How do I protect my DCs from XDH's negativity?? Spent some time with him and kids today and was shocked at how everything he said to the children was pokey/mean/negative...he just had nothing nice to say. It's something I know about him but I guess time apart gave me fresh eyes. I have spoken to him about it many times. But it's still really bad. What can I do? He is destroying our children's self esteem.