suitable name(s) for female genitals

[julwil]

Does anyone have a suitable name that we can use as a family? So far I'm stumped - vagina (too clinical), front bum (eurgh!), I've seen 'flower' used on mn, but would welcome any other suggestions

LOL at "back fanjo"

I reserve the right to steal and use that

God I hope I have a boy and can avoid all of this...!

I am from Scotland too, and fanny is extremely coarse sounding to me, and it is used abusively (not correct I know, but still...). I would feel VERY uncomfortable hearing a DD of mine saying it. Or a DS for that matter! Even when I am speaking to female friends (and we are quite blunt/open) it is not a term I'd use.

We had front bottoms too as children! But flower was v popular amongst friends' families..

I call it "front bum", worked ok so far!

vulva is a perfectly nice word, I don't really get why people are so squeamish about it.
I think it's important to instil in children respect for their own bodies and their sexuality, and imo all this fannying around with front bottom, flower, canary blablabla is just not the way to do that.
imo.

My DS has a pee-pee or dinkle, he will also know that the correct term is Penis and he will have a perfectly healthy respect for his own body and sexuality, thank you very much.

Back fanjo

[taps nose]

don't say bottom, it sounds icky

just my opinion jeremy, no need to be defensive.
I think using the proper word is empowering. you don't. there you go, our opinions differ.
hey ho.

Back fanjo

Side nose

hey your stomach could be your front back! cool

Not defensive as such HC, but you made an inaccurate(IMO)assumption about other parents choices.
I just felt the need to point it out.

we settled on front bum, after much discussion. imo vulva/vagina are not really what we're talking about with very little people - boys wee from their willies, where do girls wee from? that's what we need to know. certainly not their vaginas. i had a front bum when i was growing up. it never did me any harm. and a back bum, come to that. we can get anatomically correct at later date (perhaps with the appearance of a younger bro/sis if we are curious enough). anything is better than 'sore' which is what she says at the moment (should have changed my name before i wrote that. fyi her front bum is hardly ever sore, but we've obviously made too big a deal of it when it has been. according to dd my nephew also has a sore...)

When I was little (70s), 'fanny' and 'willy' were both very rude words and I wasn't allowed to say them. 'Fart' was definitely not allowed either. My parents were quite liberal, too.

My db had a 'penis' (top marks for that, Mum and Dad) and I had a 'front bottom'. In fact everything down there was a 'bottom' and if I had a pain or anything I just used 'front' or 'back' to indicate which area was hurting. Quite practical really.

Don't like vulva, even though it is the proper word, because of a nasty incident when an older boy came and said 'have you got a vulva?' in a really unpleasant way to me and my friend when I was about 11. Gives me the willies .

I agree that vaginas don't really come into it with very small children. But vulvas do surely?

And I'm sure someone else has said it, but there are other parts of the body we use pet names for. Tummy for example. Equally vague anatomically.

However for some reason I am wedded to the correct names for genitals. I suppose it is down to the bafflement I see on the faces of year 7 when they see a diagram with the parts correctly labelled. Probably trying to work out which bit corresponds to the 'flower' or whatever it is they have called 'it' up 'til then

oops didnt realise this was for female genetailia, ahah ignore my prev post please pumpkin worked well for me when i was a kid!

Tis fine chocabloc - we have moved on to all manner of twinkles/vulvas and winkles/penises .

No need to say sorry scotslass, I dont really know why I dont like 'tuppence' it just seemed old fashioned somehow.
It was always said in a negative way, iykwim my mum always made it sounds like it was rude or ashamed like we shouldnt be talking about it, so I think its the connection with that not so much the word itself.

They will come up with their own term anyway - DD3 knows what her vagina is but she prefers to refer to it as her babyhole. Which has the merit of being descriptive at least.

Sorry this is an older thread, but I just read it and thought this an important message to pass along!

A friend in the police force gave some important advice (she works sex abuse cases.) Though we all hope our kids are safe, if they are messed with sexually we want to know.

Whatever you use make it very obvious. My police friend will only use fanny with her daughter. Apparently children often make a revealing comment or question but if they use a cutsey name noone else will recognise they chance to catch it early can be missed.

Eg a child who refers to a fanny as a lilly may ask "why do people like to touch a lilly?" If this is asked of a teacher etc the reference would be missed as an innocent question. If the child asks "why do people like to touch a fanny" the alarm bells go off no matter who is asked the question.

Excellent I have noticed no-one else has a little lady, that's what my sister and I had and that's what my 2 nieces and dd aged 2 have. Although dd knows that her dad has a penis and often asks for one to! Definitely in Scotland fanny is a no no would be like teaching dd to say f* off. Call me paranoid but have already told dd who can and who cant see or touch her little lady. Vulva reminds me of a male student nurse who called in sick as he had a swollen vulva, he was told to come in anyway and the ward sister would look at his vulva. True story I promise.

I was wondering what to do myself and the kids sorted it out before I had decided. 3yr old DS told me one day when I was drying 1yr old DD that was her Lulu. DD joined in singing Lulu lulu lulu, and that was that.

I had reason have a conversation with my 5 year old about his 'willie' until HE corrected me and told me correct name was his penis. Nearly dropped dead. My daughter has decided to call her bits and bobs her bumble. Works for her!

haven't got time to read all the thread but we used to call ours (three sisters) "mary".

seemed to work quite well.

Although my youngest sister acting out the charade "mary poppins" at Christmas one year was hilarious.

we are currently useing the term Mooey.

seems easy enough for DD to say and we havent found anyone with anything objectional to say about it.