I'm a single Dad, hope you dont mind me joining your forum

[Billy1976]

Hi.

My name is Billy, I'm 31 and I'm from South Wales.

Sadly I lost my lovely wife to Leukaemia only a few months ago and now I am a single parent. Its hard for me but I am strong, and so determined to bring up my 2 beautiful children in a loving environment.

I know this is a 'mums' forum, but I'd really appreciate any tips help or feedback any of you can offer me.

I hope to talk to you soon

Kind regards

Billy

Hi Billy,

I think there's a Dad's part on here, so there will be other guys to talk to as well as ladies, it's definitely not just for mum's. And there are plenty of single parents on here too.

You sound like a fabulous Dad, your girls are very lucky to have you.

awight biily me mate. so youre a single daddy right. like. wow. hard? i is a single mum. LOL! only 16 but. jerome the father hes a b@stard right. fooked off as soon as he knew i wz carryin. his mate sebastian is the dad to the new one in my incoobator. fink they punchd on when i told jerome. hope sebbi is a better dad coz jerome only comes round when hes drunk and needs a shag.

like flies to shi..............

got room for me in your council flat for me and my kid (and one on the way) billyboy?

i hate dalston. i clean good. cook you a proper fryup innit and i love being tossed round the bedroom like a ragdoll.

why is there the presumption that someone posting on here as a widower, is looking for a date? or is having a laugh?

it is not beyond the realms of possibility that the OP has lost his wife, and is looking for support and guidance.

I know there was a male OP the other week, who approached this more as a dating forum ,but i don;t see that here

mumsnet.. is by parents, for parents, not just mums...

Well that msg has probably put him off for life- God I hate mumsnet sometimes.

not you lulu, i meant cortina or whatever shes called

ffs! thats just too much 'cortnie'! really out of order, this is someone coming to mn for a chat and support, like the rest of us - I don't think he needs to be hearing this shit1

Cortnie, not very funny on this thread love

Billy please don't listen to some of the more stupid posts the majority of us are very nice

I am so sorry to hear about your wife i hope you are getting the support you need.
Please do join in the friendly banter on mumsnet though it is a laugh and you can mett some great friends.

sorry billy i should not make jokes like that.

Billy

Welcome to this forum. You will find a lot of support here and in the main, it is a friendly site. There is a men's room where the men can discuss men type things.

I'm really sorry about your loss and wish you all the best for the future.

I think we are proving to Billy that there's always a f&*$wit in every group... the rest of us are great though!

Welcome, Billy! I find it hard enough to be one parent to my 2 DDs, let alone to be both mum and dad, so I wish you much luck.

(Ignore the silly children below ...)

Welcome Billy.

Hope you find MN useful.

Sorry to hear of your recent loss.

Join the Dads forum, I'm sure you won't get so harrassed in there!

Hiya Billy

So sorry to hear about your wife

As you have probably realised, everyone on here is mad but a lovely bunch.

Have fun

Hello again Billy,

Just a thought. If you ever need it (and if they're in your area) Homestart are a great organisation. If you need a bit of help/advice/breathing space! They can match you with a volunteer in your area who will come to your house at an agreed time each week / month etc to help out with the children and to offer you support and advice. You get to choose when they come and how long for. You also get to choose how they help. i.e they play with your little ones whilst you go and catch up with the gardening. Or they can be there to just have a bit of adult company.

I started using Homestart when I was suffering with PND, and I still have my volunteer come to me now. Actually we've become firm friends.

If you think they might be of use to you, google homestart.

Hi Billy

I too am sorry to hear about your loss.
I hope you're getting all the support you need at this time. Don't forget yourself while thinking about your children.

As you must have gathered by now, you're very welcome on Mumsnet and we are all here with advice, wisdom and silly comments whenever you need them.

Hi Billy
I'm sorry for your loss. Mumsnet is (mostly!) a great place with lots of tremendously supportive members. There are a couple of idiots - you've probably spotted them already - but the rest of us are relatively sane. Welcome.
How are your daughters doing?

Welcome Billy

I am so sorry for your loss. My sister died when my niece and nephew were 4 and 6. My brother in law worked full time and brought them up too. They are now 13 and 16 and are great kids. It is hard but BIL has done a great job and the relationship he has with his children is wonderful to see.

Take care and welcome to mn

Welcome Billy, you are certainly not the only male on Mumsnet... there are a few of us around.

4 & 6 are delightful ages, they are so full of energy. Enjoy each day as it comes.

Sorry to hear about your loss, hope you and your DD's (darling daughters, see Ancronym List) are coping well and getting support from friends, family and any organisations involved.

I'm saddened to see the amount of 'Flaming' thats going on in this forum

Is this normal behaviour??

no

I hope not, its awful.

I came on here for a bit of help/advice/friendly chat and some of the shocking things I have seen have made me feel quite upset if I'm honest

SEAstra is right - it's not normally like this, but we do tend to get a lot of teenage boys posing as mothers on here during the school holidays. You'll soon figure out who the regulars are and which posts not to touch with a barge pole.

Anyway, welcome to MN. Please stick with us - most people are helpful and friendly. MN has been invaluable to me in the past year!