Negligent nanny

[Eleosto]

I would appreciate some thoughts from some mothers who have nannies.

I was in the park with my son. There was nanny in the park who left her 7 yr old and 4 yr old to play whilst she sat on a bench and was buried in her phone. I found this off but not the first time I have seen this.

The little girl started chatting to us and she was lovely with my son. My son (who is 2) ran off to another part of the park (which is quite big) and so she followed us. I had no problem chatting to her and we decided to pick some daisies and show my son dandylions. It was all very cute and innocent.

This went on for about an hour. Then the nanny obviously realised she could no longer she her charge and eventually found her. She told her off for “scaring” her and then accusingly told me she had never “done that before”, although not sure what she had done.

I do feel that it was negligent of the nanny not to have sight of her for that period of time. I could have been anyone and she wasn’t aware of who she was talking to or where she was going.

The little girl mentioned a few details about herself so I could find a way to let her parents know. My question is, if this was your child would you want to know? I am concerned but am sticking my nose in where it doesn’t belong?

And we take on a nanny without much “fact”!

It’s largely based on feelings!

'And the OP’s feeling are based on her factual experience of what she witnessed!''

Also to be clear I'm not disputing the case in the OP.

It's the case that essentialhummus described that I think is more tricky.

@cordiality

Yeah, I'm with Missy on this one. You should have told that child that she could not come with you, or at least that she should ask her caregiver first. You had no right taking her to another part of the park with you, what were you thinking?! If I was the mother I'd be livid with both you and the nanny.

Yeah I get the impression that you were gunning for the nanny and are hoping to get her in trouble. Some people can only feel good when they're kicking someone down.

'The child was awol from the nanny for an hour.'

I believe we are talking on cross purposes.

I'm not disputing the case in the OP.

It's the other one essentialhummus described where the children are safe but the nanny 'seems' disinterested.

'And we take on a nanny without much “fact”!

It’s largely based on feelings'

Firstly, you should look for as many facts as possible.

Qualifications
Experience
References

Those are all facts.

Secondly, you feeling towards your own nanny is valid. You feelings towards a random stranger in the park are not valid. In that case, you need to stick to observations and facts.