Tell me about your lovely son?

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Just found out I'm having a boy 💙 and while delighted, I'm struggling to imagine what it will be like parenting a son.

I know this is ridiculous as I knew there was a 50/50 chance of baby being a boy.

We are a same sex couple and already have a DD. All his cousins are female and our friends with kids have all have girls so the little guy will grow up surrounded by women.

Please tell me about your lovely boys? They aren't too different to girls right? I'm a bit scared!

I have one of each, a girl first then a boy. I was worried about how I'd bond with a boy after my daughter, I love doing the girly stuff with her. But he's been an absolute dream since birth. I've always found him more tactile and loving. He's very sporty and I am a football mum which I absolutely love, seeing him play makes me so proud. If you'd have asked me before having children if I could only have one child, I'd of said I wanted a girl, but now I'd pick a boy.

My son is so lovely. He can be a monkey but he always wants everyone to be happy, loves cuddles (nearly 8) and charms the pants off of everyone he meets.

My son is lovely. As others said, very cuddly, which seems to be different to all my friends who had girls. I think hardest thing is the navigating and responsibility of bringing up a male in a world where so much news involves men doing bad things - these days I get awkward questions about some news items. But, hopefully I'm answering them well and bringing him up to treat women well.

You don't say what sex you are, just that you are in a same sex couple. My biggest issues I guess have been things like 'how does this work' on various toileting things and the occasional 'it's itching/sore/something on my penis' which is when I handily call in DH and leave them to discuss/sort out But, of course, if I didn't have an in-house penis operator to call on, I'd make do with Google, or asking nurse/doctor as other things but it's handy when he was old enough to go to the gents, etc. to have someone to go with and explain what happens in there (I still don't know!) and what to do/behanve/etiquette. If you are both women, perhaps at that stage ask a male friend/sibling to help him with some guidelines on that?

I have two boys, they are very very different. One is shy, smart, imaginative, inquisitive and very affectionate, the other is a total character - we call him the class clown. He's really funny, loves being the centre of attention and making people laugh.

You're really lucky to be having a boy, boys are ace. I'm due my third baby in about 6 weeks and contrary to what everyone thinks will be delighted if it's another boy!

I have 3 daughters who are 27, 24 and 21 and they were my whole purpose in life. I loved being their mum and never particularly wanted or needed a son ...

When my youngest daughter was 11 - I found out that despite having been responsibly careful with my new-ish partner (6 months of long distance weekends when my girls were at their Dads) ... I was indeed pregnant! New-ish partner said 'get rid & we'll carry on as we are or keep it & we're done' ... so ... I kept the baby.

I knew from the minute I saw 2 lines on a test that I couldn't terminate but I was still in huge shock and traumatised. I was 36 going through a divorce, recently lost my mum suddenly, Dad was terminally ill and I was working.

I can't say I felt the instant love and bond with my baby bump like I did my girls and when i had a gender scan at 20 weeks andvfound out that he was a boy (to the delight of my girls) i was even more terrified!

THEN ... at 6 months pregnant my middle daughter suffered a Stroke. I wished i could take off my bump and put him in a cupboard until things were less hellish ... 3 months later I had my planned C-section and 3 weeks later heart surgery for my daughter.

I also had SPD with that pregnancy and the pain in my pubic bone was like being smashed in the lady garden with a hammer! It was a pretty shitty time really ... but

The minute the team placed him in my arms I felt so guilty, so stupid and annoyed with myself because I felt in that instant everything all at once!

Even now, he's 10 and I still feel cheated of the happy pregnancy I had with my girls.

As for my boy ... he is the light of all of our lives! He is kind, smart, brave, funny, incredibly emotionally intelligent and just a bloody good egg!

Boys and girls are all at once the same and different and really, I'd say, don't think about as 'you're having a boy' - just think 'I'm having a baby' ... that little human will be exactly what they're meant to be and they choose to be and all they need you to do is love them unconditionally.

I am very conscious now of not being 'yay girls are the best!' Which I very much was before ... especially because my boy is so aware that a lot of shitty things in the world are down to men! He already feels like he doesn't want to be 'a man' but (and we've had many long and open talks about genders and transgender and sexuality and all of the everything) he doesn't 'feel' like a girl either ... he's just a good egg.

The worst thing about being a boy mum? The absolutely dire clothing choices once they're out of toddler sizes - if your boy isn't into skulls, football or camo then tough luck.

Last thoughts, my only regret is that I didn't get to have another baby cause my good egg would have loved a sibling nearer his age and I should go back and fix that in a heartbeat if I could.

My Son is in his 20s now and has been an absolute delight since he was born! He is very kind and unselfish .And although very clever and talented ,He is very modest and hates it if I dare to boast about him at all ! you will have a ball with your DS !

One of the very best bit of having sons is the perception that it's super hard (for some reason) and so I must be a mega mum to manage ... The truth of it is....... it's a piece of cake! Honestly my oldest young teen is so caring and pragmatic, my youngest bright and curious and my shadow. I love them both so deeply and can't imagine nicer children. Everyone comments on their manners and no my toilet floor isn't covered in wee! Also they prefer books and games to football so I've rarely had to stand on a pitch (and the only time I have I was so heart thumpingly proud of my tenacious little 6 year old at the time I could have burst, without knowing a thing about the game.

I've learnt about men from being their mother. It's a wonderful journey. Many congratulations!

I have two and a girl and they are all great.

The boys are very straight up, zero friend dramas, loyal to friends and vice versa, one energetic and constantly learning other very laid back but thankfully does well. Teen very easy organises his own social life and homework and middle one very close to me still wants hugs before sleep.

Congratulations!! Boys are great
I have a lovely one. He’s 17.
He’s so funny, talks constantly (I’ve been trying to type this for 10 mins now )

He’s studying performing arts and is a brilliant dancer.
He’s a bit of a lazy bugger about the house although getting better but he works damn hard outside college hours at a restaurant.

He hugs loads and is so loving. He’s always been a joy to be around.

You’ll love it I promise. It ain’t easy but then what is

Congratulations!!! I have two same sex families in my close friends circle, both with a boy.

I have 3DS, and 1 DD. They are all a delight. DS1 loves dancing, dancing, dancing, disco lights and strictly come dancing. He loves all things sparkly and glittery and putting on a show.

DS2 is all about Lego and transformers, building and engineering, but he is a very quiet and sensitive boy. He doesn't like the other boys at school much as they are a bit rough for him. So all of his friends are girls.

DS3 has just started school and is a little whirlwind. He has been since birth. He climbs, escapes and runs everywhere. And his volume is set HIGH.

They are all absolutely wonderful and different characters. And they all wear JoJo Siwa bows when my daughter wants them too.

The only real issue I have had is penis maintenance. DH takes over that (we have had a few infections over the years). Do you have a close friend who can advise if/when the times comes? DH has answered a few questions for our friends.

I had two girls first and my third is a boy. He’s still only 9 months old but to be honest so far parenting him has been exactly the same as parenting my girls, except his wee sprays further. He eats, he sleeps (rarely), he shits, he cries, he plays, he crawls, he smiles, he laughs... exactly the same as my DD’s did at this age.

@Mylittlepony374 thank you for your post, that means a lot. One of my first feelings after we found out he was a boy was guilt that he won't have a dad. I didn't feel that level guilt with my DD.

He will have a lovely granddad and godfathers so there will be male role models but it's not the same as a parent.

My boys are cuddly, funny and awesome I always wanted boys and got them.

I have a boy and a girl. Both amazing! Boy is 4 and super boisterous, noisy and rough! But tells be daily that he loves me and that I’m his best friend! Makes us all laugh hysterically and is just incredible! So very different but both wonderful!!

We've got 2 adult sons (24&22). They are both wonderful.

DS1 is the most easy going person, we've never had a row. When he was little he'd hate getting dirty, he would sit still for ages, scoot to the edge of the sofa look over and decide it was safer where he was. He's kind, funny, intelligent and loyal. He's in the army so we don't see him often anymore but he texts me every day. He rarely sees bad in people and has always been a fantastic big brother and support to DS2.

DS2 has been my shadow since he was born. His pregnancy made me disabled so that's all they've both known. He's always been incredibly caring and nurturing. He'd do his homework then lie next to me, snuggled up, rubbing my back or painting my toenails. He's an A&E nurse now, which was always his dream. When he was at uni he spent ages on YouTube learning to put old ladies' hair in rollers so that they'd feel nicer in hospital if their hair was done. He's a 6'4 gentle giant.

I love being a mum of boys

I felt the same as you and worried massively about bonding with my boy, all I wanted was girls. I wasted so much time needlessly worrying, my little boy is 2.5 and the light of my life (I have a 9 year old DD who I equally adore). He's hilarious, fiesty, so so busy and the most loving little thing. He's so much more affectionate than my DD was at this age, all he wants is to cuddle and be with me. I'd happily have another boy, he's amazing 😊

I've had 3 boys, 2 were/are the most affectionate children you're ever likely to meet. Mine have all be able to eat massive amounts, some needed wearing out like puppies and all have been interested in sport and clever. All have loved 1:1 time with their Mum, are funny and clever and make me very proud. All liked crafts when they were younger and 1 is a great cook, much better than me. I have loved having sons (and my daughter).

My DS has just turned 1, he's the most loving placid gentle child I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. He's my whole world and is much more cuddly and loving than the girls I know of similar age!

That reminds me the middle one always followed me when he was little helping me tidy, sweep put the dishwasher on. He pushed a teddy in a pushchair and had a toy kitchen.

My toddler dd does the same stuff and like the others has to run around outside for hours every day. They’re not that different, so far anyway.

And Ds loved / loves baking

My son is 17, nearly 18.

He's big, a bit grumpy now and again right now, but also sensitive, artistic, sporty and a good friend. He's as obsessed with football as he was age 7, plays in the school team, coaches the first years, and is a qualified referee. He's learning to drive, partly to help me as I'm disabled and medically unfit to drive.

He argues with his sisters, plays the piano when he's stressed and hopes to go to art school. Before that, he's planning a year abroad working with troubled teenagers in South Africa. We're going to miss him more than he'll ever know.

He's a great kid. Even now, he always has a hug for his mummy and finishes his texts to me with an X.

All the best being mummy to a son. They're great*

*so are girls. I've got 2 of those!

My ds is still cuddly and lovely at 20! Will probably change if he gets a steady girlfriend, but same could be said of any dd.

Congratulations! I have a girl and a boy. I don't think there is really much difference. You can (and, I think, should!) resist gender stereotypes as much as possible. Depending on the context, you could find your kid playing with a group of girls, or in other cases part of a group of mainly boys where there is just one or two girls. In both cases you can support them by emphasising that everyone can play together however they like, there is no such thing as 'girls' toys' and 'boys' toys' etc.

My DS is (and has always been) the loveliest, gentlest, kindest, most sensitive little boy. His sister is more dominating, if either is. And the differences are down to their own individual personalities, not their gender. Resisting gender bollox is an ongoing battle, but it's possible to raise kids to think critically about it.

I have two boys in their 20s now. They have been nothing but a joy. The toddler to 8 years were the hardest in that they were physically hard work but never less than delightful. Always gentle and affectionate, no friendship dramas, no teenage strops. As they got older they became such good company as well as being protective (with a tendency to pick me up and swing me round). I'm currently going through a difficult time health wise and they have been supportive emotionally and practically.
If I'd had a third child I would have wanted another boy.

I have a ds. I’m one of five girls, my sisters all have girls. The last boy in our family was decades ago so it didn’t occur to me I’d have a boy. When I woke up after he arrived, I told them they had made a mistake
Yet he is fab. We cycle & swim together. After 7 days he could already ski better than me, age 6. He is noisy and silly and complex. When his friends are around he rolls his eyes at me yet when they go home, he hugs me and tells me I am the best mum in the world.
I haven’t had great experiences with men, so I work hard not to take a sexist view, and equally am doing my best to raise a decent kind person.

Recently having seen something with a dv theme on tv, he said “why do men think they have the right to treat people like that?”

He is the best thing ever.