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Anybody feel like they are just stuck at home all day every day?

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mariinaa · 08/10/2018 08:11

I had my daughter 8 months ago at 20 yo. I have given up work as me and my OH can’t afford childcare and our family isn’t available to take care of our baby. Plus I wanted to spend time with my daughter and not dump her on everybody, it’s important for us to have a bond. However my OH is always working unsociable hours and I am always alone, my friends are always at work and so are my family. Every day feels exactly the same and sometimes it gets really difficult:/

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GinIsIn · 08/10/2018 08:13

Go out. Every day, go out. Playgroup, children’s centre, soft play. Anything just make sure you go out!

Rubyslippers7780 · 08/10/2018 08:18

I second pp. Get out. Go for a walk with the pram. Parent and toddler groups, local library / book bug / rhyme time. There will be other parents who feel exactly the same as you very near. You will not like all of them..but it's a great routine. Stops you getting so lonely and isolated. It is important to see others.

lornathewizzard · 08/10/2018 09:22

I third PPs! Get out the house. Playgroups, music groups, the park for a walk. It's hard I know

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Caterina99 · 08/10/2018 16:30

Yes it’s boring! You have to get out and meet people!

wowbutter · 08/10/2018 16:33

Universal credit will pay for some of your childcare.
Get a job, part time maybe, for yourself. Then on your days off, sign up for classes, your local children's centre should run free groups.

Clarebell81 · 08/10/2018 17:50

Hello it is so difficult being a sahm...I'm in your boat but living in the Netherlands also with no family...apparently there's an app called mummysocial...tinder for mums I guess?? Maybe have a look at that and see who else is in your area that meet up during the day.
.Good luck

dreamyflower · 08/10/2018 18:18

I've recently given up my job to look after my ds and I would recommend groups, messy play, baby and bump groups. Loads of them are free or a couple of pounds. I don't drive so was very worried about being a SAHM but we've managed to get into a routine. We go to a group in the morning then lunch then nap, quiet activity which I set up during nap then a walk or park visit. We knew no-one a month ago but I'm now making friends.

PoisonousSmurf · 08/10/2018 18:20

Go out and try things. It's difficult for the first six months. But it does get better xx

Conseulabananahammock · 08/10/2018 18:21

Yep. Feel like a fucking hermit some days. My youngest (nearly 2)is autistic and we recently discovered pretty low functioning. He's becoming more and more difficult to handle by the day. Sometimes it's just easier to stay indoors. Don't feel like I really speak to adults anymore. It's a hard one

Seniorschoolmum · 08/10/2018 18:27

Find a sports centre with a crèche.

Are you in a city? I used to go to tv & radio studios if they wanted a real audience for recording.
Look online for art exhibitions and markets. Get yourself a really good picnic bag and join the national trust. Always take some spare food to share so it you meet another mum, you can be hospitable.
I even went to a court and listened to a criminal trial once. It was really interesting and ds slept right through.

Seniorschoolmum · 08/10/2018 18:30

Conseul That’s really hard. . I have a friend who has an autistic dd and she takes her on canal boat trips during the day because it’s calm & slow and gives them something interesting to look at

Conseulabananahammock · 08/10/2018 18:33

Ooh sounds like a good idea. It is hard but I'm hoping it gets easier. My 4 and 6 year old are also at lovely ages😂 so everything just seems like hard work right now.

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mariinaa · 27/05/2019 06:39

Baby flutters?

For the past few days, I’ve been feeling flutters and kicks in my abdomen, at first I brushed it off but yesterday I felt and saw my stomach jumping around like there was a baby inside 😂 I have a 16 month old daughter so I know what it feels like, and it’s definitely not trapped wind or gas because I can tell the difference. I notice it mostly when I’m laying down resting. I thought I’d do a little test and drank juice, about 10 ish minutes later my stomach was moving again 🙈 My partner and I haven’t been using any contraception until I got the copper coil a month ago. All pregnancy tests are negative but surely if I was pregnant they would have noticed while putting the coil in? Unless I was like 6 -8 weeks at the time which would mean I would be 10-12 weeks now. I have heard 2nd time round you notice flutters quickly as you can tell what it feels like. Not sure whether I should go to the doctors or not.

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Spam88 · 27/05/2019 06:52

Honestly a couple of months ago I'd have sworn, over the period of a few days, that there was a baby in me kicking. So much so that I did a pregnancy test despite the chances of me being pregnant being almost zero.

There's no chance you'd feel the baby move at 10-12 weeks, so you'd have to be much further along. Would be very odd if all your tests were giving you false negatives.

I'd probably leave it a few days and then see your GP for a blood test if you still think you might be pregnant. That is unless having the copper coil can cause dangerous complications (I know nothing about the coil sorry).

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