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Housekeeper COVID safety

99 replies

TravellingSmartMum · 30/08/2020 23:25

Hi - today I am really fuming . Our housekeeper who has a sweet spot for my three year old daughter came into our apartment (she has her own set of keys), picked her up (we never sanctioned this and she didn’t wash hands to add) and started kissing her a dozen times on the face. I immediately came out of the kitchen where I was making my child’s meal and took my child away. She called for my child again and did the same thing and I took my child away. This time both me and my husband spoke to the housekeeper saying how unsafe she was with doing this and we didn’t approve, and were actually angry. I am still very angry and think she’s a liability and should be fired. If she is this callous who knows what else she is doing that is wreck less in this pandemic? After all she does clean multiple households. I asked her to leave her keys today which she ‘forgot to do’ and then she texted to ask if I was upset. I was very frank with her about how upset I was and how my child’s safety surpasses anything. How could she infringe like this on my child being an adult and understanding the severity of what’s happening ? Also before leaving today (post us confronting her about what she did) she still had the nerve to ask me to leave her a good review for cleaning to her agency . It added more wood to the fire. I spoke to her agency and told them everything, from which they were in shock. I also said she doesn’t routinely wear masks while cleaning in our house which also we question and they stated it’s their protocol that all cleaners have to wear masks 100% of the time. They said she would be kept off assignments (and most likely fired) and she would provide for our keys. I feel so frustrated and upset that this happened on my watch (that I didn’t tell them how callous she was about masks from before and most of all I didn’t yell more at her and tell her to get out immediately after she kissed my daughter) but you just don’t expect someone to behave this way let alone in your own home 😕. Just wanted to know what others would do and please without judgement . We are being hard on ourselves as is. I really don’t think she deserves a second chance because she should just know better — and most of all I lost my trust in her coming into my home. I’ve also asked the agency to get her to do a covid test ASAP as the responsibility was on them for putting her risky behaviour into our home. Most likely they will fire her and I don’t feel bad or sympathy but feels she deserves this for what she did. Is that very unempathetic on my part?

What I really also don’t understand is that she realised how I took my child away from her and my husband also starting telling my child to come back - yet she called for my child a second time and did the same thing. As if to test our reaction , she’s a mother as well of two grown children and for her not to read any of these signals and repeat it is beyond clueless and a liability for her work.

OP posts:
anonacatchat · 31/08/2020 14:42

A statistic 🤪

I was out with 7+ doctors for dinner on Wed and they all cited that they feel it's a huge over reaction....

I will follow my own thoughts and you can follow yours .

Your housekeeper will likely be better off not working for someone so neurotic .

BananaPop2020 · 31/08/2020 14:52

I just read the updates on this post - I can’t believe that the OP has now said that the cleaner/housekeeper was “lucky” the Police weren’t called! I mean...really?

gamerchick · 31/08/2020 14:53

@anonacatchat

A statistic 🤪

I was out with 7+ doctors for dinner on Wed and they all cited that they feel it's a huge over reaction....

I will follow my own thoughts and you can follow yours .

Your housekeeper will likely be better off not working for someone so neurotic .

I have a feeling after the way the OP has behaved IRL, perfectly demonstrated on this thread that people tend to just quickly agree with her for a quiet life. Wink

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

BananaPop2020 · 31/08/2020 14:55

@gamerchick you can just imagine can’t you? Talk about obtuse!

anonacatchat · 31/08/2020 14:59

I would love to be a fly on the wall for parent teacher meetings or "the police being called" ... I imagine there would be a lot of eye rolling 😅

TravellingSmartMum · 31/08/2020 17:53

@anonacatchat

A statistic 🤪

I was out with 7+ doctors for dinner on Wed and they all cited that they feel it's a huge over reaction....

I will follow my own thoughts and you can follow yours .

Your housekeeper will likely be better off not working for someone so neurotic .

Ha that’s funny. Because I asked my close friends who went are also MDs (they are from Pritzker - possibly the best med school in the world) and they actually said this was worrisome especially with someone 80+ in the household. Anyways to each their own. Really think you people in this board are argumentative and trollish just because they actually don’t have anything better going on - and thinking a 50 year old woman should not be given agency for her own actions. Either ways too busy to deal with opinions of people that frankly don’t really matter . Have good lives :)
OP posts:
TravellingSmartMum · 31/08/2020 18:11

[quote BananaPop2020]@gamerchick you can just imagine can’t you? Talk about obtuse![/quote]
Yes obtuse you are so right...my Stanford MBA and banking background just fell from the sky. Anyways take care not going to sink to your levels. This woman compromised a young child’s health with her wrecklessness - hope those of you who are parents will never have to go through this . But good luck nonetheless, will stop wasting my time on this thread.

OP posts:
HelloRose · 31/08/2020 18:30

Your reaction to people's comments are hilarious. You've made yourself look like an absolute idiot from what started as a genuine concern. If you go to such great lengths to get a cleaner sacked, I really think you're the one who doesn't have anything better going on.

nicky7654 · 31/08/2020 18:32

Wow such a massive over reaction 😂

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 31/08/2020 19:33

Lolling at OP calling the police about this issue 😂

LittleBearPad · 31/08/2020 19:49

Recklessness not wrecklessness. People will start looking for pirates otherwise.

Gunpowder · 31/08/2020 20:31

Grin @ the pirates

anonacatchat · 31/08/2020 22:44

"Either ways too busy to deal with opinions of people that frankly don’t really matter . Have good lives :)"

So why did you ask for our opinions ? When you don't get the answers that you wanted you argue 🤨 how worldly and open minded . Perhaps a few additional MBA modules needed on critical thinking?

AlexaShutUp · 31/08/2020 23:04

The cleaner was wrong to kiss your child in the current situation. Tbh, it would be inappropriate in normal times, but that might reflect cultural differences, depending on where the cleaner is from. Regardless, she should have known better in the midst of Covid, and I understand you being unhappy about this and not wanting her in your house. Fair enough.

What's not fair enough is the way in which you and your husband reacted. Yelling at an employee is never an acceptable way of dealing with a problem. Actively trying to get someone fired is also pretty low. Why not just feed back your concerns in a calm and professional way, and let the agency handle it.

There is something about your style of posting that suggests you have a very high opinion of yourself and very little regard for your domestic staff. It makes me feel a little uncomfortable.

I'm also wondering why you have your 80 MIL staying with you when you have staff coming in and out of the house. Given the emphasis that you seem to put on health and safety, it might be better to do your own cleaning for a while.

There

GarlicMcAtackney · 01/09/2020 09:54

What is this thread for? You know that the woman was wrong to slobber over your kid, so why type essays here?

gamerchick · 01/09/2020 13:28

The OP wanted to be validated or crow about yelling at and getting someone sacked from their job. Sometimes that shit might make a person feel powerful and they want to share it with others.

katy1213 · 01/09/2020 13:55

I think you're a nutter too. Callous??? Pursuing your daughter with murderous intent to cuddle? For heaven's sake!
Guess that makes me a statistic too! (Which statistic??? Children under ten 20x more likely to die in an accident? Or that COVID accounts for 1.5% of all deaths in England/Wales? There's a whole raft of things that are much more likely to get you!)

SylvanianFrenemies · 01/09/2020 21:21

This thread is gold. I always love it when a poster cites their irrelevant academic qualifications to try to gain the high ground 😆

BananaPop2020 · 02/09/2020 00:11

😂😂😂 I have only just seen OP’s reply to my comment ! I consider myself lucky she lowered herself to my level of peasantry to respond.

QueenZoopla · 02/09/2020 02:07

This thread has made me LOL. OP you are so up yourself, you sound unbearable. I feel sorry for anyone who works for you

Catsup · 02/09/2020 02:58

To be fair it's a bit odd she picked your child up and kissed her. Although if your child approached her I'd say it's more a natural physical human response to pick up a child that's actively trying to engage in a cuddle than to tell the child to step away. You've reported your concerns about the incident to the agency, and they'll now make their own decision on the outcome. It's not about you having her fired so much as they'll decide if they want to continue to employ her. Chances are she'll get pulled in for a warning and a review of COVID training (unless you continue to push the issue). I'd just mark it up to her fucking up (but we're all prone to that as humans), the agency won't send her back out to you. And you can all be tested as a family if it provides peace of mind.

BlackberrySky · 02/09/2020 04:47

Two things strike me about this thread. Firstly, if you post asking for opinions on AIBU you will get a range of views. That's kind of the point of posting on AIBU, to gauge whether your reaction to the situation you are posting about is reasonable or not. You can't really be affronted if some people disagree with you. Secondly, it seems to me that the reason for the escalation of the situation is a mismatch in your relationship with your domestic staff. Nobody is disputing that she should not have kissed your child. Did you discuss ground rules with her upon her return to work post-lockdown though? I found it really useful to sit down with my cleaner ahead of her return and discuss what we each expected in these uncertain times.

SaskiaRembrandt · 02/09/2020 05:27

Looks like the OP is long gone, but I'm curious about the 80 year old grandmother (who made a sudden, dramatic entrance), where did she come from and how did she get to the OP's house? I hope she's well quarantined after her journey.

lljkk · 02/09/2020 05:38

Oh. Well. the Stanford MBA means you know everything OP. Why in world did you bother to post here, then? There is nothing we mere minions could tell you better than you already knew for yourself. Off you go. Find another place on the Internet with a Better Class of Person that can appreciate your credentials and wisdom properly.

lucky we didn’t call the police.

WTAF? Is this real??

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