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Who’s in the wrong?

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 12:31

My 4yo boy’s hair has grown longer because we couldn’t go to hairdressers due to lockdown and his hair is just reaching the top of his shoulders at the back of his neck, I decided I might leave it because it looks so lovely on him and has started to curl at the back.

My family kept pressuring me to get it cut on April 12th when the hairdressers reopen but I said I like it like this so I think I’m going to leave it. They weren’t impressed.
I went to work the next day, and my sister had text me to say she’d gone round to my dad’s (at his request, who was looking after him) and cut my son’s hair off.

I’m absolutely devastated. But they all think it’s a good thing.

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ASomers · 28/03/2021 12:40

Aw poor you! That sounds really mean! What's wrong with a boy having long hair? That's your choice and as long as your son is happy with it, it's none of anyone else's business.

ReassureMee · 28/03/2021 12:42

Totally uncalled for! You have a right to be bloody pissed off you didn’t give her permission!

AdaFuckingShelby · 28/03/2021 12:42

That's definitely a step too far.

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BluebellsGreenbells · 28/03/2021 12:42

I’d tel them they had no right to cut your sons hair. Ever. Not their child not their decision.

miltonj · 28/03/2021 12:43

I would be so, so angry!!

HmmmmmmInteresting · 28/03/2021 12:43

Wow! Really out of order!

burritofan · 28/03/2021 12:45

Absolutely unacceptable. What else are they going to do without your permission? It’s not up to them at all. I wouldn’t use them for childcare again or leave him with them unsupervised.

FelicityPike · 28/03/2021 12:47

Personally I don’t like wee boys with long hair, I just don’t BUT your sister has completely overstepped the mark!!
It’s actually assault and you could technically have her charged with this.
I would be so fucking raging at her and the rest of my family who can’t see that this is wrong that I would genuinely be considering my relationships with them.

skeggycaggy · 28/03/2021 12:48

What did your son want?

itsgettingwierd · 28/03/2021 12:49

I'd be livid too.

No one had the right to do something to your child's appearance without your permission - especially after you've clearly expressed you aren't doing it.

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 12:52

Thanks for your responses I’m so glad I’m not the only one who would be angry.
I got told “it’s not about what I want”
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ALargeGlassofMalbecPlease · 28/03/2021 12:54

I’m absolutely devastated. But they all think it’s a good thing.

Who cares what they think? He's your son, your responsibility and you are the one bringing him up. They have a right to express their opinions but that's it. Out of order!

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 12:56

@ALargeGlassofMalbecPlease I was at work and they took the opportunity and cut his hair off. I’m honestly so gutted

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whatswithtodaytoday · 28/03/2021 12:57

Utter rubbish, I bet they wouldn't do the same to a girl.

My two year old's hair is shoulder length and curly and needs cutting as it gets in his eyes, but I intend to ask them to take off as little as possible as I love it long.

userintgerain · 28/03/2021 12:57

What does your son think? At 4 my son was telling me how he wanted his hair...

Ironmanrocks · 28/03/2021 12:59

Grow it again. I'm loving my boys lockdown hair. He's older but it looks so cool on him.

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 13:00

@userintgerain he brushed his fringe out of his face but it literally was not even long enough to tie up or go behind his ear so it was just not necessary. My son never really talks about his hair so clearly didn’t bother him x

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 13:00

@Ironmanrocks I want to; but this is gonna happen again is my worry 😢

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Laulauwim · 28/03/2021 13:01

His hair his choice. I would be furious if that did it against his will. What did he want?

RuthW · 28/03/2021 13:02

Welk that would be the last time they were left alone with any of my children until the children were 14.

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 13:07

@RuthW I have no other options due to lockdown, and they know it. Every time I try and bubble with someone else they tell me I have to leave it 2 weeks in between switching and then I can’t because I have to work. I really don’t like how they treat me.

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Ironmanrocks · 28/03/2021 15:35

Teach your child to say 'No thanks Aunty Snippy Scissors. I like my hair.' then get him to run away holding his head shouting 'SWEENEY TODD SWEENEY TODD!'

That is a joke obviously. But it must be so hard. I hate other people sticking their noses into what is clearly NOT their business.

UnsolicitedDickPic · 28/03/2021 15:37

[quote MamaOl93]@RuthW I have no other options due to lockdown, and they know it. Every time I try and bubble with someone else they tell me I have to leave it 2 weeks in between switching and then I can’t because I have to work. I really don’t like how they treat me.[/quote]
I'm not sure that's true, is it? The waiting two week?

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 16:36

@Ironmanrocks Yeah it’s very difficult. And moreover if I argue back against them, then my dad says “well we aren’t looking after him then” so I can’t work. He usually does still look after him, but the point is I walk on eggshells 😢

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MamaOl93 · 28/03/2021 16:36

@UnsolicitedDickPic I think it is true because of possible infection due to Covid, but even so I feel trapped x

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