Nanny sensationally quit

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Wondering how you would handle this, our nanny we have had for 7 months has just quit out of the blue giving 2 weeks notice (in the contract we have with her, which she drafted, it says she needs to give 8 weeks notice). In total shock and feeling really let down. She said it's a family matter.

Well, don’t lump me in with them thank you I said no such thing, and fully support someone’s decision to have a nanny- I am one.

Sensationally quit??? What did she do? Burst into the living room and scream i quit bitch. You mean shes quit. #dramaqueen

“Why do some people pretend not to know what a housekeeper is? Are those people just jealous/Marxist? If not, use a dictionary - or Google if dictionaries are passe; you do not know what they are either or you think they are too middle class.”

Now I am both jealous and a Marxist of sorts but I suspect most people on this thread are just amused that housekeepers are still around in a largely post-servant world. It does rather imply a country pile

Move on fast. Look for another, learn from this. 8 weeks notice is LONG especially if one of you is utterly fed up. Never try to force an unhappy nanny to stay. That’s the last person you want in your place looking after your most important treasures. If you have got on really well and she has genuine reason to leave not associated with your family and if you really can’t find a replacement in the time or live without until you do see if she is prepared to hang on a bit longer. Be grateful if it was a good first nanny experience. I’ve had the full range, the utterly fabulous ones still in contact years after to the appalling who stole masses of our valuables, sat my DC down to watch Naked Attraction aged 11 and one who injured my 18m old. Then again nurseries not guaranteed safe either. No choice is easy especially if you need to work.

So what are you going to do? Sue her?

I thought you meant she'd abseiled out of her bedroom window and eloped with your husband and am now crushingly disappointed to find she's just walked out of a job she doesn't like.

Normally if you want to give notice earlier than in your contract you ask. However she could be sick, her mother just died or whatever. The reality is suing for breach of contract etc is not worth it and just don’t go there. I once had a teacher ask to leave and resign as she wasn’t coping, I reassured her she go off sick etc with full pay etc but she just wanted to leave. I pointed out she could have 6 months full pay and she said no she wanted to go. She left and had a termination date of the following month but effectively resigned with immediate effect. She didn’t come back and I wished her well. She applied for a new month and we have a good reference and didn’t mention the short resignation notice. Wish her the best and advertise for someone else ask for feedback - she may have a network etc of colleagues etc

Feeling deflated. Was expecting something interesting... 😒

Try talking to her.. maybe that’s why she’s leaving

Unless she told you she's leaving, in sky writing or via mariachi band, there is no sensational anywhere in this. Genuinely gutted - damn you and your boring resignation op 😂

OP have you had a frank conversation with the nanny? I’m afraid I am one that sensationally quit but didn’t work notice period due to a family matter (my father had a severe accident leaving him brain damaged and needed 24/7 care. We then shortly moved him abroad to places he remembers so he can enjoy the rest of his life as much as possible) unfortunately it did mean I didn’t even work a days notice. The day he came out of hospital I realised it wouldn’t be okay to leave him alone and never went back, quit by email too and hate myself for it! The family were lovely and really tried to work around it but sometimes it’s not possible. I’m sure they thought it was just an excuse also!

Anyway I digress, depending on the family matter it may be possible to come to some arrangement? Of course there is the chance it’s just an excuse in which case it would be good to get some feedback ready for your next nanny.

On a positive there are huge numbers of fantastic nannies looking for work at the moment so I don’t think you will struggle to replace her 😊

I worked as an au pair abroad when I was in my early 20s. The children were fine although a bit spoilt and entitled but the parents were bloody awful. The father never spoke to me. He treated me as though I did not exist. The mother gave me a measly amount of miscellaneous money each week to spend on gas money and pizza if the children wanted a delivery etc. It was never enough to cover everything and when I asked her for more she would look at me as though I was trying to scam her by pocketing a few dollars. If I hadn't asked I would have had to take it out of my own (very poor) wages.
Bear in mind these were two professional, wealthy people. Their house was huge, swimming pool, cleaners, private tutors to top up schooling etc.

I sensationally left one day after telling the woman what I thought of her and left the house and flew home.

So there you go, dalecooper ‘sensationally’ quit, given her resentment for her well heeled employers. Difference is while you’re still harbouring resentment (presumably many years later) they’ve probably forgotten your name.

Er, don't be a dick DailyCandy. We are sharing au pair stores. No excuse for an employer to be rude to a 21 year old girl. Makes no odds if they remember me or not, just an example of awful employers. Why would I resent them their wealth? What I resented was their awful manners and treatment and I would never want my daughters to be in a position like that.

I hope you don't employ anyone because you sound like a bitch.

Gosh! Its not as it theres a pandemic or anything, and a member of HER family might be ill and need her?! (One of billions of reasons!)

I mean, you work to live, not live to work...and if my family needed me then I would be there for them no questions asked. What is sensational about this, the fact you're not as important as her family? Its hard, and I hope you find someone suitable, but do remember you ain't the be all n end all!

Well this threads gone down like a lead balloon 😂😂😂

I had some great au pairs, mother's helps and nannies over the years but there were a few that stood out for being terrible. One quit by posting a note through the door, giving me approximately ten hours to replace her. Another had the cheek to turn up at my work (wearing a top of mine that had been in the clean laundry basket). This drop was to announce that she'd been offered an office job, starting the following Monday (it was Wednesday the week before). When I expressed my displeasure at having less than a week to find a replacement, she told me I was ungrateful seeing as she had stepped in to help me out as a friend. All you can do is suck it up, OP.

Oops, drop in". Remembered a Swiss au pair who stole my prescription slimming pills on her way out!

Oh damn, I thought it would be something involving fire or perhaps poo (eg, climbed up on the table and pooed "I quit", right in front of you).

So what? Hire a new nanny.

@Mollymalone123

We had a housekeeper when I was young. My DM always worked full time unless she was having a baby ( she had 5) and DF worked away. We weren’t rolling in money but had a lovely house and big garden. The housekeeper literally‘kept house’ as in cooked for us and did some light housework. I can remember she taught me how to make bubbles with washing up liquid 😂 happy days- and she had the best name ever Mrs Angel ❤️

Surely it's time for a daytime serialisation of your childhood where we find out after she saves little Dougie's life that she's a REAL angel??

@Icanseegreenshoots

My nanny sensationally quit after I asked her if she had seen my diamond ring anywhere, even though it was a well intended question just asking if she had seen it, she thought I was accusing her of stealing and stormed out!

The ring turned up three weeks later, but I never saw her again! She left the country shortly after to work overseas, I always wondered whether working for us had sent her packing

Does that count?

This is the sort of thing I came onto this thread for.

I want a house keeper. I have lots of babies. Can I get a volunteer one?

This post has dredged up some "sensational" memories about quitting nannies for me . I had a fantastic girl work for me for the best part of a year. She did far more than I ever asked of her, so I let her long term bf stay over at weekends, paid her a bit extra now and then and let her have extra time off NQA ...but alack and alas, she needed to move on. On her last night with us, I took her out for a few drinkies. After three, she was pretty pissed. Drunkenly related plotting to seduce DH...she had about six different scenarios, one involving an unlocked bathroom door; another, a tiny towel suddenly dropped. I didn't stay in contact....!

dalecooper don't call me a bitch. I can see I was right about you.