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My 6yo wants to marry me

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RaubahnsLeftArm · 16/02/2019 12:30

Lately my almost 6 year old keeps talking about marriage and keeps asking me to marry him. I have no idea where this is coming from, I’m not married and the subject is never talked about at home. He says he hasn’t learned about it at school, but just started thinking about it in his room randomly .

Is this normal? I’ve tried googling about it but it’s just bring up... weird results. I don’t have family and none of my friends have kids, so I’ve no one to talk to about it.

I find it really uncomfortable and weird, my dp thinks it’s cute that he wants to marry his mummy. I tend to just change the subject.

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elQuintoConyo · 16/02/2019 13:20

DS wanted to marry me. Now at 7yo he wants to live with me forever - not in the same town, or next door, but the same house. It is cute but soooooo not going to happen!

I'm sorry you don't have a positive memories to refer back to, your childhood sounds very lonely

newyearnewwhat · 16/02/2019 13:27

When my little brother was a similar age he often said he was going to marry my mum. I once asked how he'd do it due to my Dad being around and his response was 'I'll just kill Dad first' For context my Dad was a wonderful father
30 years later db is happily married to someone who isn't my Mum and my Dad is alive and well!
Does that help op?

ArmchairTraveller · 16/02/2019 13:33

Mine settled for being told, I wouldn’t marry him, but he could live with me for ever if he wanted to. I’m a primary teacher, it’s fairly common to want to marry your parent. Not weird, unless you join in the fantasy.

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MadameJosephine · 16/02/2019 13:52

Definitely normal. My 6 yo DD was delighted when she heard that 2 women could get married because that meant she could marry me when she grows up

MilesJuppIsMyBitch · 16/02/2019 14:17

I used to say that I'd marry them when they were sixteen if they still wanted to. (Reminded DS of that the other day, who just made a yuck face & put his headphones in).

It's just a way of them making sure they can always stay with you, I think.

n0ne · 16/02/2019 14:28

Perfectly normal - my 6yo DD wanted to marry DH, then me, and yesterday it was her baby sister. She has no idea what marriage actually means - if we play-act it it seems to involve dancing round in a circle

Shinyletsbebadguys · 16/02/2019 14:33

Yup normal ds1 wants to marry me and dp (I suspect one of us is for snacks and food and the other is for showing how to play Minecraft) which is somewhat complex as technically I'm still married to his father (obviously before the po faced comment I did not mention to him)

It's just them figuring out words and different concepts there is nothing in it

A month ago he wanted to marry his brother...last week he tried to convince me to make his brother live in the garden ...children are a tad fickle on these things (not me though I'm always in favour because I control the straws that turn normal milk intonchocolate milk....Magic )

VimFuego101 · 16/02/2019 14:35

DS says this all the time (he's 7). I think he just can't picture a time when he'll want to move out or live with someone else.

foggyuplands · 16/02/2019 14:41

Totally normal. My DS wanted to marry me briefly before deciding he would marry his twin and they would have a DC. He cried when told that a, he couldn't get pregnant and b, you couldn't marry his sister. It passes, age 10 he wouldn't want a bar of either!

Sandsnake · 16/02/2019 14:44

Normal! 3yo DS is adamant that he’s going to marry Daddy. Apparently they will love together without me, but I will be allowed to visit them sometimes.

Sandsnake · 16/02/2019 14:45

*live, not love

pilates · 16/02/2019 14:47

Yes my son used to say the same and I used to say it to my dad.

ohlittlepea · 16/02/2019 14:48

yup totally normal..my dd wants to marry me at the moment, I tell her I love her hugely but that mummies and children cant get married. I hope to get a clip of her saying it one day to play when shes 13 and hates me entirely 😁

m0therofdragons · 16/02/2019 14:53

My 7 year old wants to marry daddy but her twin sister wants a man with muscles and tattoos who can fight

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 16/02/2019 15:04

awwws, OP, you must be a brilliant mum yourself iglf your DS wants to marry you

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RaubahnsLeftArm · 16/02/2019 16:10

LOL “I’ll kill dad first”, that’s the sort of thing my DS would come out with.

Thanks for the responses and kind words, and not judging me too much (that I know of :D)

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explodingkitten · 16/02/2019 16:12

Awwww I like that phase. It's so cute. It's not sexual or creepy, they just say it if they really like you. Marriage is a very abstract concept for them. People who love each other should get married and stay together for always (ideally), so he loves you and wants you in his life for always.

Solasum · 16/02/2019 16:15

My 5yo says he is going to live with me forever. It makes me a bit sad thinking how few are the years he will really want to do this. Sob

aliceandkids77 · 16/02/2019 17:23

hi doll. I used to think this was weird when my 3 yo bubs told my brother she wanted to marry him....honestly this is normal. toddlers don't understand what marriage really is, he just wants to spend his life with you ! if you think about it, its cute haha. xx

SandunesAndRainclouds · 16/02/2019 17:26

My 6yo DD wants to marry me too. She’s going to have 2 children and we are going to live together forever and ever. I’m never going to get old and always cook her dinners and make her clothes clean.

Enjoy it while it lasts!

Newadventure · 17/02/2019 17:10

I once gave my sister's best friend a valentines day card when I was about 9.. I really liked her (she was cool, kind and awesome to me at the time) I just thought valentines day was about/for people you loved, obviously being 9 years old I didn't understand the romantic connection.
Id say the same thing is going on with your ds. He loves you the most and doesn't understand about romantic feelings of marriage etc yet,
Its quite sweet actually.

Newadventure · 17/02/2019 17:11

curiositykilledthekat22 · 17/02/2019 17:18

One of my twins says he wants to marry me, he believes that’s what people do when they love eachother. I think it’s cute, there’s definitely nothing sinister in it at all

Roomba · 17/02/2019 17:22

My six year old wants to marry me too. He cried heartbroken when I explained he couldn't. So he decided he would marry his older brother instead Finally he has settled in marrying his best mate, but he's still annoyed he can't marry me. Its very, very normal at this age.

AliceLiddel · 17/02/2019 17:22

my DS used to want to marry me. Hes bigger now and doesnt :(. He sometimes talks about where he will live and what he will do when hes bigger and It makes my heart hurt. Enjoy it while it lasts!

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