Where did they all go?

[secondbaby2]

Hi all,
I’m really looking forward to meeting my second baby.
I’ve posted before about how to manage visitors so this might seem a bit of an odd post.
I have a really lovely group of friends and I am the first in this group to have babies. I must say that in the first two weeks or so with my first baby they were really lovely and really helped out by bringing dinners over and looking after baby while I had a nap.
After the first two or so weeks though they all seemed to just disappear.
I knew they had their own lives to get on with so I understand but I felt really lonely after this and felt I couldn’t ask them for help anymore.
I’m a bit nervous because soon I’ll have two children to juggle. My first is only 2 years old. Did anyone else feel that there was a big rush to help in the first two or so weeks but then everybody seemed to disappear?

Your routine is now completely different to theirs. They'll be doing exactly what they did before you had your baby OP.

I know exactly what you mean though. My first DD was heralded like the Messiah had come back...streams of gifts and visitors.

Poor DD2 barely got a visit from my Mum!

It's life. You have to move on....

Sorry to be blunt OP, but why are you expecting them to help?! I think you will feel happier when you adjust your expectations to a more realistic view- that they may pop round and make a cup of tea whilst they are visiting, but its not their responsibility to help with your children or cook etc.