I feel so bad :((

[mum2onex]

My dd rolled off the bed this morning and I can't help but feel like such a s&&& mum!! She was asleep and I went to change her nappy as it was full and she rolled over and fell off :(( she was crying and screaming as clearly scared and the shock of it all then stopped she has a bit of milk then tried to sleep but she won't sleep as I think she's still upset. She's talking away but I can't help feel so bad and my OH will use it against me :( has anyone ever had there lo do anything like this :( I'm so paranoid so I'm taking her doctors then probably a and e as I've been googling for hours and have seen story's of baby's having brain damage from falls as small as 2ft :((

@CabbageHippy 8 months nearly 9

@boomboom1234 thank you xxxx

Stop being so harsh on yourself! It happens to everyone and babies are fast. Your OH needs to realise that it just happens and you're not to blame. I'm attaching a photo of an Instagram account that is a good and realistic view of parenting and what happened to her little boy when he rolled. Sh*t happens, as long as baby is okay then stop worrying and ignore your OH.

Oh sweetheart she will be fine. I think most of us have had babies rolling off sofas and beds. You haven’t done anything wrong. Hope you can sort things with your oh.

Look after you and baby that's all that matters and remember you aren't a shit mum. Hope you get the reasurrence you need off the doctor. Sorry this thread is about you feeling bad about your DD not your OH. Just concentrate on you and baby.

Aw OP, this is so common. I fell asleep feeding DD when she was very tiny at about 3am. I was petrified and took her straight to Casualty (living overseas and her father had left so couldn't call anyone). I was imagining her being removed from my care. Anyway the doctor said exactly what a PP said - she's not the first baby to roll onto the floor and she won't be the last.

Oh, I missed out the bit that I woke up to her screaming and lying on the floor!

@OutingOutlander wow she must have worried. I took my dd to doctors and she is ok they said. I was imaging bumps apparently because they didn't see any new and they know how to spot something about the blood vessels making it swell so it'd be a bruise etc. Thank u for this I'm glad I'm not the only one Still feel bad though aha x

@RickOShay thank you. I'm a ftm so soon as it happened I thought the worst. I keep forgetting she is bigger now but wow I don't know how I'd of reacted if she was newborn 😬😬 xx

@Justdontknow5 doctor said she ok thank u for all ur advice and reassurance. And my oh is useless but I haven't yet a man that isn't , didn't think I'd be worrying about a man at this age lol , as long as lo is ok I'm happy as ever xx

@Lobsterquadrille2 wow it is horrible isn't it :( she was screaming and crying to like I said and that's what makes it even worse because you think are they hurt?? Is it shock? What do I Do! What can I do other than get her to a doctor to be sure , I make it worse for myself by looking at google seeing all these things about baby's falling how they get this and that from a tiny fall and made me panick even more. Doctor said I don't know one parent that hasn't come in here that hasn't had this issue so that helped. I wish babys had a protective barrier so if they fell they'd just laugh and not feel anything or be hurt or scared 😓😂

Right, so DD is fine. I’m not worried about her...she has a lovely Mum.

I’m worried about you.

You would be SO much better off being a single Mum. He’s not helping you physically or emotionally. I know you said you’re not worried for you, & I can’t change that with a few words on a screen, but you love your DD...leave him for her. She needs to grow up strong and self assured and she will NOT if she grows up living with him. She deserves better than that.

I'm glad your DD is OK and now you have the reasurrence you needed from the doctor. Good, just concentrate on you and your little girl

@IncrediblySadToo he lives with me and if I was to get rid of him I think he would be on the streets. The way it is he isn't in my way anyway, I don't really notice him unless I go into our bedroom where he stays, dp thinks he can't do much with her being so little but when she starts walking he will be able to take her out etc. Not sure what he's on about tbh it's like don't make me do all the hard work then when she's grown you start , if that makes sense? I know my self worth but atm just to tired to care lol X

@mum2onex so glad to hear that she is ok. Mine must have been less than six weeks old, thinking about it, because that's when I went back to work and I know I was on maternity leave when it happened. Babies are pretty resilient and you sound like a lovely, caring mother.

You are however not responsible for your partner.

Seriously op cut yourself some slack. These things happen. You were not negligent and you are clearly devoted to her.

I am more concerned that your dp would 'use it against you' why on earth would he do that?

@Lobsterquadrille2 thank you. Mother to one but raising 2😅xx

@Springwalk not so much against me but if we argue he might be like well u let ur child fall off a bed blah as when we argue which is rare mainly he has nothing to say so I've given him something now. Even tho it was an accident and he didn't exactly rush to help

This is a parental rite of passage. I've genuinely never met any parent whom this hasn't happened to.

I dropped my mobile phone on my son's head when he was two weeks old!!!

PS your partner sounds like a knob btw, I think that's your actual problem here!

@saxatablesalt aha bless u! I bet he was like wth was that mum 😰 my problem isn't my lo now as she's ok according to doctor even tho I'll probably tell myself she still isn't (don't know why) and yeah that's the only issue now my oh

Please don't worry. My first son rolled off the bed onto a wooden floor at 9 months. Second son rolled off me (I'd fallen asleep feeding him) and onto the floor at 8 days! Both were absolutely fine. Like you I felt like the shittiest mum ever but I was just knackered and doing the best I could. They're remarkably resilient and though both screamed their heads off they were right as rain. Babies can sense your anxiety so try to relax. Maybe focus instead on sorting your domestic situation. Your partner doesn't sound like a great person to be around for either you or your daughter.

@NanooCov he isn't nasty in anyway but I just feel like I felt so bad at what had happened and it was my fault but an accident he might feel the same and be mad I let it happen as she's only young but wow your story makes me feel a bit better lol I'm not alone people have told me they have done it to as horrible as it seems and sounds. I'm glad she can't remeber it. Wish I could be the same For the last few days she has stopped drinking her normal amount? Did ur baby's ever do this? I put a thread up but no one has answered. Did they go through a stage of drinking less for any reason? Should I be worried?

I'd say it's pretty normal. My son has off days which he doesn't have much milk or solids. He's on 8oz bottle sometimes only has 4oz, iv noticed when he's having his off days it's due to teething usually. maybe something your DD is going through?

Also remember food is for fun before 1yo. So if she's not that into it try not to worry.

It won't make you feel better now but your DD will probably have other little accidents because you won't always realise that she can move/reach things until she has done it! All you can do is make sure that you make your home as safe as possible and keep really dangerous things well out of reach. You are doing really well because it sounds as if you are virtually a single mum. The ONLY thing that your OH can't do with HIS daughter is breastfeeding (and some help with that with expressing). Also, he can do any household tasks. He doesn't get to opt out then criticise you. Surely, he could take responsibility for a while and let you sleep?

Babies do go through hungrier and less hungry phases. You have just had DD checked out by your GP so as long as she seems happy and active enough she will be getting enough to drink.