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I feel so bad :((

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 07:52

My dd rolled off the bed this morning and I can't help but feel like such a s&&& mum!! She was asleep and I went to change her nappy as it was full and she rolled over and fell off :(( she was crying and screaming as clearly scared and the shock of it all then stopped she has a bit of milk then tried to sleep but she won't sleep as I think she's still upset. She's talking away but I can't help feel so bad and my OH will use it against me :( has anyone ever had there lo do anything like this :( I'm so paranoid so I'm taking her doctors then probably a and e as I've been googling for hours and have seen story's of baby's having brain damage from falls as small as 2ft :((

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Justdontknow5 · 20/03/2019 07:56

You aren't a shit mum. Dont worry she will be fine just keep an eye on her like I'm pretty sure you are. This happened to my friend, both her kids rolled off the bed it's very common. Oh and don't Google they'll just be horrid stories.

Justdontknow5 · 20/03/2019 07:57

OH with hold it against you, Why?

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 07:59

@Justdontknow5 she kept crying and he was saying it's my fault leaving her unnatended which I know it is even tho it was a split second I was right next to her , if we argue I could just see him saying it to upset me as it's a bad thing that's happened

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 08:01

@Justdontknow5 she's only 8 months

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 20/03/2019 08:02

Lots of babies fall off beds. Yours isn't the first and it won't be the last.

Your partner needs it pointing out that you are both parents, if he's so good at it, maybe he should be doing all of the nappy changes?

GirlfriendInAKorma · 20/03/2019 08:05

My youngest rolled off the sofa and sounds like yours - cried quite a bit but then settled down. You have to be so careful once they can move!

Your OH doesn't sound supportive of you and you sound anxious about what he thinks.

Justdontknow5 · 20/03/2019 08:08

Every single parent makes mistakes and I'm pretty sure your OH will too at some point its just something that happens you can't have eyes in your arse. I have a nearly 8 month old and he's always toppling over because he's exploring, when he does hurt him self me and DP never blame each other its just something that happens and wouldn't bri g it up in arguments to upset one another.

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 08:30

@JiltedJohnsJulie yep he's asleep whilst I'm up. Again

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 08:31

@Justdontknow5 I keep replaying it in my head the noise when she landed and looking at her on the floor it's just horrible

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Justdontknow5 · 20/03/2019 08:38

I know what you mean its awful my son hurt his face on one of his toys, he fell onto it while he was sat up and cried and cried I was close to tears it's not nice seeing them upset. But your DP needs to realise he's a parent too. Does he work? Why is he in bed and you're up with baby, again?

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 09:04

@Justdontknow5 nope doesn't work he did but it got closed :) May aswell be a single parent at this rate

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Divgirl2 · 20/03/2019 09:05

Mine crawled off the bed at about the same age, he's fine. In terms of your LO I wouldn't worry too much. Babies are much more resilient than we give them credit for and it was a genuine mistake.

Your DP on the other hand sounds like a pathetic excuse for a person. If he's usually like this then I'd seriously be considering whether this is a healthy relationship I want my child growing up thinking is normal.

Justdontknow5 · 20/03/2019 09:10

Yes you might as well it sounds like you are if he's just laying in bed and he doesn't sound supportive at all. Get his lazy arse up. Do you take it in turns to have a lay in?

Justdontknow5 · 20/03/2019 09:11

Does he do much with your LO?

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 09:12

@Divgirl2 he's lovely with her when he bothers but yeah it's just one sided at the moment

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 09:15

@Justdontknow5 I'm taking her to the doctors at 10 just because I'm to paranoid not to. I always get up in mornings on my own and get her to sleep have done for the whole 8 months. I do it all he plays with her makes her laugh but he doesn't take her out or want to come anywhere with us. He has anxiety but even then I don't think anxiety would stop u doing anything in the home. I'm 20 and feel like a 90 year old

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Babdoc · 20/03/2019 09:19

OP, I think all mums could tell you horror tales of their babies having this type of accident! It’s very common, as soon as babies get wriggly and mobile.
I remember one day when my two year old fell down the stairs and my one year old toppled backwards out of the patio doors headfirst onto a concrete step, within minutes of each other. I sat there thinking that if I rocked up at A and E with the pair of them, no one would ever believe it was an accident!
Don’t beat yourself up over it. Your baby sounds fine. However much you hover over them, kids will always find ways to have accidents and give you a fright.

Noodledoodlesandspud · 20/03/2019 09:20

Ds1 rolled off a sofa onto a stone floor once, I called an ambulance as I was sure he'd cracked his skull. Paramedic arrived and ds (approx 6 months) was happy as anything. They checked him over and he was fine. I kept replaying it on my head (can still hear the sound now 5 years later).
Other dc have then fallen off sofas/beds. Unfortunately it happens, keep an eye on him to make sure there's nothing underlying but I'm sure he's fine. Why is your oh being an arse? It was an accident and he should be helping you not blaming you.

Springisallaround · 20/03/2019 09:23

Have done exactly the same, baby fine, me a mess. I'm sure if your LO seems normal, then she's fine. You are not a shit mum, babies are rolly and unpredictable, and this has happened to pretty much most babies I know!

Nevo · 20/03/2019 09:31

My little one did this too at 7 months. I kept hearing the thump and remembering the look on his little upset face too. It hurt my heart! He was absolutely fine and stopped crying as soon as I picked him up but it was definitely a mistake I'll never make again x

Justdontknow5 · 20/03/2019 09:33

Oh love it's not meant to be like that. Hes her parent too and you should be looking after her together. Making her laugh and playing is all well and good but he needs to buck his ideas up and do more alot more! He just sounds bloody useless. Have you got other support? Family and friends?

boomboom1234 · 20/03/2019 09:34

Be kind to yourself. You know what, it happens. We aren't perfect just because we have a child. Both mine have fallen off the bed and the sofa and I was cross with myself just like you. Now you know how wriggly she is you will be more aware. Don't worry too much op xxx

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 09:40

@Noodledoodlesandspud thank you going doctors to be safe and that's men for u my one anyway 🥴

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CabbageHippy · 20/03/2019 09:40

@mum2onex - how old is she?

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mum2onex · 20/03/2019 09:41

@Justdontknow5 I have no idea what it is supposed to be like this seems normal to me 🥴 I have support but not in the way I'd want it if that makes sense , I'm not bothered about me I just care for my lo so much :(

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