My 3 year old has done wees for a while on the loo but refuses to poo in the loo and will save it until she has a nap time nappy on or in her pants if desperate. We talk about it, I have been so positive, talked about rewards etc etc but nothing. She says she will do a poo in the loo but just won't although she did manage to do it a few times at her part time nursery! I'm so relieved to have joined this site today and hear it's not uncommon so thanks everyone! In a sense I'm a bit happier now as when we first started down this route she just kept saving up her poos and ended up being terribly constipated, at least they are coming albeit still in the Pampers! Tempted to leave it and not worry as I don't want it to become a huge issue.