So I think a lot of the ruder comments are often from bored teens.

I try not to take stuff directed to me personally. Its just words from strangers who know nothing about me. I think somehow with it being written in black and white it does cut, and I wish people would sometimes think before they type.

...it's the Internet

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

yeah. cunts

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