Nanny vs nursery?

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My son is 18 months old and has a language and communication delay (no words) so our paediatrician has recommended starting him in a nursery for socialisation and with speech therapy, which we are doing. The problem is, the more I read about it, the more the evidence shows that having a nanny is better than nursery for under 2s.
We originally had a nanny for him at great expense but she wasn't great and it ended quite badly with her so I gave up my job in January when he was 1 to stay at home and care for him.
I'm so in two kinds about what the best thing is for him. Cost is not an issue for us but I just don't know whether to leave him in the nursery 5 mornings per week or to get a nanny 5 mornings per week. I really don't know what would be better for his development.
Has anyone else been in this situation before?

And sorry, the single words started when he was 2 (though fairly slowly) and then he began to combine them in two and three word sentences at 2.5.

Why did you take him to the paediatrician? You don’t comment about any other concerns and the physical development you describe is normal.

There's a great website called 'Teach me to Talk', run by a lady who is a speech therapist. She has loads of ideas/tips for activities/games etc. to help. There are videos to watch and she has daily email with activities in as well.

Thank you so much, I will check out that video!

Bit of an update, started nursery and think you guys are right a nanny/me is going to be better to give him 1 on 1 attention he basically just cries in the corner and I feel awful so think we are going to take him out!

That's odd. Did he have settling in sessions? I know with Covid you can't enter, but with mine we did 1 hr for one week at nursery and if they felt she was okay they increased to 2. By the time she was ok 4 hrs per session then we progressed to full sessions.

However do what's best for your child. You know way better than anyone else.

Has he had settling in sessions? It’s normal for it to take a few weeks for children to settle into nursery

We have done the settling in session, each day last week we built up a little more so he is now there 9:30-12:30 each morning but since starting his sleep has been absolutely awful, refusing lunchtime nap and waking up multiple times during the night and will only sleep with me in the bed. When I leave a room he cries and won't do anything without me even at home :(

I'm not a paediatrician but it sounds a bit extreme to be diagnosed with a speech delay at 18 months. Loads of my friends' children definitely weren't saying 30 words by that age and as far as I know none of them were delayed.
My 1 year old has just started nursery too, it takes a while to settle in. But the staff shouldn't be leaving a child to cry in a corner...at our nursery they phone you if child isn't settling, they made it clear they wouldn't leave a child to cry and cry.

This sounds a lot like my experience. I didn't like the way they did the settling in sessions, it was all too abrupt and harsh on my son. I also didn't like the staff at the nursery and I pulled him out - he was also left crying alone.

We had the exact same experience of sleep being awful as a result f nursery (it was great before) and my son being anxious.