nrly 3yo wont potty train - doesnt even tell you when hes done a poo....ahhhh

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can anyone help, my nrly 3yo (3 in nov) wont even consider a potty or toilet - yet his brother (nrly4) trained v quick. now i dont want to push him, so after trying for a cpl of days at home in patns over the holidays - and him not even noticing when hes doing a wee/poo i gave up and left it.

have bought reusable nappies - so he can feel when he is wet/dirty - but he doesnt care. even in disposables he doesnt care.

you can see/small hes done a poo, you ask him and he says no, he hasnt done one....

any ideas?

thanks,

cx

I am sooo glad have seen this thread! My ds2 is a few days shy of 3.4 and so far, potty training has been very hit and miss. He is another child who would not tell me if he wee'd or poo'd, denied outright that he had poo's even as the smell was wafting around the house. We have been trying on and off for a few months, trying to follow his pretty non exsistent clues. I finally decided to knock it on the head for at least another month when he wee'd on my BRAND NEW carpet, just hours after it had been laid on Monday I only really started potty training because the HV would not leave me alone. I figured if I at least tried, I could tell her so. We always knew that ds was probably going to have some delays along the way (he was very poorly as a baby), and it looks like potty training is one of them.

Ofcourse, I am getting stick from the family, particularly the MIL, but that I can handle (ie, completely ignore). The problem I am having is that ds is a big drinker and has just recently upped the game and therfore has become a super soaker too. He is getting through nappies at a rate of knots and I have had to start changing him in the night again, or we wake up to sopping wet pj'd and bed

I know he will get it eventually, it is just hard when ds1 trained in 2 days at 2.8 years.

Heartmum2Jamie, stay with us even if its just to share. New carpet Noooooo! hugs going to you.

I thought we'd cracked it about two months ago but when he's fidgetting about he just won't go to the loo. I have to physically take him and he screams and makes a fuss. I'm determined not to go backwards into nappies again.He laughs at me when I tell him I just want him to go to the loo then he can come straight back to play etc. I don't want going to the loo to be such a battle. How can I motivate him to be clean again/ I might try the dolly mixture bribe!!

Still not going too well. Good day today as we didn't do very much and told him to go to the loo every time we were going to do something else e.g before meals, when we went out when we arrived etc. It helped that DH is on half term

We are doing a bit better! Unfortunately, my idea of waiting another month had the collybosh put on it by ds suddenly drinking double what he was drinking before and weeing straight out of them in less than an hour, we got through nappies at a rate of knots, so had to bite the bullet and be more strict.

He has been useing the potty for wee's since Monday with no accidents. He has poo'd too, but has a terrible habit of waiting until he has gone to bed with a nappy on do it . I am having to change his nappy as I got up to bed at about midnight or he is soaked come morning. It is a little draining, especially as ds is weeing so much due to drinking so much. I must empty the potty in excess of 20 times per day . It's only 10am and he's already has 24 fl oz of water since 9am (he eats dry cereal for brekkie though, fussy little monkey)

How is everyone else getting on?

i am new to this site, but what a great idea! my ds will be 3 at the beginning of dec, and he has a tantrum even when i take his nappy off and suggest the potty. we have had accidents galore, and when this happens i have put it off time and time again.he is scared of the potty and toilet and i am at my wits end. but i have had a small breakthrough today, i ordered on target training balls which are a ball you put in the toilet with a face on to aim at! ds actually agreed to take his nappy off, a major step forward for him. lets hope he wees on it today! i will let you know how i get on.

ARGH!!!!!!!!

I obviously jinxed myself with my upbeat post earlier. we decided to try pants again today, what a nightmare. We already had a half wee accident, so wet pants, but the rest did go in the potty. The he pooped in the potty but about half an hour after that, he pooped in his pants.

I know he has allergies and therefore, has soft, loose or runny poo problems alot, so I must try and remember not to get mad with him, but it is hard not to loss patience with him as he's older than almost all other potty trained children I know. I can't keep blaming his rought start to life for some of his delays. I suppose I am partly to blame for not pushing potty training earlier and perhaps missed my window of opportunity, I really have baby'd ds2.

Now, do I put him in another pair of pants until we go out or just leave him bottom half naked? I thought naked at first, but the pants did contain the poo and ultimately made it so I had less mess to clean up. The worrying paert, is that he didn't even come to tell me, didn't seem bothered at all

i think putting him back in pants is the way to go , as you say it is easier to clean up. it worked well with my dh, shame it doesn't with ds! i do feel the same in the respect of babying i feel i have done the same. ds is much too reliant on me.

just keep trying!!! i know it is easier said than done.

sorry meant dd not dh

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