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My 6yo wants to marry me

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RaubahnsLeftArm · 16/02/2019 12:30

Lately my almost 6 year old keeps talking about marriage and keeps asking me to marry him. I have no idea where this is coming from, I’m not married and the subject is never talked about at home. He says he hasn’t learned about it at school, but just started thinking about it in his room randomly .

Is this normal? I’ve tried googling about it but it’s just bring up... weird results. I don’t have family and none of my friends have kids, so I’ve no one to talk to about it.

I find it really uncomfortable and weird, my dp thinks it’s cute that he wants to marry his mummy. I tend to just change the subject.

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Mammabear31 · 16/02/2019 12:33

Not weird, my nearly 6 year old tells me all the time that hes going to marry me. This week apparently he is going to "valentine me". Its cute, they are innocent at this age.

Have you had a conversation with him about what marriage is, and why people try married etc.? The concept of love can be confusing for little minds.

CryptoFascist · 16/02/2019 12:33

My son has wanted to marry me since he was 3, to him it's what people do when they love each other. There's nothing sinister in it! I just tell him I love him but you're not allowed to marry your mummy.

SexNotJenga · 16/02/2019 12:34

I asked my mum to marry me when I was little. Mainly because I asked what marry meant and got told "it's what you do when you love someone very much".

Just tell him you love him very much but mummies and little boys don't marry each other. He'll cope.

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Reccy2018 · 16/02/2019 12:34

I used to say I'd marry my dad when I was about the same age. Dont over think it, it's fine and he'll grow out of it. Keep the memory for when he is a moody teenager.

iklboo · 16/02/2019 12:34

Its normal. I wanted to marry my dad, DH wanted to marry him mum, DS wanted to marry me.

tomhazard · 16/02/2019 12:34

He's only 6! They don't really understand what marriage is. He just means he loves you, and he knows that married people love each other so it makes sense to him.
My DD is 6 and says she wants to marry her brother. She just means she loves him. I cannot see why you would worry about this in a 6 year old.

OnoAnotherNC · 16/02/2019 12:34

My 3 year old dd wants to marry me. This is normal no?

Wolfiefan · 16/02/2019 12:35

Mine said the same. It’s child speak for I love you and I want you about for ever. It’s lovely.
Smile and move on.

mellongoose · 16/02/2019 12:35

My dd constantly wants to marry dh. I have to sing 'here comes the bride and conduct the ceremony '. She makes sure she has a pretend veil, flowers and rings at the ready.

It would never occur to me that this was weird, so try not to worry op.

mellongoose · 16/02/2019 12:36

She's 4yo btw

tattooq · 16/02/2019 12:36

He just loves you and has come across the concept that marriage=love but obviously hasn't made the distinction between romantic and platonic love. He's six, it's not weird.

Frogsdinner · 16/02/2019 12:37

My ds insisted that he wanted to marry his brother

Frogsdinner · 16/02/2019 12:38

He was 6 at the time aldo

sunshineandshowers21 · 16/02/2019 12:38

my four year old wanted to marry me, and then when i told him that mummies can’t marry their little boys, he decided he’d marry his auntie instead!

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 16/02/2019 12:39

Are you vey young, OP? It’s such an often trotted out phrase but I’m struggling to think why you think that’s odd, it’s what children say. My DD when she was you ger she wanted to marry me. Now she’s 8 she insist she’ll always live with me

NicksWife08 · 16/02/2019 12:41

My step nephew cried when my brother married his mum, he thought they were all getting married to each other and sad that he wasn't married to them. He was 6 at the time.

My son wants to marry me, and DH wanted to marry his mum. Its perfectly normal

colditz · 16/02/2019 12:42

Entirely normal, promise you will get married to him when he's a grown up and stop angsting. 6 year olds aren't sexually aware. He just means he wants to live with you and seep in your bed and not get bossed about. It's the 6 year old's dream.

GertrudeCB · 16/02/2019 12:43

When my ds was 5 he told my best friend that he was going to marry her and take her to Paris .

Dontcarewhatimdoing · 16/02/2019 12:45

My DS wanted to marry me at that age, as everyone else has said, totally normal. I always told him you aren't allowed to marry your Mum,but I'd always be his Mum and that is even better. He seemed happy enough with that.

BadHairDyeDay · 16/02/2019 12:47

I'd be more worried if he was 26 tbh

3out · 16/02/2019 12:49

My son was very annoyed when I said I couldn’t marry him. I said it was because I was already married to his dad. I think his real question wasn’t ‘will you marry me’ but ‘can I live with you forever and you provide snacks’.
My daughter was angry when I explained she can’t marry her cousin.
She then found a classmate to marry, but when I explained she can’t get married until she’s 16 she was furious (5). She demanded to know why not, I explained it was the law. She asked who makes the laws and set about writing to them to let them know how furious she was at them and they need to change the law immediately 😂😂

Zofloramummy · 16/02/2019 12:50

My dd used to say this a lot to me. Now she just wants us to live together forever. She also has a plan that she will got to work and I will do the housework and look after her baby!

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 16/02/2019 13:12

Completely normal! Now he just says he'll never leave home. With the cost of living I'm worried that one might be true!

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RaubahnsLeftArm · 16/02/2019 13:13

drink I’m 29. I dunno why I think it’s weird, maybe because I was never close with my family, pretty much got left to my own devices since I was 4 or so.

Glad to hear it’s normal though, thank you :D I struggle to know what’s typical with kids and what isn’t

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RaubahnsLeftArm · 16/02/2019 13:17

Just for the record, I never felt there was anything sinister about it :)

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