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What? Overprotective parents!

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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:10

Ok. I'm a cautious parent.

DD has more than two friends. It is her sixteenth birthday in about two weeks.

Over the past few months i have racked my brains as to how to do something special. They worked really hard and their prom got cancelled.

Together we came up with the idea that we would hire two chalets in a very nice caravan park, not TEN miles away from where we live.

It has lovely reviews, no stag or hen parties, CCTV. Lovely restaurant.
I booked in advance and it is costing me 666.00 for three nights. That is not including breakfast and I have packed up four bags full of food and staples, as teenagers would like to cook.

One of the parents' mothers is overprotective, I feel. She has voiced concerns about the teenagers being 'supervised'. Her daughter is sixteen already. As is one of the other girls.

They are all lovely girls and very responsible.

I have reassured the parent concerned, but to be honest they are verging on being very rude about it. I have paid 222 pounds each for each child, without food.

The place is an amazing place, and as I said ten miles from home.

I feel as if the parents attitude is spoling everything. I have even said pop in for the afternoon etc. would love to see you.

The mother concerned is anxious in other ways, has not been vaccinated, which I was shocked about.

To be honest, I've had another message this evening along the lines of parent needing to check out the venue and i feel like cancelling now altogether.

Any other parent I know would be overjoyed that a mother would be prepared to take three sixteen year olds away. It is such a safe place.

How to I get through tomorow without having major row with the parent, I am so cross and they are so ungrateful. 222 pounds each per young person. Honestly?

The chalets are well nigh opposite each other. It is a very quiet site and

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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:12

as I said, only TEN miles from where we live.

Honestly. on the scale of what sixteen year olds do, it's incredible.

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WideOpenSpaces · 23/08/2021 00:15

How far is it from where you live OP?

Nsky · 23/08/2021 00:18

You seem kind and thoughtful

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MintyCedric · 23/08/2021 00:22

So you're staying in one chalet,and basically letting the three teenagers get on with it in the other?

If so the other mum sounds bonkers!

Kite22 · 23/08/2021 00:26

Are you going to be there with them, or have you booked it for the friends to go without an adult ?

How many 16 yr olds will there be ? (You said she has "more than two friends")

Why did you book two chalets, rather than them all staying together ?

In truth, the amount you have decided to splurge on your dd's birthday isn't anything to do with the other parent. That is your choice / decision.

SnarkyBag · 23/08/2021 00:29

If she agreed with it all before you booked then she is being rude and difficult. If you booked it in advance without discussing if parents would be happy then that was a bit premature on your part

SnarkyBag · 23/08/2021 00:32

@WideOpenSpaces

How far is it from where you live OP?
Only TEN I think Wink
54321nought · 23/08/2021 00:33

So you are staying there with them?

beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:42

@MintyCedric

So you're staying in one chalet,and basically letting the three teenagers get on with it in the other?

If so the other mum sounds bonkers!

Yes, the chalets are opposite each other. I checked.
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54321nought · 23/08/2021 00:43

It sounds lovely, but you can't make a parent agree if they are not happy with the arrangement

beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:44

@SnarkyBag

If she agreed with it all before you booked then she is being rude and difficult. If you booked it in advance without discussing if parents would be happy then that was a bit premature on your part
Yes, I discussed. Yes, I booked. With the thing having booked two months ago that I didnt' know if I would have to cancel re covid etc. But with ten days before cancellation no penalties etc. Honestly I'm at my wits end.
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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:45

@54321nought

It sounds lovely, but you can't make a parent agree if they are not happy with the arrangement
Thanks for this. I have never encoutered this before. Really. All the other parents I know would think this was bonkers.

And i am patient and aware of safeguarding etc.

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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:46

@Kite22

Are you going to be there with them, or have you booked it for the friends to go without an adult ?

How many 16 yr olds will there be ? (You said she has "more than two friends")

Why did you book two chalets, rather than them all staying together ?

In truth, the amount you have decided to splurge on your dd's birthday isn't anything to do with the other parent. That is your choice / decision.

No, I booked one chalet for ME. And the other teenagers all together opposite. In one chalet. That's it.
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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:47

Quite literally opposite. less than 100 yards away.

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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:48

@MintyCedric

So you're staying in one chalet,and basically letting the three teenagers get on with it in the other?

If so the other mum sounds bonkers!

Yes, that's it. Site full of old fogies (and I'm allowed to say that as I'm over forty) Really quiet site and safe.
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SnarkyBag · 23/08/2021 00:49

Just go ahead as planned then I suspect the daughter will pile on the pressure to be allowed to attend.

beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:51

@WideOpenSpaces

How far is it from where you live OP?
Ten miles. Only.
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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:53

@SnarkyBag

Just go ahead as planned then I suspect the daughter will pile on the pressure to be allowed to attend.
Thanks. I feel sorry for her actually. Thanks for this comment. I have been so careful. I don't even care about the money anyway. Just that thing about this age group having had a shit year and doing so well in GCSEs .

And the birthday. Honestly, it is not as if I'm asking for them to be hundreds of miles away. It is twenty minutes drive ish.

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MagnoliatheMagnificent · 23/08/2021 00:55

Have they explained what their worries are?

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 23/08/2021 00:55

Why not invite the worried mum to stay with you in the chalet?

beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:56

@Kite22

Are you going to be there with them, or have you booked it for the friends to go without an adult ?

How many 16 yr olds will there be ? (You said she has "more than two friends")

Why did you book two chalets, rather than them all staying together ?

In truth, the amount you have decided to splurge on your dd's birthday isn't anything to do with the other parent. That is your choice / decision.

I booked one chalet for me, opposte as dont' think I could cope with sharing with three sixteen year olds. I''ll be on duty I know but thought that was reasonable. I'll be opposite the chalet. They are such sensible young women, don't drink, smoke etc. For goodness sake.
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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 00:57

@JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn

Why not invite the worried mum to stay with you in the chalet?
I did. She is unvaccinated I found out and worried about going anywhere. Thanks for the suggestion though.
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beigebrownblue · 23/08/2021 01:00

@MagnoliatheMagnificent

Have they explained what their worries are?
No. Just a vague 'supervised'.

Well, I as a former parent governor of a primary school. I feel I know about 'supervised'. I said.

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ManicPixie · 23/08/2021 07:37

If it’s booked then just carry on as planned regardless. Either this mum will fall in line or create a scene which will make her, and her alone, look bad. If your chalet is opposite theirs then they are being supervised as much as can be expected for 16 year-olds.

LarryVeest · 23/08/2021 07:41

Do they definitely understand that you'll be in a chalet nearby? It wasn't very clear from your OP.

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