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Homeschooling after nursery

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Rosz91 · 23/05/2021 07:56

Hi all, I am experiencing a lot of anxiety on homeschooling so thought I would ask for advice on here.
The plan has always been to homeschool, but I’ve been sending my son to nursery just to get him out of the house for a bit of time on a few days. It’s been good for him to socialise with other kids and he enjoys the learning. The problem is I didn’t realise he would enjoy it so much.
We were attending a homeschooling club prior to lockdown and he didn’t gel that well with the kids (maybe because he only saw them for a couple hours once a week), whereas at nursery he’s got a little friendship group going on.
I don’t want to send him to school, I think his education would be better at home, don’t agree with school hours, and I’m sure there will be plenty of other issues that come up because school is entirely different to nursery.
But I’m really nervous now because when he can no longer go to nursery I think he will really miss the friendships and activities he was finding so engaging there.
It’s going to be difficult. Was wondering if anyone has been in the same position?

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Soontobe60 · 23/05/2021 13:53

As he is already 4, do you have a Reception place sorted out for September?

Wanttocryatthecost · 23/05/2021 14:24

Ok, I haven’t read the entire thread, just commenting on what I’ve have read.

Op you say he might not continue with his nursery friendships, why dose this matter as long as he has friends and is enjoying himself. And there is a good chance he will still maintain these friendships in school anyway. We moved overseas at the beginning of the year, today my DD had a video chat with one of her old classmates, she chats to several of them during the week, but this particular class mates parents are very strict on technology so I had to arrange it via his mum. My DD was super excited as he’s her oldest and best friend from nursery, she loves telling me stories about what they use to do. Granted she’s probably making half of it up, but what dose it matter, hey have been friends from day one at nursery and both love each other to bits even though they are no longer in the same country.

Reception class is all about easing children in, it’s usually very relaxed for the children and play led learning still.

I don’t like or agree with the UK school system, but school is not just about reading, writing and maths. I would rather my DCs go to school, learn social skills, build friendships, learn structure and routine than isolate them at home because I don’t agree with the entire school system. There are also lots of other advantages, after school clubs, ones my DCs have attended are, tennis, dodgeball, mindfulness, yoga, first aid, football, computer science.... they do group activities, plays, choir, music, they have movie nights, discos, Easter bingo, family quiz nights. They hold an annual science competition for all students, and other run a activities and competitions through out the year, reading, writing, drawing.... the school competes in an annual swimathon for charity each year, they also do charity walks.

Through school I enrolled my DDs into rainbows and brownies, something I was always dead against but their friends did it so I gave it a go, my DDs love it, they have done so much more than they would have if I hadn’t have signed them up.

Other things my DCs have done in primary school, visited various religious buildings, to learn about different faiths and cultures. Had outside organisations in to run glow in the dark sports events as some fun, this was an idea the school got after some students attended a county wide glow in the dark tournament amounts other primary schools throughout the county. Visited various locations, historical, agricultural, scientific. They also regularly bring home veg they have grown on the school allotments themselves. And so much more.

I am very relaxed with my DCs, I don’t force them to do homework with the exception of spellings once a week. I have made my feelings clear I don’t agree with STATs and the first sign if my DCs feeling stressed I’m pulling them out of it and they will not be doing them.

I know a lot of these things can be achieved with home schooling, but I don’t believe the level of social interaction can be achieved, especially for a child who obviously likes being around other children.

Your DS has already been introduced to the social aspect of school, via nursery, do you really want to take that away from him now?

sar302 · 23/05/2021 14:43

My DH and all his siblings were home schooled. It's not something I want for my child, but they did get a lot of great benefits from it. It is personal choice.

That being said, when you home school, you are responsible for making sure he gets to mix with groups of peers, and has a chance to develop friendships, so you would benefit from finding other home schooling parents or groups in your local area. DH lived quite rurally, so a number of people home schooled and there was therefore lots going on.

One of the major benefits of school is the ready made group of peers, but yes this does come with disruptive behaviour etc. It is harder to find children to mix with, when most his age will be in school.

remember that it is just one choice and not something you have to choose to do forever if it turns out it doesn't suit you or your child. Maybe contact the local authority if you haven't already done so, and see what options there are for home schoolers in your area.

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RampantIvy · 23/05/2021 18:16

I take my hat off to successful home schoolers. The input and dedication from the parents has to be huge to enable the child(ren) to benefit.

I'm far too lazy and unskilled to homeschool. I prefer to work and earn money. DD and I needed to spend some time apart. I also found that the level of authority from a teacher was much higher than the level of authority from me. For example: DD started pronouncing H as haitch. I told her it was aitch. She said "but the teacher says haitch". I said "well the teacher is wrong". She didn't believe me because I am only her mum, not the teacher.

An acquaintance of mine decided to home school because she didn't like getting up early enough to take her DC to school. Mutual friends started saying that her DC were way behind other children the same age. The acquaintance decided to send them to school, whereupon the teachers told her that three of the children were dyslexic. She had had no idea.

Rave2thegrave · 24/05/2021 23:32

@RampantIvy

I take my hat off to successful home schoolers. The input and dedication from the parents has to be huge to enable the child(ren) to benefit.

I'm far too lazy and unskilled to homeschool. I prefer to work and earn money. DD and I needed to spend some time apart. I also found that the level of authority from a teacher was much higher than the level of authority from me. For example: DD started pronouncing H as haitch. I told her it was aitch. She said "but the teacher says haitch". I said "well the teacher is wrong". She didn't believe me because I am only her mum, not the teacher.

An acquaintance of mine decided to home school because she didn't like getting up early enough to take her DC to school. Mutual friends started saying that her DC were way behind other children the same age. The acquaintance decided to send them to school, whereupon the teachers told her that three of the children were dyslexic. She had had no idea.

Quite often school doesnt recognise sen anyway
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