What's the age gap between your children?

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What's the age gap between your children and how 'happy' are you with that gap?

I'm TTC number two and am aiming for a particular age gap... I don't want them too far apart and this is putting pressure on me! What age gap did you have and how do you feel about it?

DS 1 3 years 8 months
DD 1 year 10 months
DS2 newborn

They are now almost 6, almost 4 and just turned 2 so it’s full on but a little easier. Only just! They are emotionally very loving and close and I love the fact they are a little team, but it is hard work!

There’s 22 months between my two who are 16 and 14 now. Is a smaller gap than I planned but has worked out well (so far 😊)

14 months between my eldest sons and 3.5 years between middle and youngest.

I missed the chance at having them 18-20 months apart which actually would have been my ideal!
Now 'aiming' for 26-28 month gap so I hope that's still close enough for them to get on!

2 years 6 weeks between my two boys. They're either best mates or mortal enemies depending on the weather

My children are 11 years apart. DD13 and DS2. There are pros and cons to a big age gap! There's little arguing but trying to find activities or trips to suit both can be tricky.

4 minutes! Handy having the both at the same time really :D

6 years between my 2.

They adore each other. Oldest is 8 and youngest is 2 and they are very sweet with each other. I wanted a large gap and it has worked well for us.

I only have the 1 DC OP but my experience with relatives and friends and indeed the 5 year gap between me and my sibling is the issues isn’t really if they get on, but rather the social ease of having two closer together in age. Eg At the weekends it’s harder to find things a 4 year old and an 11 year old will both want to go do.

My dd is 10
Ds is 2
Ds2 is 11 weeks.
Dd gets on great with the younger ones

I wanted a smaller age gap but it didn’t happen. Dd will be 4 will new baby is born

20months between my two, youngest is only 5 days old but his big brother seems quite taken with him so far (although keeps calling him the wrong name ). Long may it continue!

5 years between DD1 and DD2
4 years between DD2 and DS1

Which turned out to be a godsend as DS1 has ASD and the girls have always been old enough to be understanding and considerate of his additional needs.

I completely agree that any age gap can work or not work. I know siblings very close in age who don't socialise at all with eachother once they could choose not to! And I know siblings with large gaps that are incredibly close. I do agree for ease of parenting a small age gap makes social / holiday plans easier as most likely they will want to do the same things!

I tend to think 5 years in an ideal world would be my max age gap- I’m not sure I personally could bear going back to the baby toddler stage once I got more freedom. But I don’t get a difference between 2 years and 4years apart

3.5years. They played alongside rather than together but that worked fine and now they are grown they are close. I was very glad not to have them both doing exams at the same time which friends with 2 year gaps had happen.

To be honest there are positives to be found in any gap so find that, keep it in mind and don't worry about the down sides because you don't have much control.

Good tip @OddBoots I think I always default to what I knew and my experience growing up and am trying to replicate my age gap! Yet it really is out of my control!

10 years and it's actually been so so much better than I thought! I always wanted a small gap but circumstances did not allow. We may possibly have another with a smaller gap.

Actually having seen friends with gaps of 5-6 years, which I had previously dismissed as way too big, as the children grow and the youngest gets past about 2, it actually works fine and they seem to get on just as well/not well as siblings who are closer in age and the parents aren't as exhausted.

There will be 2 years & 10 months between mine.. I wanted around a 3 year gap so that’s worked out just fine! I personally did not have any desire for a very close gap, I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the time with my daughter being an only one, something I’ll never get again & I wanted her potty trained & a little more independent!

I look at my friends/ family with siblings (I’m an only child) & I’d have no idea who has a 2 year, 3 year or 4 year gap between each other. Some are best friends with their siblings, some see them at Christmas & weddings. 🤷🏼‍♀️

5.5 years

Just over 2 years

Dd was born 26th March

Ds came 2 years later on the 4th March

4 years and 3 months which has been fab as eldest in school, independent, can make breakfast, brush teeth, wash herself, read to the baby, get me things when I'm busy, can belt herself into the car (hugely helpful) and can open the front door with my key when I'm holding baby and a million bags. So far it's been excellent.

2 minutes between DC1&2 and then 3 years 3 months between them and DC3

15 months

7 years between DC1 and DC2
27 months between DC2 and DC3
14 months between DC3 and DC4