Going on holiday without 10mo

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Looking for a bit of advice here.

I'm bridesmaid at a 4 day destination wedding in November. My DS will be 10 mo then and will be the first time DH and I are away from him for more than one night. I have asked my parents to look after DS as I'd like to be completely available to help the bride during the event.

As the event is getting closer, me and DH are thinking of extending our stay there. With the combination of covid and a newborn, we would like a holiday just ourselves without the baby or a wedding to deal with. Thinking about making it a 10 day holiday instead of 4 days.

GPS are happy to look after DS during this time but I just wanted to ask other people's experience leaving their child for an extended amount of time. I don't want him feeling upset and missing us loads. He doesn't suffer from separation anxiety (which could change in a few months) and he's bottle fed.

Thank you!

@Wagglerock

I'd be worried about the GPs - my 9mo has started crawling and I'm on my feet all the time moving her out of the way of things. She's also teething so is more upset than usual. At 10mo my DS had abandoned sleep and was up 3-6 times a night. There's babies at our messy play group walking at 10mo. I think it's a lot to expect of the GPs.

@Wagglerock I second all of this too 👍🏻 My DS is 10m next week. He’s very close to walking, can stand unaided, climbs anything and everything in sight (can get right up onto the back of our couch 🙄), throws himself around with absolutely no fear 😬 Whenever my mum and dad are round seeing him my poor dads heart is in his mouth 🙈🤣 I don’t think he could handle 24hours, nevermind 10 days! He’s also started waking up every night and being wide awake from 1-3am 😴 and he definitely now notices when we’re not there! DH works away from home for a few weeks at a time and DS asks for him constantly!

I do think there's a middle ground between never leaving your baby and going away for 11 nights.

It’s completely about how you would feel about it, a personal thing.
I wouldn’t have wanted to but then also I wouldn’t have had that much confidence my mum would cope and they didn’t have that much of a strong bond.

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

Mine are 9 and 11 and I couldn't enjoy a holiday while they were stuck at home

The martyrdom is strong with this one. You honestly never have a break away without your kids? Ever?

Apart from my hen do no. Nothing wrong with leaving them for a weekend though I just haven't.

I had to leave mine for 5-6 days when she was 7 months old for a business trip and that was bloody hard. She was with her dad so still had a parent around and was fine but I struggled!

I think with Covid there's an additional risk as you could be away much longer than 10 days.