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How to explain to 7yo that Santa needs her to contribute to her present?

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av99 · 23/11/2018 16:30

Our 7yo has asked for a musical instrument for Christmas to replace the one she has, which she has now outgrown. She has lessons, practises hard, and we think this is a good idea.

The thing is that it will cost £300 (we've researched it, and this is the best option musically), and our budget would only be £100 for a main present from Father Christmas. However, she has managed to save £100 of her own from generous relatives over the years, and we could also sell the instrument she already has after Christmas, perhaps for £100 too, leaving "Santa" with just £100 to pay. Perfect!

But she thinks that she can just ask Father Christmas for the new instrument as he can afford anything, and keep her £100 for herself. We want to keep the magic of Santa alive, but how do we explain that sometimes, for very expensive presents, Father Christmas welcomes some financial help, as he has lots of children to buy for? And how do we explain how we get the money to him? We know that this isn't the worst problem in the world, and we're lucky to be able to afford a nice present at all, but has anyone else come across this, and how did they manage to solve it please? (Her birthday isn't until September, so we can't wait till then.)

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WellErrr · 23/11/2018 16:33

You can't.

Is there another way you can buy the instrument?

MrDonut · 23/11/2018 16:36

Can you get one second hand?

Teenytinyvoice · 23/11/2018 16:36

Get a token present from Santa, and you buy the instrument with a contribution from her.

It’s ok for Santa to have rules - no animals for example. Is there a sibling so you can cite fairness to them?

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daisydalrymple · 23/11/2018 16:37

I showed my dc my payslip once and pointed out the NI bit. I said I have to send some money every month to Northern Iceland to contribute towards their gifts. (I think they’d asked why some children don’t get gifts off santa when we were putting a couple of gifts in a local collection box, for the food bank to distribute).

1sttimeDD · 23/11/2018 16:37

You can't ask a child to contribute to their own Christmas gift! It would no longer be a gift!

Isadora2007 · 23/11/2018 16:37

Can’t santa leave money?

ADastardlyThing · 23/11/2018 16:38

Not helpful but this is why we don't do big presents from santa. No way am I working my arse off to pay for what they want only for an imaginary fat guy to take the credit.

I don't think there is anyway you can do this without spoiling the magic as you say.

RatRolyPoly · 23/11/2018 16:39

Can't you say that Santa can't get proper musical instruments because he only has a licence for toys, but he's happy to make a deal because he knows how much she wants it; and if she really wants it he can use his magic to turn her savings into just enough money to get it? Or she can keep saving for the instrument and he can get her some other presents instead. Then she can choose what "santa magic" she wants for Christmas.

InDubiousBattle · 23/11/2018 16:41

You can't do that, not without giving up on santa.

IncomingCannonFire · 23/11/2018 16:44

Save up and get it for her birthday instead.

blueskiesandforests · 23/11/2018 16:45

This is why father Christmas only does stocking presents, elves cant make technology, and other presents are from individual people...

If she thinks she can ask for anything in the world you've dug yourself a hole you can't dig out of and it could have been a lot worse - lucky she's never asked for a pony, or a huge wide-screen TV covering one wall if her bedroom...

You could tell her her Santa can't afford anything, she's misunderstood and last year wasn't really old enough to understand how much things cost, but santa has to be fair to all the children and if he buys her a £300 present two children will get nothing... He only has £100 to spend on each child...

You could just tell her santa only buys small presents and bigger things are really from relatives.

However its a slippery slope of ever more elaborate lies.

LittleDoritt · 23/11/2018 16:46

The NI thing is genius!

Carpetglasssofa · 23/11/2018 16:47

Pay in instalments?

4nonblondes · 23/11/2018 16:47

Jesus H Christ. Just tell her that she can't ask Father Christmas for musical instruments.
She's 7 and has 100 quid and you want to spend that on buying her a musical instrument?

TeenTimesTwo · 23/11/2018 16:47

This is why we also only did stockings from Santa and big presents from family.
But that's no help now.

blueskiesandforests · 23/11/2018 16:47

Actually the best idea is probably that santa gives her £100

Orlande · 23/11/2018 16:48

Something else from Santa and the instrument from you. Elves only make toys.

ShatnersBassoon · 23/11/2018 16:51

I think it's too adult an arrangement for a young child's Christmas present. Making 'deals', selling things and dipping into her own savings to get it would remove all the fun.

Does she have relatives like grandparents or aunties and uncles that might be happy to contribute to the instrument?

BeeMyBaby · 23/11/2018 16:51

I agree with PP, santa should just give stocking fillers but the parent buys the main present so she needs to contribute if she wants it. It will make life easier in future years expectation wise and will also mean that there is less comparison with other children with regards to what santa got them. My dcs just got £1 toys plus a stuffed toy from santa and proper presents from other people.

Nicpem1982 · 23/11/2018 16:56

I dont think its fair to ask her to contribute to her Christmas present.

I would look for second hand if possible or wait and save for a birthday etc

Santa brings stockings in our house too all other gifts are from people

Also think the NI thing is awesome!

PristineCondition · 23/11/2018 16:57

It's not a gift if she's paying for it

NoArmaniNoPunani · 23/11/2018 16:59

Santa is just the delivery service in my house, DS knows I buy the presents

Trampire · 23/11/2018 17:02

At this time of the year, relatives and people always ask what they can get for x.

Can you explain about this instrument and get into a family syndicate?

My ds wants some expensive Lego. My mum, sister and neices are joining up to get it.

Rachelover40 · 23/11/2018 17:03

Is there any way you can tell your seven year old that Father Christmas does not exist? Seven is a bit old to still be believing in him.

SmokeAndBone · 23/11/2018 17:07

Ooooh, rachel
Hope you've got a tin hat

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