Too old to be tucked in at bedtime

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Hi all
My lb is 8
The other night he took himself up to brush his teeth & go to bed i gave him a hug and finished my cuppa.
Then said to my oh, im gona go tuck him in, to which he replied leave him you don’t need to do that he’s 8
What do others do with children of similar age?
My usual routine is to take the up have a hug/ kiss and a little chat then say goodnight

Just turned 12 here and still going strong.

It’s nice, I think he’ll remember that for a long time and hopefully do the same for his own kids one day. My mum tucked me in too, 8 is only little. Continue as long as your son wants it op

9&7 here. They still like a last cuddle and for us to turn their big lights out (they have lamps by their beds too so they can read).

I can't see them stopping soon.

We still read to both our kids (9 and 11) so yes still doing the tucking in routine. I’m going to cling to it as long as possible!

10 year old - take her up and tuck her in. Nearly 13 year old - he'll come down and give us a hug after doing his teeth.

Still go up to see my almost 11 year old before bed, every night. Mainly because she would read all night if I didn’t go in! She sorts herself out getting ready and then I go in at 9pm to give a hug/kiss and turn off lights. Once when I thought dh had been in and he thought I had been in, she came downstairs at 10.30pm all cross and asking if we’d forgotten about her, so I presume she still likes it!

Thanks
I love tucking them in 4 & 8
They love it too...

I’m 37 and my OH cuddles me and says goodnight.

I still tuck in my 12yr old. He has a loft bed and likes me to climb up for a goodnight cuddle

I was working really late the other night on a deadline and said to my 9 year old "give me a cuddle here and then off you go up to bed" and he looked at me like I had just told him to eat his brother for dinner. He very much still expects and wants to be tucked in. The 7 year old was the same, so I had to go to put them to bed. Although if I hadnt tucked them in then I probably would have ended up going in and waking them to say night night properly once the guilt set in!

When your dc is too old he will tell you so himself.

My dad tucked me in well into my teens, and would occasionally come in and do our "routine" (you know the rhyme a lot of families have!) for a laugh right into my twenties!

DH talks about how his mum used to sit on the end of the bed and sometimes that would be when they'd chat about the day or things he was worried about.

I think keep doing it as long as your DS wants you to.

If you like it and then like it then it doesn’t matter what age they are.

FWIW my 8 and 10 olds still get full on story and chat and then tucking in.

I still go up with my almost 13 year old for a hug and tucking in. She has asd though and this is her routine, so we'll probably still be doing it until she leaves home

My 10 year old gets tucked in too.

8 year old still wants to be read a story.

10 year old wants a chat while she draws or something, then reads herself to sleep.

My eldest stopped this when she was about 12/13. My youngest has just turned 14 and if I suggested not going in to her room at lights off time she'd probably cry. Can't see her wanting to stop any time soon and I'm not in a hurry either.

I go upstairs with DD7 and make sure she gets undressed and actually into bed cos we tried just sending her up and she will happily bounce around up there, getting in to mischief if you let her she's also been known to get into bed fully dressed so we have to make sure.

I have teens who just go of their own volition. But I often go with them too but only cos that means it's my bedtime too!

I went to bed at about 1am few weeks ago and i got a slightly shitty text from my 18 year old for not popping my head round the door to say night

They are too old to be tucked in when they tell you so.

@Thatwentbadly

I’m 37 and my OH cuddles me and says goodnight.

Same here!

I still tuck in my 11 and 7 yos. Do they need it? No, they're capable of getting themselves to bed, as am I. Do we all still like it? Hell yeah.

@Wankerchief

I went to bed at about 1am few weeks ago and i got a slightly shitty text from my 18 year old for not popping my head round the door to say night

Absolutely still tucking my 8yo in. The others don't even want me in their rooms though (teenagers 😢) so I'm hanging onto the tucking in with this one.

My mum would do the prayer with me -

Now I lay me down to sleep
I pray the lord my soul to keep
If I die before I wake
I pray the lord my soul to take.

I would lie awake for ages afterwards every night afraid to sleep as I didn’t want to die!

So yes, tuck your kids in and make them feel safe.

Still do the whole routine at 10, stories tucking in.

My are still very young, but I plan on doing it until they decide otherwise 🙂