I am not enjoying parenting during lockdown

[IvyDE4]

Hello everyone,
Please be nice - I already feel terrible writing this, but need to get it out. My little one is 3. Prior Covid I enjoyed being a parent - I work in leisure centre so I spent days around friends/colleagues taking my child swimming / soft play walk around, Kept him in creche for hour to do workout ....
since March I am not enjoying parenting- my work still closed - no pools or soft plays open and I’m so bored just going park and checking my watch when it’s gonna be a sleep time . I was happy when nurseries opened in September so I can have some time for myself and my child can socialize. Well, today they called that nursery is closed - confirm Covid case. I am crying to my pillow how I’m gonna handle next few weeks now when I got a little bit of me back. My DH helps a lot but I still feel overwhelmed. I feel like a terrible mom... anyone else feels this way?

I feel sorry for you. I’m first time mom and it gets a bit overwhelmed for me too. My DD is 5 and a half months and I’ve been with her 24/7 I love her to bit and my husband helps a lot (he works from home) but sometime I need a little me time too. It’ll get better. ♥️

I could have written this myself. My LO is 18 months and bloody wonderful but like you lockdown is killing me. I'm lucky I still work however the time I'm at home I find myself stuck in a continuous cycle of chores and visiting the local park.
Please don't be so hard on yourself. It's perfectly normal to find this whole gig a bit boring at times.
I honestly sit here in an evening already disappointed by what tomorrow brings as I know it will be just the two of us and as hard as I try I just can't entertain him all day. I need adult company and some time to myself. My DP is brilliant but we work opposite shifts so when I'm off it's just me and the kiddo.
Pre lockdown we had the best time, an active social life and a variety of hobbies. Now we have nothing and it's depressing.
Keep your chin up, this will soon pass and we can have our freedom!! Until then there's always wine

No. I loved having dd at home over lockdown.
But I've never gone to soft play or groups as I don't generally like other children.

@AlyMcNabs Feel better for that snipe do we? Jesus.

OP you are not alone this has been so tough on everyone in many different ways. I'm sure the confirmed case means your little one has to isolate. You will get through it, arts and crafts, letting them make a mess, baking, outside play if you are lucky enough to have a garden. If all else fails Netlfix and CBeebies. Hope it goes quickly for you.

It's really tough..I think nearly all parents have struggled during lockdown in some way or another. Don't give yourself a hard time...this isn't easy.

Thank you for lovely comments. Yes we are isolating in tiny 1bed flat 😓 had to downsize during pandemic (income went down). No garden. Hopefully we will manage. Just can’t wait for this all to be over and have our lives back.

@alymcnabs

The op is struggling with parenting during a pandemic...ffs. There's limited places to go and things to do. The weather is getting colder. There's lots of hours to fill in a day. Seriously, why comment?

@AlyMcNabs she never said she does not want to parent. This is a mama that's looking for some encouragement in these hard times.
@IvyDE4 I also received an email from 18month olds nursery this week about a confirmed case. She is isolating and not back until w/c 26th. I work full time and so does my partner. It's very tiring managing work, her, plus other primary school aged child. It's all stressful but don't be hard on yourself. Hope post isolation there isn't another case as I feel this isnt the end (In my case). All the best!

@AlyMcNabs
OP is clearly struggling, your comments are
Rude and unhelpful- what are you hoping to achieve other than being a total dick?

A lot of people use childcare because they have to work. You know those things called jobs

Jobs? Yeh I know it well. I would have preferred to stay home to nurture my children though. Did OP say she couldn’t look after her child because she has a job?? Or is she whinging about entertaining her 3 year old old? You choose!

@AlyMcNabs

A lot of people use childcare because they have to work. You know those things called jobs

Jobs? Yeh I know it well. I would have preferred to stay home to nurture my children though. Did OP say she couldn’t look after her child because she has a job?? Or is she whinging about entertaining her 3 year old old? You choose!

I work and "nuture" my child, thanks. Ops reaction to this shit is natural. You're being vile.

@AlyMcNabs do you have an ounce of empathy?! So so many people have children and struggle, need time to themselves - there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing a break from the relentless nature of parenting. It's so bloody hard. I really struggled even though I wanted dd so so much and there wasn't a pandemic! Do you have children?

Oh op! It’s not easy at all! I would have a think about getting some stuff stocked up, puzzles, baking supplies, crafts, even magazines me and DS had so much fun drawing on people in my magazine the other day! It sounds really daft but we did it for about an hour! It’s hard but my best advice would be to stock up on lots of little bits and pieces to do together because there is a high chance this will happen again over the next few months, and it’s nice to be prepared. Also don’t forget it doesn’t matter how much tv you watch, in comparison to keeping your sanity Take care and I do hope it goes quickly for you!

I'm going to ignore the sniper.
I'm sorry it's feeling so tough @IvyDE4
My children are adults now, but I know it would have been hard without being able to get out and about and see friends etc. I loved being their mum, but I would have struggled without meeting up with other families, and being on my own with them all day.
Let's hope things get easier soon

Palm off?? Op has to WORK. Do you not work

Yes I work.

OP’s post says she has no work at moment. Try reading OP! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@AlyMcNabs

Palm off?? Op has to WORK. Do you not work

Yes I work.

OP’s post says she has no work at moment. Try reading OP! 🤷🏻‍♀️

And that's why things are much harder because they're very different than usual. Engage your brain!;

Do you have children

Yes I have 5 children (now adults) plus I work 4 days a week and look after 3 preschool GC 3 days a week. Why??

Ignoring the derail - please don't feel alone. We've all been there.

Are you in an area where you are able to meet with friends outdoors?

I did stock up today on colouring books, sticker books and artsy stuff in Poundland ! Most of you are making me feel so much better . Thank you again