Growing up sucks.... anyone else feel this way?

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So, this is my first post, hello.... I’m a mother of 2.

Basically, my issue is that I’ve found myself to be quite lost (that’s an oxymoron and a half). I feel like I’ve spent all this time focusing on raising my kids that I now am at a stage where they want more independence and have their own little clubs and things to be doing and I’m just sat waiting.... sort’ve hoping they’ll need me for something?! This sounds crazy lol because I remember when I would’ve given my right arm to have gotten 5 minutes peace but now I have it, I don’t like it lol. This begs the question.... are we ever REALLY happy?

The kids have gone with their grandmother now and won’t be back until Sunday evening. I’m sitting here, completely lost. Tried putting on a movie and lost interest ... then cried a little , which I know is silly (lol) and now I’m sitting writing this. I guess what I’m really asking is.... how to have a life that is just for me? It’s like, somewhere along the way, I forgot that I wasn’t just a mother, that I was also ...me? Hopefully someone gets what I mean.

Thanks

Ah yes. Years of thinking ‘I’m not just so and sos mum’! But I had over 40 years before kids so it was just a pause really. I’ve maintained my interests and now they are teens I feel I’ve got more of my life back. Also have flexibility to socialise (I’m self employed) and do stuff while they’re in school, and the freedom to go out at night (not often!) without stressing about babysitters. It’s a slow process and may not coincide but as they need you less you need them less.