My boyfriend loves to make our baby jump

[Nonymous1]

He finds it absolutely hilarious to make our 8 month olds baby jump. He does it in a playful way, out of nowhere he'll shout "boop" super loud and we'll both jump out of our skin. DS does find it funny sometimes, but not every time and he's jumped so much he's cried before. If it was once in a while I probably wouldn't mind but he does it like every day and I'm starting to worry about the long term affects it could have on DS.
He has just now promised to stop doing it, but I'm so mad. DS will be drifting off to sleep and he'll make him jump. I hate it and he finds it so entertaining. Is he just being a man? Is this a dad thing? Or am I just worrying too much 🙈

The environment you create influences how your babies brain will develop. A safe, nurturing environment is one you are aiming for not an unpredictable and scary environment

It’s very weird behaviour to keep doing it even though it makes your baby cry. And to wake a baby from sleep for kicks? Sounds worrying.

Is he a bit dim ?

To people saying it’s no big deal, it’s just a joke, maybe for an adult that’s the case (tho it’s not a type of humour I personally enjoy being around, but each to their own), but it’s totally different to deliberately try and scare a baby. A baby cannot process and rationalise that fear and each time it’s frightened will produce cortisol, which is v unhealthy in the short and long term. Trauma undergone in the first year of life is scientifically proven to have long reaching effects into adult life.

If he understands this and persists in doing it I’d be quite concerned about his character tbh.

That's really cruel

That’s horribly stressful for a baby. He’s a dick

When he’s asleep make him jump. He is a dick

Sorry OP he sounds vile. Being cruel to a child on purpose is never OK - he's a baby for goodness sake. You need to protect your baby from this 'man'.

What's he going to do when baby is toddling,? Stick a foot out and trip him up?

If DS was drifting off and DH made him jump i think i would drop kick him.

Its a bit of a sick thing to get enjoyment from and as a PP said their brains are developing all the time and this isn't the type of thing you want to be happening to him. Poor baby xxx

Really have a horrible feeling after reading your post, really don't like it, where's his empathy for your dc?? Id find this really concerning and a red flag for him being blinded or enjoying other things that may upset your son.

That’s really cruel, you need to step up and protect your child. The fact that you haven’t suggests that you don’t feel able to stand up to your boyfriend. I’m sure you’ll be back to tell how he’s an amazing dad though 🙄

Wtf
Lbt
What a twat

Similar kind of behaviour to people who tickle children until they cry.
You need to keep an eye on him I think as he seems a bit dense

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If DS was drifting off and DH made him jump i think i would drop kick him.

I can't even imagine how I would react, he wouldn't come off well though!

Wait until the idiot is asleep and clatter pan lids together beside his head, as soon as he jumps out of bed kick his backside out the front door.
He is a nasty git and shouldn't be allowed near another child until he grows up

That’s a really horrible thing to do to a baby

Abusive arsehole 🤬
Poor baby.
Doesn’t bode well for the poor baby does it?

Aw no that's not nice at all. I've got a baby too and her dad doesn't do that.

Peekaboo is one thing, but not actually giving them a fright.

Make the punishment fit the crime - wait til he is nearly asleep then make him fucking jump. But doctors every day for a few days then he might, just might understand how your poor baby feels.

Do this not doctors ffs!

Honestly... I would rip him a new one for doing this to a child.. does he want the child to suffer from constant anxiety growing up.. jumping at every bark in life... he's a dangerous twat get him away from your child.

No I’m sorry this is not on, people making me jump have seen me go white with fright or nearly fall over . Protect your baby.

Why are you still with this dick. Image how he will treat this little darling in years to come..get rid