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[pipsi100]

Help!!! I feel terrible !! I prefer DS1 (2.5) to DS2 (7 months)
DS1 looks just like his dad and is full of fun, wheras DS2 looks like no-one in our family and gets up at 5am everyday. My DH tells me it is just because I know DS1 better but I am really struggling to understand DS2 atall.
Is this normal ?
Am I a bad person for being dissapointed that they look nothing alike ?

no of course you are no a bad person - you just feel differently towards your childnre (not in a good or bad way - just different)

you will get to know him and it will be fine - you have loads to cope with and so go easy on yourself rather than thinking you are a bad person along with everything else you have to cope with.

Thanks, it is all change, I guess with DS1 it was such a bolt from the blue kind of love, whereas this ones a slow burner...... I hope DS2 will grow into his looks as seriously I wonder if they gave me the right baby.

here is a previous thread to show you you are not the only one.

and another

Thanks for that it has been a help to know I am not alone...... as with so many of these things! Love is a many splendid thing....