GET YOUR CHILDREN OFF TIK TOK *content warning for disturbing imagery added by MNHQ at request of OP*

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

Shamelessly posting for traffic.

I have wondered all day whether to post this or not but ultimately it might help save one person from viewing something they shouldn't.

For every single one of you who allows your young child to use TikTok please be aware that there is a video circulating today of a man committing suicide. Yes, he did it in a live stream and the video is all over the place now. TikTok is that one social that you cannot prevent you children from seeing ANY content. If you allow them the app you allow them the content.

Get your child off the app now unless you wanted them traumatised for life after watching someone shoot their brains quite literally out.

[dollypartonscoat]

Had you put it like @TreestumpsAndTrampolines did instead of snapping at everyone who replied then you'd have got different responses.

"You haven't seen anything inappropriate at all? After scrolling for hours? You are in the minority"

Depends what you call inappropriate. I went through a phase of scrolling through for hours and hours . Saw nothing unless you include swearing in that.

[Moondust001]

I don't do social media so I have no idea what this platform is like. But the OP is being bloody rude to people and actually isn't, contrary to their obvious opinion, the boss of everyone. Parents should have awareness of what their children are doing, but they don't need bullying. The OP appears to have a real problem with this site - are you Donald Trump, by any chance? Screaming at people is his style too.

[healthylifestylee]

Completely agree - the content is uncontrollable and can be really harmful content for younger ages
I got off the app myself as an adult due to the way the app accessed the data in your phone while using it

[NotExactlyHappyToHelp]

I really don’t see why a blanket ban on something is useful for young teens who live in this internet age. There are ways and means to use apps safely.

We have TikTok on the iPad. It’s locked and only I can unlock it. DS likes doing the dance routines so we follow people who post tutorials and all the videos are vetted by me. We follow other content creators too like Tabitha Brown who is full of love and good messages. If you don’t use the For You page and only watch videos posted by people you follow then there’s more chance of seeing something upsetting on the 6 o clock news. We sit together and watch and we’ve never come across anything inappropriate.

There will come a time when they have access to all of the internet, you cannot vet what they see forever. If they’ve been taught how to utilise the internet safely instead of suddenly being let loose I feel they’re better equipped.

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

But the OP is being bloody rude to people

I have apologised, more than once.


and actually isn't, contrary to their obvious opinion, the boss of everyone

I have never professed to be

. Parents should have awareness of what their children are doing,

Yes they should be, but so many are not, hence the post

but they don't need bullying.

Good god I am not bullying anyone. I was literally trying to prevent someone's kid for seeing a man shoot himself

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

I really don’t see why a blanket ban on something is useful for young teens who live in this internet age. There are ways and means to use apps safely.

Just to clarify, I am not talking about teenagers. I have said many times young children. I don't want anybody's teenager seeing this content either but the push was about young children .

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

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[ChickenwingChickenwing]

@dollypartonscoat

Had you put it like *@TreestumpsAndTrampolines* did instead of snapping at everyone who replied then you'd have got different responses.

"You haven't seen anything inappropriate at all? After scrolling for hours? You are in the minority"

Depends what you call inappropriate. I went through a phase of scrolling through for hours and hours . Saw nothing unless you include swearing in that.

I have apologised. I don't mean to be rude. No am frustrated. I was trying to help. I have been called a whole manner of names. Can we leave the 'you were rude' stuff now and move on?

[PhilSwagielka]

How gross. I really feel for people who have to moderate this crap. Facebook mods have ended up with PTSD because of all the horrors they've been exposed to.

[MarshaBradyo]

The op wasn’t that bad! Don’t worry about it op

[dollypartonscoat]

"Can we leave the 'you were rude' stuff now and move on?"

Yes. A bit of cross posting there. Or maybe I should refresh more often

[PinkyU]

@ChickenwingChickenwing I’ll admit that my first instinct here was to be reactionary to feeling like my parenting is being challenged in regards to keeping my child safe (she does have TikTok, she is under the minimum age). I initially felt defence and internally mocked you op, to assuage my self criticism, which I feel some others are doing.

However, you have convinced me to speak to my dd when she gets in from visiting and tell her we’re going to have to delete her account and the app from a safety perspective.

If nothing else op, you’ve convinced me and I hope that it’s not too late.

Thank you.

[Ifonlywecouldwishuponastar]

I can't stand tik tok
I don't understand the craze and I have heard lots of awful things about it

[PoodleMoth]

I am with you op. The innapropriate content and the grooming are becoming a huge issue. It is one app I won't allow even supervised for that reason. I know 6 and 7 year olds that have unrestricted access and I just can't get my head around it!

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

[quote PinkyU]@ChickenwingChickenwing I’ll admit that my first instinct here was to be reactionary to feeling like my parenting is being challenged in regards to keeping my child safe (she does have TikTok, she is under the minimum age). I initially felt defence and internally mocked you op, to assuage my self criticism, which I feel some others are doing.

However, you have convinced me to speak to my dd when she gets in from visiting and tell her we’re going to have to delete her account and the app from a safety perspective.

If nothing else op, you’ve convinced me and I hope that it’s not too late.

Thank you.[/quote]


Thank you so much for posting this. You didn't have to and you could have just spoken to your DD and not come back to the thread. This really is why I posted and I realise I didn't get it right but there was no intention to challenge anyone's parenting. I just wanted to make sure people kids didn't see the video.

Thank you

[EinsteinaGogo]

Wow - the OP is trying to warn people to protect their children from a horrific event, and because she's passionate and concerned about it, she's "hysterical, unhinged, a bully and hasn't been conversational enough'.

FFS. Some of you will look for the contrary views to bloody anything.

[PasstheBucket89]

Did you hear about Randonautica? its an exploration app that sends people coordinates posted by other locals, and obviously mainly used by teenagers. A group of about 3 were sent to a suitcase on a beach that had a torso in it 😱, it was on the news. I have to assume the killer knowing it would more likely be uploaded has probably gotten off on the whole thing! i said to my DH they will have watched that video delighted!,, scary stuff. its lilnked to tiktok i think. Ive got it on my phone my kids nagged and truthfully don't go on much they are more gaming types but i may delete now.

[Tidyhousefornow]

Op, you have an attitude problem. Try being pleasant.

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

Here is an example -

The first pic is a video I reported ages ago, long time. The second is a screenshot and enlarge of the thumbnail which was the start of the video: it was a pervert asking for a girlfriend age 11-14. TikTok said it did not violate community guidelines.

This is not a video you would want your 11 year old to see.

TikTok left it up. The profile ran for ages before it eventually got banned. Anyone banned just make a new profile. This person is still posting and still looking for minors.

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

@Tidyhousefornow

Op, you have an attitude problem. Try being pleasant.

RTFT. We have moved on...

[yetanothernamitynamechange]

@ShinyGreenElephant

You can restrict content on tiktok, its relatively easy

yes, but as I understand it it depends on how the videos are labelled, so harmful stuff can (and does) still get through. I could be wrong though...

[PoppyRae]

Kids are going to use these apps whether we like it or not. They will always find a way. As parents we need to educate our children on how to use the internet safely and what is appropriate content and what isn’t. My 13 year old son came to me an hour ago and told me he’d deleted Tiktok for a while because he’d heard about this video and didn’t want to see it. As far as I’m concerned that is more of a parenting win than banning them from using an app outright.

[BooseysMom]

How gross. I really feel for people who have to moderate this crap. Facebook mods have ended up with PTSD because of all the horrors they've been exposed to

Well it sounds like they don't moderate TikTok if they let such stuff go out.

I let DS use my phone but am getting concerned about the amount of time he spends on there and the YouTube vids he watches. I do closely monitor it but stuff still gets thru that's too old for him. Mostly just American kids messing around and swearing but it is massively annoying and I can't understand the appeal. (Sounding ancient and out of touch!)

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

@EinsteinaGogo

Wow - the OP is trying to warn people to protect their children from a horrific event, and because she's passionate and concerned about it, she's "hysterical, unhinged, a bully and hasn't been conversational enough'.

FFS. Some of you will look for the contrary views to bloody anything.

Thank you. It does come from an absolute good place. I spend my days dealing with this in real life.

The worst insult by far was the 'Donald Trump' one

[ChickenwingChickenwing]

@PoppyRae

Kids are going to use these apps whether we like it or not. They will always find a way. As parents we need to educate our children on how to use the internet safely and what is appropriate content and what isn’t. My 13 year old son came to me an hour ago and told me he’d deleted Tiktok for a while because he’d heard about this video and didn’t want to see it. As far as I’m concerned that is more of a parenting win than banning them from using an app outright.

Young children cannot use TikTok unless an adult facilitates that.