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Taking nephew back to his mum an hour early - WIBU?

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fifteenmillionmerits · 17/07/2021 02:00

DSIS and me had agreed I'd come and take her DC out for the day last weekend. Nephew (DN) is 6 and a half, sweet little boy eager to please, but always bouncing off the walls with energy and can sometimes be very demanding; if he wants something when his parents are busy or unable to provide it, he often starts whinging and sulking. They manage well enough at home, going out is occasionally difficult as DN has a short attention span and runs off/or grabs things from shelves as the mood takes him.

However, me and him get on quite well, and as DSIS wanted to get some work done from home she suggested I take him out (her DP had already gone out to his monthly walking group early that morning). DN had been well behaved recently, so I took him to the local beach, got chips later on and bought him a small chocolate bar on the way back.

On journey home I'd promised my DP I'd get in some bread and milk, but this was derailed by DN - when he found a pair of my old binoculars in my coat pocket and tried to look through the car window at everything going past. At first he found it hilarious and I warned him to stop it in case he started feeling unwell. He ignored me and was sick all down his front less than 2 minutes later. After pulling into the motorway services to clean him up, I told him that we weren't going to stop at shop because he'd been sick. He then spent the next half-hour whining and kicking the back of my seat violently.

I was annoyed because we'd had such a good day out up until the vomiting incident but I'd told him to stop fiddling with the binoculars and he hadn't listened, lesson learned there then...When I knocked on DSIS's door, she was surprised to see us back an hour earlier than intended and asked why but once I explained she just looked weary and took him inside.

WIBU to take back DN early for misbehaving?

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SlothinSpirit · 17/07/2021 12:15

My DC is exhausting. Sweet and enthusiastic but also bounces off the walls with energy all day long. So if I thought I'd have another hour free to work (or just to grab a quiet coffee and some cake without a little gremlin bothering me to share it!), I'd be a bit unenthusiastic to see you return. But I wouldn't blame you (what else could you do with a sick-covered child?) and I'd be annoyed at the seat-kicking and not listening to his aunt.

osprey24 · 17/07/2021 20:15

His father should have taken him to the walking group and brought him home early if the child got too tired.

Scrunchies · 17/07/2021 20:37

I can't believe people are criticising you @fifteenmillionmerits, it was nice of you to do any childcare at all.

If this was the other way around/posted from your sis point of view - "AIBU that my sister brought my 6yo back after he was naughty and covered in sick when i wanted an extra hour' people would be hounding her too!

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BlueSurfer · 17/07/2021 20:40

@WhoDidAndWhy

I would have been weary too. You think you’re doing her a favour but you take the kid out, feed him full of rubbish food, put him in a situation where he’s likely to be car sick (probably reading rather than binoculars) then return him early, covered in vomit, and upset because his day was cut short. Yeah, thanks so much.

This is why I don’t bother accepting ‘favours’ from people and would have either demanded DP miss his walking group or hire professional care. Kind intention but it doesn’t work.

Agreed.
ichundich · 17/07/2021 22:13

@Scrunchies

I can't believe people are criticising you *@fifteenmillionmerits*, it was nice of you to do any childcare at all.

If this was the other way around/posted from your sis point of view - "AIBU that my sister brought my 6yo back after he was naughty and covered in sick when i wanted an extra hour' people would be hounding her too!

Exactly. Ditto to people saying it's "normal" for a 6 year old to scream and kick when they don't get their way.
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