So, sadly last night my baby girl slipped off my knee when I was putting her cream on and into the floor (hitting her back,neck and head). Thankfully it’s a soft and thick carpet and the fall wouldn’t have been more than 1.5ft. I didn’t even hear her fall to the ground and by the time I felt her slip, it was too late. 3 seconds later and this would never have happened.
I still don’t know how it happened, she’s almost 7 months old and nothing like this has ever happened. I’m so paranoid about everything.
I think because I had put too much cream on one hand (it just came shooting out) and she was sitting on my knee, I then held her shoulder eith the hand full of cream (stupid I know) and turned to grab the bottle from behind me (planning to scrape the cream onto the lid and hugging her as I did it and switching between hands and always keeping a tight grip usually) but she was suddenly in the floor. She had slipped out of my hand. I was so stupid and I can’t believe I did it. My partner had been working away during the week, mon - fri for the last 10 weeks and I had been doing everything on my own as I can’t get any help with covid. I have been lucky to get 1.5 or 2 hours a night. I thought I was doing so well until now.
As soon as it happened I screamed so she started to cry. She seemed fine right after but I panicked and called emergency services. Sadly, I just felt completely judged the whole time. They never once said, don’t worry this happens or it’s ok. They said they usually call social services for this kind of thing for under 1s but won’t this time. That really shocked me.
Every nurse and doctor asked me if social services were involved. I told them at one point to phone social services and I don’t mind them coming. I think they may have been tested my reaction so no idea if it’s policy. I don’t understand as she had no marks or bruising or cuts, nails were clean and short, she was clean, can tell she’s well fed, clean clothes, being loud and smiling away and so on. I know I’m her mother but you can tell when a child isn’t looked after. I would die for my child so this absolutely destroyed me. The last doctor I saw was very nice to me I must say later on, I think she thought I was a bit too cautious.
Thankfully my dd was absolutely fine, didn’t even have a red mark so I may have been over the top but I just wanted to make sure she was ok.
I just can’t get passed the guilt, I feel so horrible. Like she would be better off without me. I was brought up by an abusive alcoholic who I was constantly given back to by the care system over my dad, who was drinking at the time (he did quit thankfully). No daughter should ever have to say that she is lucky that her mother died when she did. I never want my daughter to ever even think that. I want her to be proud of me and I let her down. I feel scared to even hold her and keep reliving that moment like
I’m cursed.
I’m sorry for the long speech. Please say I’m not the only one?