Airy fairy parents

[Justamum28]

Is it just me or do others find the perfect parent airy fairy earth mother brigade SO irritating. Always trying to make people feel like not good enough parents because you don’t co-sleep or didn’t breastfeed or heaven forbid you used controlled crying!! Your child doesn’t eat healthy enough, are your nappies eco friendly, has your child been out 7 days a week. Just seems to be happening a lot more often these days

I honestly don't care how other people choose to parent their dc, each to their own and all.

There are judgey dicks in all walks of life, not limited to parenting choices.

@TheLastPharl you should keep quiet about it unless someone asks for your opinion which I doubt anyone would. It's nothing to do with you how someone else parents unless like pp said they are abusing their children then you would report them. We all have differing opinions that's life doesn't mean your way of parenting is unnecessary the best way.

@AnxiousMcAnxiousFace

You don’t sound like a very nice person.

And you sound like a lovely person judging somebody from one post. I don't understand how she doesn't like a nice person for expressing her annoyance on overbearing parents who can do no wrong and judge other parents. I agree with her it is annoying it doesn't make you not nice person to have this opinion. I think your statement says more about you than it does about OP.

@teaandbiscuitsforme tbf I don't think op is judging mums who do all the ways you parent I think she's just saying to all the mums that do why judge others and make them feel like they're doing a shit job just because they aren't doing the same. (I'm not saying this is what you do btw).

pops That may be true but then why start a goady thread with a goady thread title? If her intentions were to support all parenting types then surely that's what she would have posted? Instead she gave the platform for it to turn into a bunfight.

Thank you @popsadaisy I chose to ignore those comments as I knew they’d happen tbh 😂 and if that’s what people take from my post that is their problem, I was just wondering if other mums felt the same as me that’s all 🤷‍♀️ and @teaandbiscuitsforme I do support all parent types, but you NEVER hear someone who formula feeds Question why someone breast feeds etc.. if you saw my post as a platform for mums to fight against each other again I think that’s your issue. It absolutely was not, more a place for mums who are constantly critisized and feel belittled to feel better and know they are not inferior to the mothers who constantly question what they do and recently ALL you hear is why don’t you breastfeed. Breast is best, controlled crying is abuse, can’t believe you feed your child sugar, etc etc that’s just MY experience

I have ABSOLUTELY heard people who formula fed ask me why I breast fed. Often. So maybe it depends on who you meet. I was constantly asked why he wouldn't have a bottle and why I didn't just formula feed and why I was still feeding at 18 months... So I still think you're being unreasonable to single out choices and make comments about them.

It's just another instance of women judging other women. The world would be a much better place if we started from the assumption that parents are making the best decisions for their families and their personal circumstances.

No I'm sorry just but I'm calling you out on that one. You did not start this thread to be supportive to one type of parenting style without judgement of other ways. You deliberately chose 'airy fairy' and repeated it in your OP. You chose it to get a reaction. If you hadn't wanted that, you would have gone for 'supporting all parenting styles' or something generic.

And I agree with kmama. As a BF mum you are constantly questioned about why you are still feeding and all the other shite that people want to suggest to 'fix' your perfectly normal baby.

@kmammamalto well they are just as bad, I’m just speaking from my perspective as that’s all I can do..

@teaandbiscuitsforme oh please, behave, if the language I use offends you then don’t read it, don’t comment. Simple really. I am sick of it the ‘perfect’ mothers lording it over everyone so yeah that’s how I feel 👍🏻🤗

I'm not a perfect mother. I never said that. Nor have I commented on your parenting or anybody else's.

I said calling parents airy fairy is goady. It is.

The problem is that some of these 'airy fairy' mums aren't actually telling you how to parent. You have taken it that way. I find people get defensive and angry when I simply answer questions they have asked. "Do you breastfeed?' 'Yes' then suddenly I'm 'judging' them.
They don't know that dd wouldn't latch and I pumped for months and faced the same judgement as FF mums with the harem pants brigade. Same with cloth nappies, Forrest school, co-sleeping, living in an eco conscious way. I am not saying you should make the same choices, I'm just saying how I do things. Don't assume that I'm judging you!

I breastfed for four years and co-slept. My child is now in her mid-thirties and I can safely say I did the right things.

Yes. I was right. And so are today’s ‘airy fairy parents’. Treat your child with love, concern, empathy. You still won’t get everything right but you’ll be giving it your best shot.

‘Controlled crying’ is appalling - teaching the child to cry alone until it learns not to cry because no-one is going to come.

@barryfromclareisfit that’s wonderful for you.. really it is. But that does not make you a better parent to those who did things differently I’m afraid 😊 I know plenty of well turned out 30 year olds who weren’t bought up like that. And not doing those things is not not treating your child with empathy and love it’s just a different approach to parenting. And no controlled crying is NOT cruel. It depends on a number of factors age, type of cry etc... a child crying will not hurt it. Fact

I also co slept but after 2 I’d had enough, yes she cried for a few days, yes she’s fine now 😊 and @ExtraPineappleExtraHam I’m not really talking about the ones who ask you do you breastfeed but that is more often than not followed by ... why not ..... like it’s their business and then to educate you on why it’s best. Mmm best for some not all

That’s not what controlled crying is Barry.

CC is continually returning, at slightly extended periods to reassure. Leave, return after a minuteX leave return after two minutes.

It isn’t leaving a baby to cry until it falls asleep out of exhaustion.

Hmm. Actually, it does. But you are free to think otherwise. I don’t mind.

@barryfromclareisfit so you believe your a better parent for breastfeeding a child til school age and co sleeping compared with a parent who formula fed and never co slept ? You are exactly who my post was about. I can assure you it does not make you a ‘better’ parent 😃

You are criticising women for doing what is the natural and biologically normal way of raising babies 😂

@sockworkshop obviously haven’t read my post, I’m all for this kind of parenting what I’m not for is the current trend of ‘ if you don’t do this too your inferior’

I don’t engage with career mothers (it’s always mothers). They’re too OTT for my patience.

Who the fuck cares.... Just be as good a parent as you can manage each day.

There is absolutely no need for this thread except to start a bun fight.

You’re wrong Barry, I’m afraid you’ve misunderstood what it is.

Where do people meet this volume of judgy mums?? I either haven't listened or my friends are normal nice people who discuss things other than babies!
Fed, warm, clean, safe, loved. Be nice. Mind your own business!