What's the age gap between your children?

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What's the age gap between your children and how 'happy' are you with that gap?

I'm TTC number two and am aiming for a particular age gap... I don't want them too far apart and this is putting pressure on me! What age gap did you have and how do you feel about it?

16 months between 1 and 2
12.5 years between 2 and 3
23 months between 3 and 4

Theres almost 16 years between my oldest and youngest.

Love all the age gaps

2 yrs 8 months. I was going for 2ish years but it didn't work out like that. This gap has been fab for us - my DCare 4.5 and 7 now and get on very well and play together nicely. It wasn't too stressful when they were little as bigger one could talk and use the toilet and sleep so that helped a lot.

Two and a half years between my girls! My little one is 13 days old now and my big one has been so lovely with her since the moment we brought her home. My toddler is at such a wonderful age right now.
I'm even enjoying the gigantic changing bag for both girls and pushing them both in a double buggy!

DS1 is 13
DS2 is 3.5
4 months pregnant with DS3

The gap between 1 and 2 wasn't intentional but the gap between 2 and 3 was. I've loved the bigger age gap and found I could give each child a lot of one on one time (I work from home too). When DS3 is born DS2 will be starting school. I think I'd go mad if they were all close in age!
My first two get on amazingly, they like a lot of the same things. It may help that they're the same sex, not sure if it'd be different if I had a girl in the mix.

18 months between my boys. It has been full on and intense but overall I am happy with the gap. Youngest is now 13 months so the hardest first year is over and they are starting to play really well with each other. I was aiming for about a 2 year gap and wasn’t expecting to get pregnant so quickly but really happy I did now as I wouldn’t change ds2 for the world.

20 months. I wanted a school year in between having followed my sister directly (and was called by her name constantly). I am three years above my younger sister and that was too much - definitely felt like she was way younger and did not play With her.

You're three school years older than your youngest sister or your 3 years older?

5 years. It’s been great. Dc1 was old enough to really understand what was happening, could be patient and entertain herself especially in the early weeks, and they are really close as she’s just old enough that there isn’t much competition between them. Dc2 was born during her reception year so I was off on maternity most of her first year at school, which was really nice. But because she was at school it also meant I got the same sort of one on one time with our 2nd as our first, while she was independent enough to have her own friends and activities that I could prioritise outside of school hours.

Financially it was also ideal, had a break from paying for nursery for almost 2 years, made lots of career progress, got a raise in the intervening years, and dh and I got date nights and nights away before we went back to the baby stage.

3yrs 4 m

I couldn’t have tried before as just wasn’t ready. DD2 was conceived in one shot, literally!

Ds1 = 28 Ds2 = 25 dd = 16

3 is the age of reason. DD1 was able to understand better when I had to give attention to her baby sister and had the maturity to wait.

23 years!

@Sadiee88
Me Too
23years

10 years planned a lot closer but due to me having 8 mmc sadly thy didn't happen. Ds 1 now13 and ds2 3 in 2 weeks time get in so well they adore each other. As a op said thought trying to get age appropriate days out is a lot harder

2.5 years

Almost exactly two years between ds and dd. Their birthdays are three days apart.

I wished to get two dc with small age difference.

5 years between 1 and 2, 1 year between 2 and 3.

5 years between dd and ds. Always wanted a big age gap so first was at school during the day meaning I could do all the things that I did with dd with ds like baby sensory and baby massage. Also didn't want to rush through having them and really wanted to appreciate then individually and enjoy the baby stage. Also having seen how a couple of friends struggled with close age gaps put me off. It's worked out brilliant as dd now loves her brother. It was a big adjustment for her though as she was very used to being an only child!

I love these kind of threads! I've got a 17 month old and always imagined I'd have a 2 or 3 year gap. Now I want it to be longer! I adore him and enjoy him so much now. But the early months were hard. He's never been a good sleeper, also has some health problems. Hoping for maybe a 4 year gap now! Enjoy reading people's experiences.

Between #1&2 - 2 yrs 2 mths
Between #2&3 - 3 yrs 11 mths
Between #3&4 - 14yrs 7mths

All gaps have worked well. If I was having only 2 children I'd aim for a 2 yr gap.

I’d love to have another close in age like my siblings. But I honestly don’t know how anyone does it, I think maybe because DD had colic/ was just generally a difficult baby it’s put me off. If I had another one now I can’t imagine having to deal with DD in the terrible two’s as well as a screamy baby.

I think 4 years would be great.

@busface999 I know what you mean!! Just as my first gets to such a fun and truly truly enjoyable stage I'm TTC number two! My first baby is such great company but I am concerned too large an age gap would make them harder to bond. I'm so close to my sibling and I think that's down to a two year age gap

there’s 7 years between ds1 and ds2 and then 4 years between ds2 and dd1. i’d have preferred a smaller gap but i had my eldest very young and it just wasn’t practical. they are very close though and all adore each other. there’s a 1 year age gap between me and my sister, and then 2 years between her and my brother and we all fought like cat and dog until we were in our late teens, and now we’re all the best of friends.

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Lol it's not ideal