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How many Mum's are in photos

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POPPY1490 · 16/04/2019 10:54

I recently sat down and looked over all the photos of my daughters first year. I only have a handful where I'm in them. I found myself counting the photos and found that I'm only in about 50 photos of her first year.
I so wish I had more. I feel sad I don't have many more of the two of us. Am I the only one feeling this way or are other mums absent in photos to x

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Seeline · 16/04/2019 10:58

Mine are in their teens and I doubt that I have 50 photos where I am with either of them!

My DH just isn't into photos - hates being in them, but never thinks to take them of me with the kids (he is not techy either so still relies on having an actual camera rather than snapping away on a phone).

Now the DCs hate having their picture taken too...…..

englishdictionary · 16/04/2019 10:58

50 is loads. I don't even have 50 photos of my DC's from just one year.

cariadlet · 16/04/2019 10:59

50 sounds a hell of a lot to me. But I'm old enough to remember the pre-digital days when camera film was precious and we took a fraction of the photos that people take now.

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noenergy · 16/04/2019 11:28

50 is a lot. I don't even have that many if DC in 1 year, I only take photos on special occasions or if we r having a special day out. Or holiday

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Imicola · 16/04/2019 14:39

I've been reminding /asking DH to take photos with me in them every few weeks, otherwise they are all of baby alone, or him plus baby! Annoying.

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POPPY1490 · 16/04/2019 16:27

It's the same with videos I wish I had more of them when she was little. It's not till u look back over them you realise what little u have ☹️

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brizzlemint · 16/04/2019 16:31

There is only one photo of me, full stop.

Eggstatic · 16/04/2019 16:38

I think 50 for one year is quite a lot but I understand what you mean. I only have a handful with my first but I've taken more with them as the years have gone on. I've made sure I at least have some because I only have one picture with my mum and that was taken a few years ago, weird to think we didn't have a single one before then and now she's no longer around so I'm glad I have that one picture

SalemSpellman · 16/04/2019 17:05

I've said to my husband that my DD is going to think I wasn't part of her life for the first year because I'm hardly in any photos!

Shockers · 16/04/2019 17:13

I have thousands of photos of DH with our (now older) children. There are very few of me with them; nobody else ever thinks to take photos.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 16/04/2019 18:43

There are very few photos of me between birth until I'm about 17. Three that I know of, two that I have.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 16/04/2019 18:46

I have less than 50 photos of me with my son's and they are 19 and 16. I hate having my photo taken.

LorelaiRoryEmily · 16/04/2019 18:49

I don’t have many with me and ds when he was a baby. Dh just didn’t think to take them. I actually had a bit of a meltdown with him one day over it. His sister was here and holding ds and they were playing and dh went rushing to get his phone and take a photo. I was so upset.
When he asked what was wrong I asked him to show me how many photos he had of me and ds and he had about 5. He had loads of ds with mil,fil and sils and sweet fuck all of me.
The apparently insignificant person who gave birth to ds.
He’s much better now but there’s still more of him

CalamityJune · 16/04/2019 18:56

I have very few photos of me with DS and the ones I do have are either crap selfies or ones that I have asked to be taken and so inevitably are cringey.

I've got so many nice moments of DH where neither of them even knew I was taking photos.

I don't even have the classic, sat up proudly holding him in the hospital bed one Just the sweaty, veiny boobed, twenty chins skin to skin post birth snap.

BlueAndYellowPurplePills · 16/04/2019 19:02

This is me too.
My Dp never ever thinks to take photos. We went out today I took 130 phots of the kids and a few with him in. None of me. I didn’t even do a selfie.
My kids will think he brought them up alone. 😭🤬

Shelbybear · 16/04/2019 19:35

50 is loads. I have 15ish if I'm lucky of us both. I take so many photos and videos of her but not really with us both. Think we have 1 pic of the 3 of us which is really bad, she's 2 now.

sanmiguel · 16/04/2019 21:33

Mine are 11 plus and I'd say I have no more than 11 pics of me and DC and they're prob selfies!

Flicketyflack · 16/04/2019 21:43

I have noticed this too!

I also have less than five of my husband, me and my children either or as babies or now....

We have taken more group selfies but that means we are always just a group of heads

Flicketyflack · 16/04/2019 21:43

I have noticed this too!

I also have less than five of my husband, me and my children either or as babies or now....

We have taken more group selfies but that means we are always just a group of heads

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POPPY1490 · 17/04/2019 09:13

Thank you to you all. I thought I was the only one feeling this way over photographs. I'm going to start asking my family to take the odd photo of us together.

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CadburysTastesVileNow · 17/04/2019 20:47

On the other hand: once you have dc number 2, you won't even take 50 photos !

LonelyTiredandLow · 19/04/2019 04:40

I'm a single parent, so I noticed this very early on.
Get a selfie stick and try to remember to take one of you as a group when you get to whatever day trip you do, is my advice.
I love taking photos though and sometimes am glad no one is pointing the camera at me. Yes, if you have a partner they should/could help, but from what i've heard from married friends it doesn't seem to be the case. So take it into your own hands!

Ohhellothereladyface · 19/04/2019 19:48

OP I feel your pain! I’m constantly taking photos of DD, and DD with OH/ DD with her little friends etc and sometimes I realise it looks like I don’t exist! I sometimes worry she will look through photos when she’s older and think I never did anything with her because it doesn’t look like I’m even there!

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