Would you call doctor?

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Baby is 13 weeks old.

Combined fed. Now on comfort milk and gaviscon before every BF.

This was due to silent reflux, colic type pain from about 1 week.

She no longer seems in pain. Nappies fine, not thrashing about, not holding knees up, is occasionally sick but more sicky burp than sick sick. Sleeps 10pm to 4am. Naps in pram.

BUT she cries all the god damn day. I'm actually beginning to feel unwell with it. If she is awake, she is crying.

I've read about purple crying, which should peak 12 weeks, we are getting worse by the day.

Nothing works. Holding, rocking, swing, pram, bouncer, white noise, lying down, lying on front, nothing. So every awake window is hysterical yelling until the next nap.

I also have a two year old. I'm crying myself writing this. She is so bloody miserable.

I don't know what else to do. There's no enjoyment left. It's just screaming.

I wondered if I should speak to doctor again and look back at feeding. We were about to move to ranitidine but stopped as she is feeding well now and sleeping ok.

Thank you for any help.

I think calling the doctor or health visitor would be a good idea. It can't be nice for you or your baby crying all the time.

Health visitor beyond useless. Has not even seen baby once. Has phoned once since she was born. Really upsetting.

Gp was good last time but I just don't know anymore.

Go back to gp . My daughter had cmpa and silent reflux and I regret not being firmer with the gps I saw. It wasn't until she was 10 months old that a gp finally gave my dd a medicine that actually worked for her silent reflux and then she was able to sleep in longer spurts than 20mins! I remember telling a gp how my dd screamed all day and night and he said "have you tried showing her different toys?". Still gives me the rage remembering that appt.

Oh lovely you have my absolute sympathy my DS was the same, he cried almost solidly for months. Absolutely call and please keep calling as in all honesty don't expect much sympathy from anyone. We got lots of pitying looks and comments like well babies cry and you're a first time mum so you're over reacting.

Turns out he had cmpa and reflux. We had to be so forceful in trying to get help and ot took months until someone listened.

If HV is useless call the GP. Could babies Dad or anyone in your support bubble give you a break and take baby out for a bit, listening to constant crying is sole destroying.

Everyone I know who’s had a non stop crying baby turned out to have a diary allergy. Could you totally cut this form your diet and get prescribed a dairy free formula- needs about 2-3 weeks of totally cutting out before you know if it’s the dairy.

Worth a shot ?

Oh and a tip from my experience as sexist as it sounds get your husband to discuss it if possible. People seemed to take him much more seriously than when it was me trying to explain. More than once someone suggested I has postnatal depression and it was because I was finding life with a baby difficult as apposed to there being something wrong with DS.

OP have you tried wearing baby in a sling? It was the only thing that stopped my DD crying. Absolutely do talk to the GP.

God now I'm crying hysterically. Thank you all for listening.

I don't have anyone. Dh is a farmer. This season means out 5am, lucky if in midnight. His family all same, mine bubbled with my sister.

Sorry I missed the sling, still cries in that.

I feel like my brain is not working anymore I'm just sitting on the edge of tears constantly. My poor, poor toddler.

Cmpa was dismissed because she does sleep reasonably well. It's just if she's awake she's roaring. I think she hates me.

She doesn't cry in the bath. Or the pram. But, like if you take yesterday, I walked five miles. I'm already exhausted and I have a two year old in tow, that's a huge walk for her.

Cmpa was dismissed because she does sleep reasonably well. It's just if she's awake she's roaring. I think she hates me.

Cmpa was initially dismissed for us multiple times as he didn't have a rash. She doesn't hate you but just reading your posts made me remember being there and feeling exactly the same. Logically I knew he didn't hate me but I felt such a failure because nothing I did ever stopped making him cry.

I just wanted you to know you're absolutely not alone and it's nothing you've done or not done. I really hope you can convince someone to listen.

Colic. Should start evening off by 6 months. Get a baby swing, sleep whenever you can including during the day and hunker down for the next few weeks

It's not normal for a baby to cry that much.

I'm not saying that to be mean, I just think you need to keep this fact in mind when you're seeking help. Don't let them fob you off. You need to get to the bottom of it for your own sanity, as well as for your baby.

Colic is one possible reason I should add. Def speak to your doctor and keep speaking until they listen if you suspect anything other than colic! Don’t ever dismiss your own concerns

You know this isnt right. Call the GP.
Your daughter is trying to tell you something - yes, quite possibly CMPA - and you need support in finding out what the issue is.
Make a nuisance of yourself with the surgery. It's the only way you will be listened too - it took a trip to A&E with a swollen face to get attention for my unhappy baby.

Well we have been treating it as colic, she hates the swing. She doesn't seem in pain, in terms of the cry. More furious. Before we started the gaviscon and comfort milk I would have said it was a pain cry, now she just seems to hate life.

I've called and asked for a call back (current system).

I do feel like a pain, the receptionist called me by my first name last time I called and gave only baby name. Called about every day those first few weeks. And she maybe was more settled, but this last week had broken me.

Yes, call the GP.

You poor thing, you must be shattered. Please get help, but in the meantime, hold on to the fact that this stage will pass.

You're not a pain. You're doing the right thing.

Can I ask though, if it was cmpa would it not be all the time? I feel like a fraud because I do get six hours sleep from her at night and she does sleep well if I'm walking the pram.

You’re not being a pain. My gp receptionist recognised my voice with my first one and I’m sure I’d only phoned about jabs, six week checkup, conjunctivitis and a manky finger. You have a lot of contact with a GP to begin with anyway.

Please get help, it might be fixable fairly easily. You need to explain that they are crying All the time.

I do feel like a pain

Honestly please don't think you're a pain, no one else will advocate for her. I often found it helped me rationalise it better if I imagined them being in charge of DS day in day out and telling myself they too would have cracked and rang anyone and everyone until they got the help baby needed.

for you
This organisation is wonderful and can support you( not sure how it is working at the moment) but maybe worth a call

https://www.home-start.org.uk/

Oh OP, I remember those days and I feel for you Give your GP a call, it can't do any harm. The 'tiger in the tree' hold was a gamechanger for me when DD had colic

Sounds like she’s still in pain from the reflux, I’d definitely go back to the GP. I rang my GP about 20 times a week at one point because they wouldn’t listen to me, I didn’t care, I just wanted help for my baby. Don’t feel like a pain, you know when something isn’t right and considering this isn’t your first baby they should be more inclined to listen!