I expect to get a bashing or 2 but here goes. Will try to be brief. Living with partner for 6 years, have a little DS and he has a ds and dd from previous marriage .They chose to live with mom however his ds has been with us for 2 years. It took a while to adjust as he's a teenager,( hormonal changes and stuff) and we've had to get a bigger apartment. I can't lie but yes i do look forward to school holidays when he goes to Mom and sis for a week or 2 ( his dd also needs the break) plus i miss our privacy, but lately he hasn't been getting on with them so those holidays away at mom's place has become shorter and shorter. In fact he hasn't seen them for 8 months now however he's suppose to go this upcoming festive season. I've booked a getaway abroad for my ds and partner (my expense) but now his ds decided he won't be going to see mom and they can't afford to come here! He can't see why he can't come with us. A few reasons. He's dad has been struggling financially and tbh this has cause some tension between us as well as I've had to foot some of his ds bills (school fees and other school and recreational stuff). AIBU to not wanna pay for him to come along especially because its meant to be a quiet getaway . Please don't be too harsh guys. Thanks