Alphamummies - how many do you know personally?

[Anna8888]

For the sake of this thread, I'll define alphamummy with a pretty loose definition.

• works full-time and earns over £100 K
• married with husband working full-time and earning over £100 K
• at least two children who have got as far as secondary school without any hiccups
• no career breaks, divorces

How many women do you know personally (school friend, university friend, colleague, family member, neighbour) who have been doing the alphamummy thing for at least 11 years?

and the marriage

and only one child

dinosaur - I'm not remotely het up .

I'm just genuinely interested in the economic/political implications of the two breadwinner model... probably quite a few people think that's sad and I read the Economist too much...

Thanks Witch! I know what I am now! Was worried about all these definitions and how none of them seemed to fit me! I am a guilty mummy!

but I am definitely an alpha mummy - dominant in my pack (of me and DS)

The majority of my female friends work full time. But noone earn 100 K, mostly because they live and work in Milan, where that kind of salary doesn't really "exist". And noone of my male friends has a salary of 100 k per year. But again, Italy is different. So, in order to be able to afford a decent lifestyle, both adult members of the family need to work. It also happens that, despite life being hectic, the majority of my female friends like their job, and are also raising lovely children.

I am an Omegamummy ..

at Kewcumber

How about an epsilon mummy?

Is there one of those?

You can be it, expat. Obviously it would have to be an expat variant mummy.

Anna, why read the economist? Tis deadly dull.

Dino - glad we're clear Have to go now, stepson is desperate to get on computer.

I thought being an alphamummy was all about being a competitive mummy and had nothing to do with whether you work or not.

Anyway, I don't know anybody who fits those criteria even though I live in an affluent area in the southeast. I don't know that many people who earn more than 100K to be honest.

Quattrocento - that's what my father says . I'm totally addicted and I've passed it to my mother and he complains...

I subscribe to FT, Economist and 4 x Vogue (UK, US, France, Italy). Just love them all.

Quattrocento - so glad someone else finds the Economist dull, the Financial Times is pretty shit too (and I'm an accountant) only use it for share prices and exchange rates, don;t know why they bother putting news articles in it so people have to pretend to read it.

Italian vogue is mindnumbingly boring though!

Quatro, to me:

Yummymummy: is young-ish, fit, slim (size 10, 1 month after giving birth), well dressed, wears makeup, spends money on haircuts, has a cleaner, Bugaboo/ Jane pushchairs

Slummymummy: not interested in appearance or ironed clothes, no makeup, fairly filthy house, probably a McClaren or something second hand

When it comes to actual parenting style, WOHM/ SAHM etc. you could be in either camp.

(I am a slummy btw)

Now I do know of some people who fit that definition in the OP BUT they atre not what I would call alpha mummies. To me an alpha mummy is completely devoted to ensuring her child is at every club and event, very competitive, etc. And the people I know in the definition bracket are not the latter.

However the ones I know who are the uber competitive mummy are not the ones in the £100k bracket either.

I don't know any. I lived in London and didn't know any either, now live in Cambridge and still don't know any. I don't even know of any and we live in an affluent area.

so I am an almostalphaslummymummy?

According to the Alpha Mummy blog (created by the Times) which spawned this term, an Alpha Mummies are:

"mums who work, used to work, or want to go back to work one day (as if looking after children isn't work enough)."

So work is definitely part of being an AlphaMummy. I think the thing about being competitive evolved over the course of that blog, tbh, but I don't follow it.

Dunno why you have to earn more than £100k to be an Alphamummy. Or have a husband that does the same. Think Anna added that.

I hate boxes, no matter how hard I try I can't fit into one at all.

I'm a bit of everything, I think.

Hmmm.....

the term alphamummy has been out and about long before the Times used it to name their blog (and I still think it's a cringeworthy name for a blog)

Was it Fox? Sorry bout misinformation.

agree with hula.