which generally " accepted" parenting protocols do you not go along wiht

[codJane]

here

cleanign babies teeth - never really bothered

[fannyannie]

I have their feet measured at Clarks.......then go off to Woolies or the other cheaper shoe shops in town to buy their shoes.

TV not restricted

DS1 spends most of his weekend afternoons on the PS2.

[ghosty]

Mine slept on their sides to the horror of HVs et al
I only changed clothes if seriously disastrous leaky pooey nappy ...
Was anal about bathtime with DS but not DD (she once had porridge in her hair for 3 days)
things like plug guards and finger guards on doors - never did that. If they trap their fingers in doors playing silly buggers they won't do it again will they?
And other 'baby proofing' ... never put things out of reach ... except knives and scissors maybe.

[GreensleevesSusan]

From now on I would like everyone to call me GreenySue

[MrsCarrot]

I've never wanted to take my babies swimming with all that horrible chlorine, also I can practically see varrucas and fungus on the floor, yuck.

In fact DD went so rarely she came home once and said 'Isobel says she goes swimming every saturday but you can't go swimming in the winter can you, Mummy?'

[saadia]

We too never bothered with stairgates, haven't yet put ds2 (3.5) into nursery and hardly ever took him to toddler groups, don't bath every day, don't force them to say hello to people if they don't want to.

The one thing I really don't agree with is the "eat what I've cooked or go without" mentality. I know they won't starve but I can't let them go hungry, I will offer alternatives if they don't like something. They have not turned out all that fussy

[fannyannie]

"If they trap their fingers in doors playing silly buggers they won't do it again will they? "

Well - although I don't have door guard things DS2 hasn't learned not to do things if they result in injury - climbing on the back of the highback recliner chairs - he's fallen off and several occasions and STILL doesn't get that it hurts when he falls

[jackie2kids]

Naughty step.

We live in a bungalow so DCs have been spared.

[mslucy]

Lots of lovely telly.

Cake

Slack about bedtimes

Sleeps in our bed quite often

let him sip wine and even the odd drop of cider.

[OrmIrian]

All of them. Started off following some but by child no 3 they'd all gone by the board. Play things by ear. Chez ormirian is very slack .

[OrmIrian]

Re public swimming pools. We took our 3 to our local 'fun' pool last weekend. It smelt like stale fish that had been marinated in chlorine. Totally foul. If the kids wouldn't have mutinied I'd have turned round and walked out.

[codJane]

i think a lot of oyu lot make out the wimmign thing id to do wiht hygeind but really its cos you cant eb arsed

[ELF1981]

I hate the new one of not saying naughty 'cause it lables the child not the act.

If she is drawing on my walls (not that she would dare lol) then I'll damn well call her naughty!!

I do like her routine though. She fell into it herself, and we just let her get on with it. Is it a routine though when we didn't force it upon her?

[codJane]

that was aroudn when i strated teachign in 1992
crap theory then

[smugmumofboys]

Never did the bedtime 'dream feed'. I just could never bring myself to wake a sleeping baby. They are asleep for a reason, no?

[hotcrumpets]

moving stuff out of the way so they don't touch/break/play with it "DON'T TOUCH THE SPEAKERS/PHOTOS/DVD PLAYER" works better and my house doesn't look empty

as a result DD goes to other peoples houses and doesn't touch their stuff which they always seem amazed at

[TutterJane]

as i only have one, i'm not sure am qualified to join in (still have preciousnesses) (e.g. take ds to loads of classes and stuff)

but

if he fancies nutella on his toast so be it

think naughty step idea insane

allow him to turn tv in playroom on/off

teeth brushing a v lame affair - chews on battery operated brush (not for the under-3s apparently) for a couple of mins then lobs it into the sink

[codJane]

richard madely deos that too
( the toothbrush thing)
wrememebr judy moanign abotu it

[OrmIrian]

I can clearly remember being virtually in tears to the HV (PFB syndrome) about not being able to brush DS#1's teeth. He hated it and as soon as he was old enough would run away, scream, thrash his head around desperately trying to escape the demon bristles. But she told me that I just had to persevere. If SS had been called to DS#'s howls of anguish as I virtually knelt on the poor child trying to brush his teeth, it would have been her fault! And he is now the one with the toothbrush phobia and the fillings - his younger siblings whom I left in flouride and brush-free bliss most of the time have perfect teeth and clean them willingly and thorougly.

[plummymummy]

I do not force ds (3) to eat food he doesn't like. I re-offer it several times but he is a stubborn child and can wait it out. When that fails I bribe him with a dessert. Oh you would think this is high treason if you saw the look on the HVs face when I told her how I get him to eat veggies. Agree about no need to bath every night - we do alternate nights. Not anal about routine and find this helps when we go on holiday or visit friends.

[SilentTerror]

Have never attended any sort of 'group' with any of my 4;full of other people's children.
Have never had number 4 weighed since birth.
Never sterilised anything once we got a dishwasher.
Use CBeebies frequently.
In fact,do anything to make my life easier.Being nearly at the end of stroppy teenagedom with DD1 have decided to conserve all energies for another three lots.Life is to short to puree carrots!

[lucyellensmum]

NannyL and re the sterilising bit, but i think you are probably right and every one else is wrong.

Codjane - how do you clean a babies teeth anyway, im sure my dentist will bollock me when i take mine.

edam - dd loves humous, curry, cherry tomatos and OLIVES! went to party for a three year old and all that was on offer was chicken nuggets and chips with those bloody awful snowball cakes, now i hate the wholefood brigade but what was this mother on!!!!!!! my dd turned her nose up (strangely proud emoticon)

Fiofio - i said i wouldnt have a routine, DD imposed it herself

i do like babymusic, so does DD, find the other mums a bit pushy though.

DEFINATELY do NOT hold with CC! one parenting fad i think should fade out

[codJane]

i liekd groups


made me less depressed

[codJane]

( wiht ds1) -was mad as ahateter ofr a few months

[lucyellensmum]

WTF is wrong with telling your child is is being naughty? How else are you oging to say this is not acceptable behaviour?? well, i guess you could say - this is not acceptable behaviour?

DD loves the nightgarden, she watches tv but prefers the radio and man, can she dance, no really, the girls got soul