4 yo wasted everything i bring in thr house

[billiefox92]

Okay im going to go mad. My daughter wastes everything. From my make up to tooth paste even food and drink items. She literally just empties them out and walks away! Ive had enough 😭

Move her into your bed OP, I'm a single parent and my 3 yo sleeps next to me, it's actually quite nice.

Some posts were rude but a lot were concerned about a small child being unsupervised and doing what look like attention seeking behaviours.

What do others with your condition do, are there really no solutions to waking up? it is potentially dangerous

Are you blaming her for your illness ?

Why the fuck is everyone piling in on the op ?!?! She has a disability - not brought on by herself and she is NOT trying to blame her daughter for it. Some nasty bastards on here today

1. Put everything precious to you behind a locked door.

2. Move her into your room and shut her in with you. She will have to wake you to get up.

3. Remember that for her, ANY attention is better than the back of your sleeping head. She will do ANYTHING for eye contact. If the first time she gets any sort of reaction out of you is when she trashes something, that's what she will continue to do.

How do you manage to get your child to nursery on time if you can't wake up to an alarm op? And how do you know she's only been awake for half an hour before you wake?

I'd be very concerned about not being able to wake to an alarm. What if there was a fire alarm or carbon monoxide alarm?

Why do you let her! She should be supervised, and is old enough to understand NO

30 minutes for a four year old to be alone, with an adult that cannot be woken upstairs, is a serious, serious problem.

If you cannot physically wake up with an alarm due to your condition then you need to be proactive in stopping your 4 year old bei g awake while you are asleep.
Either have her sleep with you or you sleep in her room and shut/lock the bedroom door so she can’t get out until you are awake. Maybe a grow clock so she knows to only wake you at a set time and not before. You really can’t leave a young child on her own while you are in such a deep sleep that an alarm doesn’t reliably wake you.

In terms of the emptying things out, it could be because
-she’s bored
-she’s seeking/craving attention
-she enjoys a ‘reaction’ from you when you find the mess
-she hasn’t got effective boundaries/consequences in place
-she’s got SN/sensory seeking behaviour
-she’s angry/stressed/upset about something else going on in her life and this is her way of trying to communicate to you that she’s worried/unhappy

Once you can work out the reason for the behaviour, it will be easier to manage/change it.

Put a stair gate across her bedroom doorway, keep things you don't want her to get out of your reach. I don't think you're a bad mum but what you have described is bad and needs a solution. Tell social services you're not coping if it's as bad as you say it is. I know that isn't ideal but it's better than endangering your child.

I think most 4 year olds can easily get over a stair gate can't they? And if not, isn't that akin to locking your child in her room? I think that would be rather cruel for a child who is seemingly feeling neglected enough as it is. I agree with others who have suggested letting the child sleep with her mum,offering the wee girl some security and her mum more piece of mind.

4 is massively old enough to know better and respect boundaries.
I have an intelligent & bright 5yo, and a 3yo who is developmentally delayed.
My 3yo still understands the word no, and actions and consequences.

Time for the OP to pull on her big girl pants and deal with her shit to be honest. You’re a mother now, and how you’re so passive about your child being left unsupervised while you have an extra half an hour lie in? Get a grip, fibromyalgia is a hard condition to live with but thousands of people have it, and get up and go to work or get up with their child. If you can’t be bothered then you need to contact SS and ask for help

My 4 year old can open/ close our stair-gates. In my opinion all you can do is find a solutions that stops her from being left unsupervised. Whether that is sleeping in the same bed, having her watching tv/ iPad in bed while you doze, or you getting up when she gets up. I have a 4 year old and even though she quite well behaved they don't think the same as us, what seems like a good idea to them can really not be.

Fabaunt I completely agree with you. Fibro is difficult but you have to help yourself. I can't take meds as I'm hype sensitive to them and they make me very tired so I just have to carry on. Along with the vitamins I take I also do regular yoga. This helps my muscles and bones from hurting so much. A few of fibro sufferers lie in a pit of self pity but a lot of us just carry on. At the end of the day I'm happy it's nothing more serious as I was checked for MS and MN. And even though some days I really fucking ache along with all the other symptoms I consider myself extremely lucky and try and live my life to the best of my ability. I run two businesses, a home and as I mentioned 2 children under 5. You can do it with a "can do" attitude. A lot of fibromyalgia is psychosomatic. If you think you feel shit you'll feel like shit.