My boyfriend loves to make our baby jump

[Nonymous1]

He finds it absolutely hilarious to make our 8 month olds baby jump. He does it in a playful way, out of nowhere he'll shout "boop" super loud and we'll both jump out of our skin. DS does find it funny sometimes, but not every time and he's jumped so much he's cried before. If it was once in a while I probably wouldn't mind but he does it like every day and I'm starting to worry about the long term affects it could have on DS.
He has just now promised to stop doing it, but I'm so mad. DS will be drifting off to sleep and he'll make him jump. I hate it and he finds it so entertaining. Is he just being a man? Is this a dad thing? Or am I just worrying too much 🙈

It isn't a man or a dad thing. You need to protect your baby. Do you live with your boyfriend?

No it's not a Dad thing....he's a dick. Sorry

It’s cruel and immature. Tell him to grow up.

He sounds like an absolute tool. Sorry. Not normal behaviour. If he wants to make his child laugh or entertain him he needs to find better ways.

Why would you scare your child like that? Especially when they were being put down to sleep?

Hope he listens.

That’s a horrible thing to do

its cruel and a bit sick that he would get enjoyment out of doing that to a baby. have serious words and if he does it again you protect your child and remove your idiot bf from the house . what else is he going to get a kick out of scaring him with??

That's not nice at all.

Do you think he needs ways to connect eg could he sit and play with blocks with him or something instead?
Or does he have a mean sense of humour in other ways?

Wow, that is seriously mean. And to do it when he’s drifting off to sleep? That’s so cruel.

It's vile and you are justified in worrying about the long term effects.

I expect he loves practical jokes as well, laughing at other people’s distress, the fact he enjoys doing this to an 8 month old is horrible, he is a shit.

It’s fine if it’s in a peekaboo way but only a complete idiot would do it to a drifting to sleep baby wtf!!!

That is completely bizarre to do it to a baby trying to sleep! My first DC LOVED being made to jump so we would often do it they would laugh hysterically after. We never would have done it if they cried or when they were already tired/Teething/bad mood etc. What’s his response when the baby cries? Let’s hope he stops how you’ve put your foot down.

If you think he's generally not a bad person and is just being a bit unthinking OP you should show him the responses to this. Might shock him into realising what he's doing is incredibly stupid and cruel.

If you don't think that'll work I'd seriously consider LTB. And I don't say that lightly.

That’s shitty behaviour. Fine if dc finds it funny. But there’s a time and a place. And if he’s repeatedly waking the baby as their just dozing off I’d be absolutely furious.

Wait until he is drifting off and shout as loud as you can. Ask him how he likes it.

Just childish and immature behaviour basically , some quick loud sounds can sometimes distress a baby. I knew some bloke once,who would try and make the family dog yap a bit, to see if it would make the baby laugh, but it made the baby cry all the time.

I did this once (not while going to sleep) and my baby cried, I felt so guilty and never did it again.

Wtf?! Not a dad / man thing. I'd be tempted to do it on him at 5am or when he's drifting off to sleep. See how funny it is then.

DS does find it funny sometimes
He has just now promised to stop doing it

Why is everything so dramatic on MN. You’ve asked him to stop, he’s agreed. It’s a non issue.

Oh God - I really cannot stand this sort of thing. Cannot bear people who get a kick out of teasing little ones just because they can. I have watched the "other" grandparent of GC do this and I have steam coming out of my ears. It is a just a power trip for insecure people.

This sort of teasing usually ends in tears.

FFS nip this in the bud before it becomes a recurring pattern.

Grrrrr.

That’s quite disturbing.. how old is he?

That’s awful. I hope he feels really bad about it now he’s had a chance to reflect. Does he even see his baby as a human being with feelings? Perhaps he needs to read up about how baby and young children’s neuro synapses are constantly refining and understand that it he continues this abusive behaviour then it could seriously affect his child’s brain development? I don’t mean to sound harsh, I’m sure he’s a good person and just hadn’t realised the implications of what he is doing.

@Regularsizedrudy

That’s quite disturbing.. how old is he?

12

No way. People that wear a ‘joke’ out are so tedious, and doing it when he’s falling asleep (my DS was the world’s worst sleeper and if anyone had woken him up I’d have killed them) is just really cruel. If you’ve asked him to stop he should stop.