We let my DS pick one item for his Christmas present every year. He selected stuff for a game character this year, which is OK. When I asked my DH what he thought, he said it didn't matter as long as the game was age-appropriate and he didn't play it for too long. I went on to explain why his DS is interested, and he went straight to his laptop. DH is usually present at bedtime, but he does not read to his son. He is an excellent provider, but he is not attentive enough to other aspects. I organize the open days and bands exams because my DS will be beginning secondary school in a year. DH would also have DS busy himself with social media while preparing things.
It's aggravating and upsetting.