i wont let my daughters get their ears pierced but i did just dye my 4 year olds hair

[dyingchildshair]

am not a troll.

but am worried about other peoples reactions.

she is 4.

used a shader/toner thing that last 3 washes, so will be gone almost by nursery on monday.

if you know who i am then [shush]

dyingchildshair!!! i wouldnt do it, but i wouldnt have told the people on here. Get ready to be attacked from all angles!!

aloha, i have reported it already myself, you are right. pitchforks. yes.

i guess , IMO, if my DD wanted me to dye her hair at 4, I;d say no, because some things are for grown ups

if children start experiencing adult things earlier and earlier, including our own preoccupation with our appearances, what will they expect in the future?

4 is too young for hair dye....IMO, let children be children

yes did test on her skin first.

I think part of parenting is to know when to say no and back that "no" with a reason, and to know the difference between adult and child. There are certain things adults do that children should not do, and it is important for them to learn that there are things they should not even attempt. Be it dyeing hair, smoking, lighting a candle, riding a motorbike, drinking wine. If children think they can do everything adults do, we are on a very slippery slope indeed.

what lulu said.

"smoking, lighting a candle, riding a motorbike, drinking wine."

All of these are potentially harmful. Is tinting hair?

Well it is only a rinse out one, My ds insists on having fake tattoos on holiday, so its not disimilar to this I suppose.

I doubt I would dye my daughters hair if I had adaughter- but hey- she is your child and as long as you are not applying peroxide to her!!

You are mad though to start a thread about it!!!

Thanks for changing name, I've read the thread now

One question to all those saying this is wrong (not offering my own opinion) - how many let their kids have red hair for Comic Relief?

I think I know who you are .

I don't think it's the end of the world in the greater scheme of things.

I probably wouldn't have been arsed though, but then again, I'm a lazy sort.

What's the point of this thread?

Who cares?

There is a mum at school who did her (dd) child's hair with Sun-in ''because she's a bit mousey''.

a) it will feck up her hair
b) all children are beautful - or at least should be made to believe they are beautiful
c) what kind of a message is this giving our children, paticularly our daughters?

Now, I dyed my hair when I was older - actually from blonde to chilli red and then to more natural red shades. I did get treated differently. If I did something daft, no-one immediately said ''oh, I see you're a natural blonde then, etc etc''. Though people did tend to assume I must have a fiery temper. (actually, I do anyway )

The point of this being, I was old enough to decide for myself what I liked and didn't like about my appearance and how far I was prepared to change things.

I'm not judging you for doing it DMCH - just explaining why I wouldn't dye my children's hair...

red spray for comic releif stains the scalp. took over a week to get that off. this didnt.

sun-in is bleach.

meandmyflyingmachine - tinting hair is not harmful, so maybe I should have included a few different examples such as using mascara, nailvarnish, have a perm done, sorry about that. What they do have in common is that I firmly believe this belongs in a more grown up world. I think it is wrong to teach children to beautify themselves from such early age, do it once, and it will soon become a habit, and this poor girl may grow up thinking her haircolour is not nice enough. Ten years from now she is not going to remember that she was begging for it, she may only remember her mum dyeing her hair for her and draw her own conclusions. Just my opinion.

deying - I was judging that Sun-in mum, not you . I was shocked by that!

she is not a poor girl at all.

It isn't the hair colour that would worry me per se, but rather that a child is feeling that she needs to change her appearence. Or for that matter, is actually that interested in what she looks like. I#d prefer kids to be interested in other things.

ack, it's not wanting to be an adult, it's wanting to copy mummy. My dd likes to put on my sparkly shoes, pick up my handbag and announce 'I'm goin' to de shops' (she's two). Should I snatch them away from her lest she grows up too soon?
She's also tried on my lipstick. Not to get a boyfriend (!) but to be like me.
It's not a big deal. But very silly to post on a boring rainy afternoon with everyone itching to grab a pitchfork.

Agree though that generally I wish we could keep our children children for longer...(I don't have a daughter but I'd try and put off the whole make up thing as long as possible If I did have a dd)

LOL at kids copying mummy. Mine will have to look grumpy all day and whinge about marking.

Smearing my lipstick all over her face doesn't make my two year old any older, I promise you. Any more than her wearing my shoes or carrying my handbag does. It's just playing.

but you can put the handbag down, take off the sparkle shoes..you have to wash the dye out over time

Mine was really grumpy and shouty today. Just like mummy!

can i get mine to do the housework?

i guess they dont see me doing that.