So how many of your kids were unplanned?

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Just being nosy, you can change your name. Just wondered how many Mumsnet children are unexpected/planned, how common it is. What's your score for surprise babies? Mine's 1/2.

Ds1 unplanned, 4 years earlier than we had intended to have a baby.
Ds2 also unplanned but we had intended to have another baby.
Ds3 planned, supposed to be a girl, following charts and timing sex before ovulation etc but got another boy! That timing thing doesn't work.........

Needed 8 rounds of fertility treatment, so DD was definitely planned.
Would have loved to have had an unplanned child though, it's so much easier to do the "forget the condom tonight and let's take our chances" than it is to make hard logical decisions about how much you're willing to invest in treatment [wistful look]. In fact, when we were engaged, we did do a bit of "risking it". If only we'd known then what we know now!

Both planned.

1st one planned, longed for, desperatly needed, obsessed about..

2nd one a pill-baby. big surprise, shock, dilemma, thrilling, exciting, worked out best possible way in the end!

one of my twins was unplanned

have 1 - he was unplanned
next one will be planned

DD1 Planned
DD2 Sort of planned - just a little earlier than we thought
DS1 (due nov) Nice suprise!

DS1 planned

DS2 most definatly not I was on the pill and didnt miss one!

DD1 talked about wistully alot but not actually planned

Dd1 unplanned
Dd2 planned, but very quickly (I want a baby. Has to be int he next 2 months, due to various things, or next year. Oops, pg within a minute!!!!)

oops, i put 3/3 and I meant 3/3 were planned

1.5/3 planned! DS plaaned - dd planned for one evening, then changed my mind & decided I wasn't quite ready. Too late

1 planned
2 lovely suprises!

dd1 suprise

dd2 planned

unborn child much planned!

Planning ? whats that then ?
both ds and dd totally unplanned

both sort of half planned!!!

All 3 planned in meticulous detail for our ideal age gap, and to avoid Christmas and Sumer holidays.

Dear God am I a control freak?

dd1 planned for an autumn birthday (the teacher in me)

dd2 unplanned, still breastfeeding my 5 month old, no period etc....oooppps

rapunzelle - what is your ideal age gap?

My DS1 is 4 next month and DS2 will be 18 months - don't know when (if ever) to think about number 3..

Torn between waiting until DS2 is older so I have more time to myself and the baby this time, and the fact that the 2 1/2 year age difference I have between my two is just starting to pay off as they play together really nicely now. Plus if I have a large gap between 2 and 3 will it spoil the "dynamics" of the family?

DD1 - total shock - oh right ok, looks like we're about to be parents then!

DD2 - was a sort of plannbed in the 'we won't have an oly child so at some stage we'll probably end up having anohter' way, but had been having the pill injection and took so long to get pregnant that when it happened we were both shocked and a bit like - oh, so it's happening now then, ummm ok.!

DC3 - again I liked the idea of 3 but DP and said no way, errr too late I got pregnant!

both planned

All mine were sorted of planned
DS I said to DH I would like a baby he said ok and turned out we were already 5wks pg.
DD1 Had a mc just before so we were TTC her
DD2 I stupidly said to DH oh wouldnt a Jan baby be nice as we have birthdays in oct,nov,dec and february. Dh replied yes ok but we will wait a couple of years as DD1 was 3mths. Turns out I was already pg again!!

Sad to admit, both were planned - right down to the month that they were born. I have an exactly three year age gap. I had wanted a week between their birthdays, but DD2 was a week late, so I have a two week gap. Other than that, they were both very much planned with military precision!

ummm 3/3 unplanned.
ds1 came along not long after we got married, well he was born one week exactly before our first wedding anniversary. we had planned on travelling etc and haivng kids when i was about the age i am now so 10 years early.

ds2 was a kind of planned in that we stopped using contraception about 2 years previously and relied on the withdrawal method but weren't too worried if anythign happened (sorry if tmi)

and dd was a complete surprise, actively not trying but found out at almost 4 months gone. lovely lovely surprise, was a shock and took a while to adjust but well worth it all in the end, with the move to the bigger house, bigger car, more hours at work for both of us etc etc.