Fifteen years old and still no period? Getting very worried.

[ludlowstreet]

I've name changed for this.
My daughter was 15 in September, she still hasn't started her periods. She's fit and in good health, always has been. She has some signs of puberty, very small boobs (these started to develop about two years ago) little bit greasy skin. She was very skinny until about 18 months ago, she's now just normal slim, she's very tall though, about 5ft10/5ft11, not particularly sporty. She quite private so I know won't like me talking to her about it, I had planned to raise it in January if she still hasn't started though.
I'm starting to get quite worried, I think I might see if I can speak to her doctor next week. The doctor doesn't know her (or me) or any of my children, just because they haven't needed to see a doctor since they were babies.
Please help me be less worried!

@ludlowstreet no I didn't (i also didn't have boobs.....Still don't at 28 🤣)

Grandma 19 (!)
Mum 17
Me 16

No need to worry yet imo.

I think the rules are going out the window with this generation. I was always told a year either side of your mother. My gran was 16, My mum was 15, I was 14, my youngest was 10!!!

I wouldn't be overly concerned but I don't think a chat with the doc would go amiss although he will more than likely say its normal. Out of interest, on the boob front, how big are you? Is her filling out from skinny to normal in proportion?

My sister was 16 and when they did start they were very sporadic, still are and she's 31. She has PCOS.

I didn’t OP; but my mother was aware that PCOS ran in our family and that this could be a factor. She also wasn’t too concerned that I didn’t have much in the way of boobs like her etc (made up for it later lol) because she always felt that physically we were very different. She is 5ft 3 and curvy and I am 5ft 9 and straight up and down.

I was 15 and half, also tall. Didn't go to GP and would have told my mother where to go if she tried to take me. I would leave it until she was 16. I was delighted I hadn't started and my pals were jealous

How about the women on DHs side? I was v late, my DDs weren't but my niece was just turning 16 like me. We were both slim.

Definitely get checked out. It could be hormonal or weight related but it's always good to get these things checked to be sure. I don't want to scare you but I know someone who didn't start her period and after investigation it was found she didn't have a uterus. I'm sure it's nothing that extreme but it's good to have peace of mind.

Worth a chat with GP but I was 15 not far off 16. Def the last of all my friends! It started for me without any warning too.

She doesn’t sound like you OP. Does your husband have any sisters, maybe tall sisters. She may be like his side of the family if you are small with bigger breasts. It doesn’t sound like weight is affecting her but if she only started developing a couple of years ago, she just sounds like a late developer. Without being crude, does she other signs of puberty like sweating, hair etc (you don’t need to answer). If no, I would probably make a GP appointment but if yes, I would just presume she will get there on the later side.

My sister was 16, i was 13.5 we were both same build and height, my dd was 12 which surprised me as at that time she was only 4' 11 and very slim. My SIL was nearly 17.

I thought the rule of thumb was approx 18 months after breasts begin to appear. This could be nonsense but seems to have worked for my dds. Eldest more developed and started at 11, second very slim tall and sporty, started at 13 ish.

I didn't start till I was 15 - also quite tall and thin - I don't think it's anything to worry about. I'd have been mortified if my mum was worrying about it.

I'd have died if my mum had tried to take me to the drs - 15 is really normal!!!

I was nearly 17 before my periods started. My mum made me go to the dr when I was 16. Such a humiliating experience. He asked about signs of puberty which were all there and told me to come back if nothing had happened by the time I turned 19. This was 30-35 yrs ago. Probably irrelevant but I am also around 5'10". I went on to have an early menopause that started at around age 40.

Tall and thin, remember waiting and then got them at 15. No doctors. One of last in friends

Mine started at 15.

A friend was flat chested as teenager. You should see her now. Her boobs are huge.

I didn't develop until quite late on, and I didn't start my period until I was 15. I don't think it's much to worry about X

As an afterthought, both my daughters started at 15 and a half and one of my sisters was only 10 when she started

I was about a month short of my 16th birthday when mine started. I'm sure i read somewhere that weight can also play a part in them starting. I was quite petite then. I'd wait till she's 16 and then see a doctor. Were you or your mum late starting periods?

I'm 5'10 and was a normal weight as a teenager. I didn't start my periods until I was 15 1/2. My mum didn't seem overly concerned and said she'd take me to the doctor if I got to 16 and they still hadn't started.

My periods have been perfectly normal since then and I've had no problems getting pregnant.

At 15 you really shouldn't be going to the GP without her. Ok to support, but not just you go for a chat. I think it would be fine to go, and if she wants you to do all the talking you can model how to do so in a matter of fact way, but at 15 you really need her agreement.

My DD (tall/ sporty ) was nearly 16 and we chatted about it and I was able to reassure her that it was likely just our family , as I had also been nearly 16. I personally wouldn’t take her to the doctor at this point as she is still within the bell curve of normal and it could be very embarrassing for her having to talk to a stranger, if she isn’t able to discuss it at home.

I don't think breast size is related to when you start having periods - mine started at 9 and I am still waiting for my breasts to develop properly - she may just always have small breasts there is nothing wrong with that. My mum started her periods at 16, if she isn't showing any signs of getting a period by the time she is 16 then it might be a good idea to get her seen and just make sure there is nothing sinister going on but I wouldn't panic for now because she could just be a late bloomer.

DDs friend started at 16. She is tall, slim and flat chested.
Her GP wouldn't do anything until she reached 16. It's apparently not that unusual.