I’ve just left DS alone on his playmat for half an hour

[newmum234]

DS (6 months) has been on his playmat for the last 35 mins, entertaining himself by playing with his toys. I’ve been sitting on the sofa nearby, keeping an eye on him but not interacting with him at all and scrolling through my phone instead. I’m a terrible mum aren’t I?

Its fine you don't have to be "at him" all his waking hours he is happy rolling about having a great time, you didn't ignore him once he was bored its fine.

Isn’t that what it’s here for?

I wouldnt take all of my advice from here. Some of its good. Some of its batshit.

Op look up Janet Lansbury and Magda Gerber. They actually advocate letting your baby do its own thing and giving them space to explore on their own, obvs you are there but not actively trying to entertain them.

@Disappointedkoala

No, you're fine. I leave my toddler in front of the TV for a bit every day to "cook her dinner". Spend most of that time scrolling MN and eating biscuits. Parents need quiet time too.

I’m glad it’s not just me 😂 I frequently sit DS on the potty with the iPad for far longer than is necessary just so I can have a cuppa.

Seriously OP, we all need down time. I’d be thrilled he could entertain himself! Bung him in the sling or a pushchair and have a chat with him whilst you go for a walk/do the shopping/tidy up - plenty of interaction!

Why are you worried? Babies need to learn to entertain themselves, you can’t and shouldn’t always play with them. You want a good balance between entertaining/stimulating/playing with them, and letting them play by themselves/discover things/learning how to do things themselves. You’re doing well!

In the dark ages when I had babies letting them roll about on play matts was encouraged I think parents can be quite anxious about stimulating babies all the time .

Rejoice that you are not glued to your baby any longer. If he wasn't happy, he'd soon let you know (by crying or fussing). Relax, this is part of your job - to encourage him to entertain himself.

Sounds great to me, op.