suitable name(s) for female genitals

[julwil]

Does anyone have a suitable name that we can use as a family? So far I'm stumped - vagina (too clinical), front bum (eurgh!), I've seen 'flower' used on mn, but would welcome any other suggestions

I am sure that my daughter wil be able to describe, her wee wee as the place between her legs.

If she said 'my bits', or privates or down there or down below, they'd surely get the jist.

Minny or Minny-Moo seems to be popular among other mums at DS playgroups (I have only a DS no DD so have not had to make a decision on it). I'd probably say fanny as it's semantically equivalent to willy. After all, how many parents of DSs insist on calling it a penis?
Actually, when you think about it, though 'willy' is an inoffensive and well known term of which there is not quite an equivalent for female genitals, some people are just as silly about male genitals (dinky, tassle, winkywoo, etc).
SOme folks are just silly about genitalia, full stop.

Flower, twinkle, front botton (but even as kids thst one was used ironically) foofoo, god knows how many others!

Are there other parts of the body that you don't give the correct name to? Do you say "binkle" for your arms? Or is it just the genitals you have 'different' names for? Do you really think it doesn't signify discomfort mentioning the part?

yeah willy is a good name, we dont have a good all round equivalent name do we.

my daughter knows the word vagina, and how babies are made, I just choose not use it as an everyday thing.

There was a case where a girl repeatedly told her teacher that her uncle kept touching her 'flower'. The teacher had no idea what she was talking about, it didn't come out until much later

teacher was a bit slow then. jeez.

Well, I dont call my butt my gluteus maximus.

Very odd that teacher didn't pick up on it.

No, but there isn't a polite and easily understood name for the female genitals, other than the proper words

ok define the context of this discomfort tho.

I have absolutely no probs with my vagina, talking about it. I am an adult tho. For now my dd is a little girl, i speak to her in a mother to child context about things, so for me, saying wee wee, is just that. In that context, of being a child.

I also speak to her as if she were a grown up, you know about respect, behaviour, lessons in life, but i also havent told her about father xmas yet . lol

'jeez' as in, the teacher, you would have thought, having spent sometime with kiddies, would have come across this word?

Would you have understood THIS straight away "My Auntie Mabel is hurting me" (true)

I don't think it was odd. I'd never heard a vulva called a flower before I came on MN and read threads like this, and I worked with children for 10 years. I think it's a really odd thing to call your daughter's genitalia, personally, and it certainly isn't widely understood.

Why is it odd?
Its a sweet name surely?

Yes to some its ambiguous.

wheresthehamster - I think I would have wanted words with this Auntie Mabel. She sounds like a nasty piece of work.

Fannys and fanjos here.

i do have to agree that ive never in my life known people who refer to female genitalia as 'flower'.

or maybe i judt didnt notice and thought they were on about gardens or soemthing!

It is a minefield though because to me the word fanny is very derogatory.
As kids we would only ever hear someone say fanny if they were being rude.
It must be a geography thing.

ah.

well that does indeed make it more complicated.

suspect it has more to do with how you say the word and the attitudes conveyed by this than the word itself?