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I dont want baby to sleep in cot!

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Mn345678 · 11/05/2021 00:33

Hey

Am I weird? Im a first time mum, I have a lockdown baby and so its pretty much been just us since she was born.

We use a next to me and now that shes 6 months she should be moving into her cot.

I just love the next to me so much that I dont want to move her! I love waking up and seeing her cute little face.. or touching her hand in-between sleep and knowing shes there right beside me.

I feel like If i now get a cot even though it’ll be in the room i will no longer see her every time i open my eyes to look or touch her hand.

Has anyone else felt the same or is this being dramatic? Just wanna sleep with her forever :))

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Dontknowowt · 11/05/2021 00:38

It's normal - think about how mummy animals sleep with their babies!!

My third child is nearly one and I've bedshared with all three of mine Smile

Barearseloverofthigh · 11/05/2021 00:54

Not at all weird. It's totally normal for us to want to sleep next to our children. Co sleeping with our babies is as old as the hills. Follow your instincts momma bear and you'll grow a lovely well balanced adult!

alexdgr8 · 11/05/2021 01:20

what does your husband think about it.

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DramaAlpaca · 11/05/2021 01:22

If you are happy with your sleeping arrangements, carry on.

5lilducks · 11/05/2021 01:34

I was the same . Was gutted when we had to put the next to me away. I too loved waking up and seeing her little face and holding her little hand while she sleeps. She's 3 now and we bedshare. Still love it.

Ollinisca · 11/05/2021 02:28

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CoalCraft · 11/05/2021 04:14

Just shows we're all different! None of us got any sleep while DD was in the bedside crib. She would half wake and make a little noise, which would half wake me up, then I'd toss and turn over, which would fully wake her up... Ugh. Moving her to the nursery has made such a difference to both the amount of sleep and quality of sleep she gets. It's shaved an hour off her daytime napping (she contact naps whenever she fancies).

But it's all about what works for you! If you and your baby and your partner, if around, are all happy with the current arrangement, don't change!

Fruityfriday · 11/05/2021 04:20

My baby is 9 now has always slept with me. Never liked his own cot or bed.

Crikeycroc · 11/05/2021 04:40

I took the side off the cot and had it pulled up next to my bed for a couple of months like a giant bedside cot. I now sleep in the nursery on a single bed. If we had the space, I would actually buy a double bed with a firm mattress and co-sleep with DD after the first nighttime wake up. If I have another child (and a bigger house!) this is what I intend to do next time. Human infants are supposed to be close to their mothers.

Fitforforty · 11/05/2021 05:03

You need to move on from the next to me, its not safe now. Either sidecar the for to your bed or go for a floor bed. Neither of my children liked a cot. To be fair with the youngest I didn’t even really try but then like her sister she wouldn’t even tolerate the next to me.

HelpfulBelle · 11/05/2021 05:13

Neither of mine slept in a cot. DS2 is 4 and snoozing next to me as I type.

andivfmakes3 · 11/05/2021 05:19

@DramaAlpaca

If you are happy with your sleeping arrangements, carry on.
It isn't safe to use the next to me cribs after 6 months/once baby can roll over
StoppinBy · 11/05/2021 05:25

Our cot was close enough that I could reach out and touch my babies through the bars. They moved out of our room when they were 3..... loved having them there to wake up to.

Sally2791 · 11/05/2021 05:45

Put the cot right next to the bed. It’s natural to want to be close

MishMashMummy · 11/05/2021 06:13

You don’t have to move her! Lots of parents keep their babies with them for longer, it’s absolutely fine.

I can’t wait to move mine into his own room because he’s such a noisy sleeper, but I will still miss him! If he would sleep more quietly I’d definitely keep him with me for longer.

spaceghetto · 11/05/2021 06:15

It's not weird, I felt exactly the same. It's hard to make the transition though when they're older. My nearly 3 yo is currently lying on my head!

edgeware · 11/05/2021 06:29

You don’t have to! My second DS is 6 months too and sleeps in with me, I don’t want to move them. Trust me, they grow up in a flash!

Lemonelderflower · 11/05/2021 06:35

I’m going to be facing the same dilemma soon.

Ds is nearly 5 months and has always slept in the next to me.

I feel even in another month he’s very young to be on his own. But I’ve read that it’s easier to move them at this age than when they are a bit older?

burritofan · 11/05/2021 06:48

Sidecar the cot! DD slept next to me til she was one, then went into her own room in the hopes she would sleep better. (Didn’t work.) Co-slept half the night til 18 months. Now 2.5, she still comes in with us sometimes, or we nap together. It’s lovely.

I still crawled into my mum’s bed in the early hours, given half the chance, well into my 40s Grin

AlmostSummer21 · 11/05/2021 06:51

If she can pull herself up or exceeds the manufacturers safety weight then you need to move her out of it. Whether that's into a cot or your bed is up to you just read up on co sleeping safely if you're going to do that.

It's lovely until they want to sleep across the bed and get sharp elbows and kicky legs!

Elzibells · 11/05/2021 07:03

I felt exactly the same when we moved DD in to the cot from the moses basket by our bed. Actual gut wrenching heartache! You can still keep her close, it is a totally natural thing to want and do. DD is still in our room, often bed at 12mths and now thinking of moving her in to her own room (purely because we are noisy and it disturbs her) but battling the same feelings. Didn't realise being a mama would be so bittersweet!

It hurts but I think to myself be grateful - being so aware of the transience of this journey, just means you are consciously and constantly treasuring these moments rather than it all just passing you by in a busy blur! 💗

Verbena87 · 11/05/2021 07:12

We had a cot that was stable with a side off, and raised it on blocks so our mattresses were level, then cable-tied it to our bed frame to create one big sleep surface. As others have said, it’s normal for both of you to want to be close.

Jenala · 11/05/2021 07:15

It's normal OP, if you don't want to put her in a cot yet then find another way. I coslept with my oldest til he was about 2yrs9m when he and his young brother moved into their bedroom together. They still got in bed with us every night for a long time afterwards Smile not for everyone but I liked it.

ShadierThanaPalmTree · 11/05/2021 07:21

My daughter is on a cot, but the cot is pulled right next to bed so that I can hold her hand through the bars and see her if i wake during the night. I always said when she was 6 months she was moving into her own room. She turns 8 months this week and I still haven't moved her even though her own bedroom is ready for her 😂😂 my DP keeps reminding me that I said we would put her in her own room at 6 months. It is what it is 😅

Tomatobear · 11/05/2021 07:25

Totally natural! We moved our 8 month old into a cot from cosleeping this weekend. I miss him so much already. I miss being batted-in-the-face awake in the morning. I want him back Grin

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