Would you be mad?

[3milygrac3]

Hi all, so basically my partner has planned for weeks to go night fishing this weekend meaning he'll be away for Mother's Day.. it's my first Mother's Day which I've been really looking forward too thinking that he was joking and that he would pull something out the bag (even just a slice of toast and a cuppa in bed 😂). I did drop a hint that it was Mother's Day but he's genuinely going in a couple of hours and I can't help but feel a bit gutted deep down that I'll be spending my first one still up to my eyeballs in poo'y nappies! 😫😫 How would everybody else feel? Am I overreacting?

Thank you :)

I don’t think you can complain if you have know about this for weeks and not said anything earlier.

You should have been more explicit with him. If it really bothers you you could've told him weeks ago. In any case, I think you're overthinking it. It's Mother's Day, you'll have these for the rest of your life.

It’s just a day, op. Invented by Hallmark. Mothering Sunday was originally a day for visiting your mother church, not celebrating mothers.

I'd be a little mad too OP. Even if it was a day invented by Hallmark, it's a prime opportunity to show his appreciation for everything you have done.

It is true you should have been a little more explicit in how you feel. But I don't blame you for not thinking he was serious. It's quite inconsiderate of him.

As to the pp who said you'll have Mother's Days for the rest of your life, I can definitely relate to the first one being special. Maybe PPs have older kids and are over the novelty.

Would I be mad, no.

Bring on Fathers Day,l suggest a weekend away with girl friends or even by yourself.

I would be upset too but make sure you plan something on Father’s Day for yourself! 😉

Does he not make you tea and toast any other day?

I would be exceptionally cross! Do you have a mum, grandma, Aunt you can celebrate the day with? And make very sure you aren’t available of Father’s Day! It’s a very poor show!

I have learnt that I need to really spell things out for my other half - dropping hints about what I want really doesn't work, just makes me feel resentful when he doesn't pick up on them. It would have been better to say something really clear when it was first mentioned but since presumably arrangements have been made, maybe you can have a constructive conversation about what you would like to happen next year? Maybe it just hasn't crossed his mind that to you this is up there with your birthday and Christmas if maybe it's not that important to him.

I think you are over reacting. Firstly, think about how does he treats you and how much time does he spends with you. If he is a good husband, then don't let such days make any difference between you two. I know it is mother's day but remember it is just a day. I work at a www.prodissertationhelp.co.uk corporate and there are women here who shows up on mother's day as well and over stay too because of the work load. Live happy and don't over think about things which won't benefit you.