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how many children have you had? and why that number?

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4mum · 11/09/2007 22:47

i have 4 kids and 1 step daughter,
dident really set out for that many,were going to stop at 2 but that felt a bit "peter and jane"ish.

had a third a bit sooner then planned,felt the family was complete,then along came number 4 as a complete shock!

glad now though as 2 girls and 2 boys is good,
step daughter never lived with us and is now all grown up.

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Tortington · 12/09/2007 20:35

becuase i was stupid

artichokes · 12/09/2007 20:41

I currently have one and I currently want 3. Project "get a second" starts next month.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 12/09/2007 20:46

2 because I haven't yet managed to convince dh of the need for another and anyway ds has only just started sleeping through the night.

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Donk · 12/09/2007 20:46

1 because mother nature decided I was past my sell by date after the first one.....

mrsdarcy · 12/09/2007 20:57

I have 3

Always knew I wanted more than 2 - I'm one of 2 and I wanted a different dynamic to my family.

Would like another one. The 1st 2 are close together and it would balance things nicely to have a 4th. And I love babies!

Had a m/c earlier this year and I'm a bit scared of trying again. DH will need some persuading too . I think we need an "accident"

dithering...

busybaby · 12/09/2007 21:27

I have one. Not sure if we're brave enough to go for another but mother nature keeps telling me I want three! Maybe she's right... Not sure if dh would agree.

evenhope · 12/09/2007 22:09

I was one of 2 and hated it so set out to have 3. Wanted 3 DDs so after 1x DD and 2x DSs DS3 was an attempt for a DD2.

DD2 was a happy accident 15 years later

gibberish · 12/09/2007 22:10

Because it was a nice round number. And I'm crap at using contraceptives.

startouchedtrinity · 12/09/2007 22:11

Because I wanted to.

NotAnOtter · 12/09/2007 22:17

omg evenhope how gorgeous

MrsScavoEatsJelly · 12/09/2007 22:26

In an ideal world I would have liked 6, but we would need lots more money, and my body couldn't take another pregnancy.

JustBreathexoxo · 12/09/2007 22:36

I had one by caeserean scared the crap outta me.My mum also had myself as the older child by caeserean(spelling) then my younger sister 2 years later naturally.

My sister and I both agree that if we were to have another its coming naturally.Put a bit of scare into me.

But now I have 2 step children so busy busy, but from time to time I look at my daughter and think I would love to have another.

lucykate · 12/09/2007 22:45

we have 2, one of each. we were only going to have 1 but decided after dd, it would be cruel for her to be an only child, i was pg again first time we tried for number 2 but unfortunately m/c at 11 weeks. had another m/c 3 months later, this time at only 7 weeks, carried on trying as we wanted to finish what we'd started so to speak. finally has ds when dd was 3.5 years old.

not having any more for fear of more m/c's, it took over our lives too much and made me ill, just going to enjoy the 2 we have. so glad we did persevere for ds though, he feels like the last piece to what was an unfinished jigsaw, now complete.

sallyf104 · 12/09/2007 22:47

3 - because I'm mad! Only 14 months between DD1 and DS - swore I'd never do it again...

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chipmonkey · 12/09/2007 23:00

Expecting no 4. Have 3 ds's, always wanted a dd but think this is probably ds4! Still, no matter what, will be someone for ds3 to play with, he's so much younger than the others.

bevjotom · 13/09/2007 17:57

we have 2 ds's age 2 and 6 months. would love a dd but am now 43 and not sure i could go through another pregnancy as was in so much pain at the end last time

superalienstitch · 13/09/2007 18:00

three, because contraception failed three times

BananaPudding · 13/09/2007 18:11

1, for two real reasons and one silly reason.

RR #1: I had a very difficult pregnancy, four months of bedrest, dd in distress so induced, dd heartrate crashing with each contraction so had emergency section during which my blood pressure skyrocketed to 210/160. Very real reason is that dh is too scared to try again, and I am as well.

RR#2: We both really like sleeping undisturbed all night and having a child who can go potty independantly. V. selfish, yes.

Silly reason, with background:

I am fat and chronically depressed. Always been since childhood. Dh has a form of dwarfism and is technically a "little person", although he has a wicked sense of humour and calls himself various other things

Our dd is gorgeous. Tall, slim, strawberry blond ringlets and freckles, very very smart (teacher says, not just our opinion). Dh jokes that dd got every good gene we had between us, and were we to try again we might have a fat, angry, depressed, stupid dwarf on our hands.

I know, it's so awful, truly horrible! But I still giggle when he mentions it to me. Am a little embarrassed to have actually posted this.

BananaPudding · 13/09/2007 18:13

I think that's bound to offend at least someone.

harrisey · 13/09/2007 18:29

We have 3.

Dd1 and ds very much planned and wanted! I always really fancied 3, but dh was pretty adamant, and I wasn't that fussed, and I was ill when pg with ds, so we decided to stop at 2. I wasnt sure enough for sterilisation, so went for mirena.

I was the only officially reported mirena failure of 2003, I got pg with dd2 when ds was 13 months old. This was pretty devastating news. We decided (well, it wasnt really an option for us not to) go ahead with the pregnancy. This was awful for me - during and after preg I was in hospital 17 times in 18 months with kidney stones, and had to be transferred 100 miles to have dd2 as they didnt have local facilities to deal with problems she might have had due to the painkillers I had to take (I was on pethedine and diamorphine for the pain a lot of the time).

I had serious PND after she was born, and made a couple of serious suicide attempts, and the kidney pain continued for 2 years. Now I am fine, totally OK, but dh has been rebounding and is depressed at the moment, and has had a real struggle getting to accept 3 kids, especially when he sees what I went through.

They're all fab kids, and dd2 is very special to the family as she was born only 2 weeks after dh's Grandma died and is named for her.

I'd do it all again, she's a wee star, coming up 4 soon!

harrisey · 13/09/2007 18:30

Bananapudding, I think your honesty is really impressive!

Cammelia · 13/09/2007 18:39

Bananapudding, I like where you're coming from

Boogalooblue · 13/09/2007 18:52

Banana Pudding, you certainly didn't offend me, i admire your honesty

I have 4 and am knackered all the time, think I should have stuck at 1 but always wanted 4, still want 4 but I would just like more help from my dh - he works long hours and doesn't see problem

Oblomov · 13/09/2007 18:52

1
Dh and I both wanted and want 2. But I think a 2nd would break me. And my marriage. As a 34 yr old diabetic, I struggle to cope as it is.
All very sad.

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